Q&A for How to Catch a Cheating Partner

Focus on personal growth. Take time to be yourself, spend time with supportive friends, engage in activities like meditation or yoga to promote relaxation and self-awareness, and breathe deeply to release tension. Reflect on the relationship to understand what you can learn from it, identifying areas for personal improvement moving forward.

Randomly stay awake or wake up and catch him in the act.

This is a sticky and probably very painful issue. Unfortunately, if your wife has been cheating on you, but doesn't feel sorry about it, it might be time to question whether your marriage is valid.

This does seem suspicious, so I would insist on sitting down and talking this out with him. If possible, you may even want to speak with the female friend.

I don't think you should jump to conclusions -- there are many reasons he could be spending so much time online. I would start by having an open, honest discussion with him about his internet usage and how you're becoming concerned with the amount of time he spends online. Encourage him to find other hobbies that don't involve a computer. If he's still spending excessive amounts of time online, you may want to quickly look through the browser history to see if he's visiting any suspicious sites.

Maybe a female coworker (or even a relative) hugged him, or maybe his shirt got mixed in with something of yours. Pick up the shirt when you're doing laundry or something, and just say, "Your shirt smells weird." Don't act suspicious, just observe him. If he explains, great. If he acts really defensive, then he might be cheating.

The methods in the article should work. However, if you suspect you're being cheated on, you may be better off having an honest conversation about the state of your marriage instead of trying to "catch" him.

You need to talk to him, and tell him to be honest or it won't work. If he isn't making you happy, you shouldn't be with him.

Set an alarm to wake you a few hours after you go to bed. If he isn't there, you'll know.

Ask him. He'll say "no" either way, but listen to his voice. Does it seem nervous, does it tremble, does he keep pausing, or does he remain silent? If yes then, he might, or he could be uncomfortable with the question. It feels awful to be asked such a thing, but sometimes it's necessary.

It's possible, but not a definite. Discuss your concerns with him and remember to trust and respect.

This in itself is not enough for me to know whether she's cheating. But try to make sex enjoyable for both of you. Think about the things she likes, and if you like to do those things, then do them more often. However, it is also at least 50% her own responsibility to enjoy sex. People sometimes tend to rely on the other person to give them pleasure, but it's mostly our own responsibility to take what we like from our partner. If she's no longer doing that, then she may indeed have lost interest in you. I would say a good conversation is needed.

If she locks her phone, she may just want privacy. If you are still concerned, talk to her about it. Most people want to use lock security, so don't jump to conclusions!

The longer you're away from a spouse, the easier it is for the two of you to develop your own routines and to find it hard to stay connected about daily minutiae. It becomes easier to only discuss the big things that happened rather than natter on about petty, everyday stuff. So that can be one possibility behind the reduced communications. However, if you really sense something might be happening, try a surprise visit one weekend to see him. If he's up to something, you might be able to smoke it out by asking why he wasn't there when you arrived, where he has been and what he's really up to. Just be careful, because he might simply be doing ordinary things to keep himself from being bored without you.

No, it is not cheating if your boyfriend is in love with a fictional character. However if you are not comfortable with this, you should have an open and honest talk with him where you can communicate your feelings and work together to create a solution.

Regardless of whether or not your husband is cheating, you should not stay with someone that hits you. I strongly recommend you leave him (and take your kids with you).

Did she know beforehand it would hurt you? Even if it means nothing to her, she should have remembered that doing this would hurt you. If she didn't think of that, or did think of it but didn't want to stop anyway, she's not the right girl for you. When you're with someone, you simply can't treat their feelings so carelessly. "It didn't mean anything" is not a good explanation, because it did, to you. Also, your cousin is not a very nice person either. You'll always be related, but that doesn't mean you have to be anything other than polite to him.

Be careful for confirmation bias: you think he's cheating, so you look for things that might confirm your theory, but ignore everything else that proves he's not, he senses you're being cold, slowly loses interest, and finds someone else, and you'll go "aha! see!". When we get worried and insecure, we need to talk to our partners for reassurance, hugs, kisses and for them to say "silly, come here and I'll hug you lots". Now, if they don't want to do that from time to time, regardless of whether they're cheating, they might not be the right person for you. Talk to him.