Q&A for How to Buy a Christmas Present for Your Female Crush

Something hand made that she can carry around with her, such as a beaded bracelet. Girls that age also love charming guys. Just be a prince, mixed in with your very own personality.

Sure, girls love it when a guy does things without strings attached. Just because she doesn't like you now, doesn't mean she never will. At the very least, she will consider you a good friend.

Maybe. If you do get her a gift, make sure it is not at all romantic or overly sentimental because she may think you are going for the "rebound". Do something small, perhaps even humorous.

Do something nice, but not over the top. If you are shy, secretly put it on her desk, or have someone you trust put it there for you.

Make sure it is not something too personal or romantic. Something related to her interests could be good, like if you know she likes a certain TV show or has a certain hobby.

If you are ready to show your feelings, then a stuffed animal would be good. If not, you still can, just make it more of a friend thing, and try not to make it romantic.

Take a risk and tell her how you feel. Ask how she feels about you. There's really no way to move forward except by being direct.

You're kind of in a tough situation, to be honest. If she has a boyfriend, don't try to break up the relationship. If they break up, you can try to introduce yourself as a potential partner. But other than that, if you really want to, get her something simple like a baseball cap so it's not like you're intruding in the relationship. Think of it as if you were getting a present for a friend.

Maybe a nice new scarf, or something handmade.

I would get a small stuffed animal, a cute ornament, or a bunch of candy canes tied in a bow. I would also include a note and/or a card wishing her Happy Holidays!

You could try to find out why, and from there you might be able to become her friend.

Your best bet would be to either ask her, or just buy something you know she likes, either related to a hobby or interest of hers.

You should probably get to know her better if you want to buy her a present. That being said, there are some generic gifts you could buy her, such as flowers, chocolate, jewelry, or gift cards.

You should wrap something he'd like up, and tape a letter reading "from a secret admirer" or something like that.

It's a great idea if she loves to read and doesn't already have it on her bookshelf.

Get her something that shares both of your interests, like a football, or a cool shirt that has her favorite team on it.

You could maybe ask to speak to her alone and just give her something like a card, some perfume, or some chocolates. I'm sure she will love whatever you decide to give her.

Get her a bottle of perfume. This is a gesture that will be appreciated. And then add a note "from a close-by secret admirer."

Chocolate is a nice gift for your crush. Try to find out what sort of chocolate they like though, in case they can't have dairy, nuts or other allergens. Try asking a friend of your crush's to find out what is a good choice of chocolate. Wrap it nicely and include a card with some sweet words.

James Avery jewelry is pretty expensive, and as a 14 year old it isn't really necessary. If she is just a crush, it will most likely overwhelm her as well and make her not want to date you. Stick with something simple and inexpensive, or even just give the gift of your time.

You could give her a blue bag or t-shirt with a cat print on it. Or, find a stuffed toy cat and put a big blue bow around its neck. If she has a cat, you could give her a blue collar for the cat.

This is not over the top, it's very thoughtful and kind of you. However, don't spend too much; a small box of chocolates and a gift card of small value will do since she's still a crush and not your girlfriend yet. Also, if you give something worth a lot, she might feel embarrassed or like you're trying to buy her love, so take care to avoid such connotations.

Yes, definitely get her the hoodie and maybe put some candy and a card in one of the pockets. That's a good choice for the situation you're both currently in.

Think about what she likes. Jewlery and gift cards are always nice. A lovely card telling her how you feel about her would be appreciated too! Or food. Just make sure she doesn't have any allergies first.

Do not waste her time. Depending on the context, this either means (a) there is a mismatch between us that would need to be rectified; or (b) she is not open to boys, either at the moment, or permanently. You either ask her - politely and respectfully - if she can clarify what she meant, with every intent of trying to fulfill the needs she is expressing, or move on. Be prepared to just move on.

There is little you can do to make such a gift more special! You have made something very personal and unique. If you could turn back time (or redo it), you can choose a very personal topic to paint. You can pick a frame that reflects her style and/or the style of where you think it would likely be hung/displayed. You can write a card explaining the significance of the painting, or a poem regarding your feelings. You can make the event of giving the painting special (e.g. big party or an intimate talk). You can complement the gift with all the things that surround the gift giving, but you cannot make a painting you made more special than it already is.

In an ideal world, we wouldn't be able to rate your physical attractiveness, for we would be appreciated for our features. In the real world, it should not be addressed: there's nothing you can do about the differences between you and drawing attention to it makes it worse. The only thing you can do is focus on being a good partner, and earning her affection that way. Given that and how true romance it about paying attention, get her a gift that reflects WHY you like her. Is she smart? Give her a pretty diary to collect all those important thoughts. Sporty? You can never have too many sports hair ties or cute sports tape. Make it personal.

You need a gift that looks generic but actually reflects something you know about her, something that shows she has your attention. For example, if you knew she always eats Smarties when she is stressed, put some in a jar painted with "Break In Case of Emergency"; candy isn't personal to most, but you've noticed hers. If she read a story to the class about loving the sweet peas (flower) in her grandmother's garden growing up, buy her a sweet pea-scented shampoo so she can relive it (because teenage girls "love bath products"). Think of something personal, then pick a matching generic gift so others do not look past the generics.

A stationery set - pretty paper and envelopes - with a card that says something like "for when you have something to say, but not the ability to speak with someone."

There are only two choices of a proper gift, neither of which depend on her age: (1) you get a person a thoughtful gift that reflects who she is (her likes, lifestyle, etc); or (2) you give a person a gift that reflects yourself, with something you would like to share with the person. For example, on two different occasions I gave my boyfriend a book of blank sheet music (because we were talking about his attempts at songwriting) then later a copy of my favourite book (because it showed something about how I view the world). No one can tell you a gift unless they know both of you, because it needs to reflect the two of you.