Q&A for How to Be a Popular Girl

You'll never know if you don't try! Try to identify the potential popular girls from day one and start talking to them. It can't hurt to try, and you won't already have any kind of reputation since you're new there.

Look at how the girls treat each other, or how they treat other people who try to hang out with them. If they act mean, they're probably not pleasant people to be with, even to each other. Find a different group of friends instead.

You cannot force people to like you. However, you can work on being more social, kind, and a better listener. If, at the end of the day, these girls still do not like you, work on strengthening the friendships you have. You can be popular in the sense you have a lot of close friends without necessarily being part of the popular click.

You decide what you're comfortable doing, not them. You can still talk to them, but don't let them tell you what to do.

Apologize and admit that you made a mistake. If they don't accept you back, try calling your closest friend. You might be able to hang out just with the two of you, and gradually earn your way back to the others.

If everyone is hanging out in cliques, try to make friends with people sitting next to you in class, or pick a group that looks friendly. Think of a conversation topic you can all talk about, like something that happened at school.

Stay away from anyone who bullies you. Let an adult know it's happening (and keep talking to adults until one takes it seriously). By the way, popular bullies often bully each other just as much as the people around them. Trying to fit in with them is not worth it.

You cannot change your physical appearance when it comes to things like height. However, personality goes a long way. Strive to be fun, kind, and outgoing. If you have a great personality, people will focus on that far more than they'll focus on your looks.

I'm sure you've heard this before, but don't compare yourself to other people. It's pointless. Everyone has a different body type and not everyone can be thin. That's just the way it is. Be a healthy person. Instead of thinking about being skinny, try being athletic. Build muscle. Eat right. Don't look at the numbers on the scale, and appreciate your body for what it CAN do rather than feeling lousy about what it can't or won't do.

You should not do anything to become popular that you are genuinely uncomfortable with. If it is against your religion to show your hair, you're better off refraining from changing that aspect of yourself. Work on socializing more and your personality over changing your looks.

We have an article on exactly that subject.

Then she wasn't a very good friend to begin with. Anyone who would tell you to ditch your other friends is not a nice person (unless your other friends are harming you in some way). Stick with the people that treat you well and you'll be fine.

If it's really bad, I suggest going to a teacher, counselor, principal, etc. If you don't want to do this, go up to your "friends" and confront them about it. Don't tell them how you figured it out, just say that you know what they said and that you are not okay with it. If they continue talking about you after that, you should find some new friends.

If you want to be popular and/or have friends, you need to push yourself out of your comfort zone. Most people do not naturally find it easy to approach others and start up a conversation, but it's really the only way. Once you've done it a few times, you'll find it a lot less scary.

A great way to become popular from the start is to walk in with confidence, walk with your head high and smile. Make sure your clothes are clean and fashionable and fit you well.

You don't want to be around those kids. If they're cruel to others, don't devote a second of your time towards them. Popular or not, hanging around with mean people is a waste of time and will actively make you unhappy. Popularity isn't like in the movies: outside of their clique, every other person will often make their own judgments on whether they like you. Just focus on being nice to people and pleasant to be around - you'll prove yourself to be likable just by being you.

Of course not. It’s just something popular boys and girls tend to do. However, if it appears that you’re good at a sport, you may gain some friends who happen to also be in a popular clique.

Take care of your skin. For eyebrows, use an old toothbrush and warm water. For bags under your eyes, get a piece of ice and rub it on them. If you like, you could use lip balm instead of lipstick.

Try to back off just a bit, but don't disappear completely. Keep talking to her occasionally, but not every chance you get. Playing "hard to get" can make someone want to be your friend even more. But don't overthink it to the point where you're driving yourself crazy.

Seriously, don’t. Take it from my experience - ask yourself, do you have fun with your current friends?Are they ever mean to you? I had popular friends and they were always mean and kept telling me I’m nothing without them. I put up with that for 5 years, but now I have friends that are nice and I'm so glad. Don't ditch your friends for popularity. If you're bored with your friends, try doing some different activities!

There's some good advice in wikiHow article Overcome Shyness .

Tell them you want to spend some time with some of your other friends, and reassure your old friends that you aren't abandoning them.

Make yourself known as a nice person who talks to everybody. Try to smile, participate and chat a lot, and people will pay more attention to you.

Ask yourself why you want to be popular. If your current friends make you happy, and you like them, you'll be sad without them. Anyone else who would judge you based on the company you keep isn't really worth trying so hard to impress.

Don't do it. Tell them that your health is important to you and you're not going to put it at risk by doing something dumb like smoking. If they continue to pressure you, walk away and/or tell an adult.

Don’t change yourself just for popularity. Besides, not every skinny person is popular, and not every popular person is skinny. Don't worry about your weight.

You should do whatever you want to do. Different people are good at different things, have different passions, etc. Your popularity (or lack thereof) shouldn't determine what you do with your life.

You should try to be the only popular kid in your class. Be friendly to the other students, have a good attitude, and you will be well liked.

Make another popular group. If people can't accept you for who you are, they're not worth hanging out with.

Just wear them as often as you were wearing them before. Don't overthink it. She might have just been trying to talk to you. If you think that's the case, try and compliment something she has next time you see her.