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  • Question
    Will it work out well if I take the girl home on the first date?
    Stefanie Safran
    Dating Coach & Matchmaker
    Stefanie Safran is a Dating Coach, Matchmaker, and the Owner of Stef in the City, a Matchmaking and Dating Coaching business focused on an honest and hands on approach. Stefanie labels herself as “Chicago's Introductionista®” as she has over 15 years of experience in the matchmaking industry. Her work has been featured on various media such as: ABC7, NBC5, CBS2, WGN, FOX, The Chicago Tribune, The Chicago Sun Times, The HuffPost, and Refinery29. She holds a MBA in marketing and branding from Loyola University in addition to her BA from the University of Wisconsin-Madison.
    Dating Coach & Matchmaker
    Expert Answer
    Your date may not last for a year if you take the girl home on the first date. Statistics show that less than ten percent of the partners who have sex within three dates continue dating for a year.
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    How can I choose an appropriate location for a date?
    Stefanie Safran
    Dating Coach & Matchmaker
    Stefanie Safran is a Dating Coach, Matchmaker, and the Owner of Stef in the City, a Matchmaking and Dating Coaching business focused on an honest and hands on approach. Stefanie labels herself as “Chicago's Introductionista®” as she has over 15 years of experience in the matchmaking industry. Her work has been featured on various media such as: ABC7, NBC5, CBS2, WGN, FOX, The Chicago Tribune, The Chicago Sun Times, The HuffPost, and Refinery29. She holds a MBA in marketing and branding from Loyola University in addition to her BA from the University of Wisconsin-Madison.
    Dating Coach & Matchmaker
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    Think of a public space where you can be at your best. Then suggest it to your partner and ask her if it is suitable for her.
  • Question
    Can I kiss a girl on my first date?
    Stefanie Safran
    Dating Coach & Matchmaker
    Stefanie Safran is a Dating Coach, Matchmaker, and the Owner of Stef in the City, a Matchmaking and Dating Coaching business focused on an honest and hands on approach. Stefanie labels herself as “Chicago's Introductionista®” as she has over 15 years of experience in the matchmaking industry. Her work has been featured on various media such as: ABC7, NBC5, CBS2, WGN, FOX, The Chicago Tribune, The Chicago Sun Times, The HuffPost, and Refinery29. She holds a MBA in marketing and branding from Loyola University in addition to her BA from the University of Wisconsin-Madison.
    Dating Coach & Matchmaker
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    You should wait for at least three dates before kissing a girl. You need to have more information about each other before kissing.
  • Question
    How do I cuddle with him on a bus?
    Community Answer
    Just lay your head on his chest and hold hands.
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    Can you cuddle for no reason? Like, just for fun?
    Community Answer
    Sure, as long as the other person wants to do it as well.
  • Question
    My boyfriend hates cuddling, but I crave it. What should I do?
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    Let him know how important cuddling is to you and why you crave it so much. You could also let him know about other types of "cuddling" that might satisfy your need for physical touch. For example, you could lay your head on his lap or just lay your legs across his. Different cuddling positions have different amounts of physical contact, so he can find a position that's more comfortable for him.
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    Why would a lesbian want to cuddle with a straight man?
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    Cuddling is not an inherently sexual activity. Plenty of people like to cuddle with their friends regardless of gender or sexual orientation.
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    Is it normal to get an erection while cuddling?
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    Yes, it is completely normal to get an erection while cuddling with someone else, especially if they are attractive to you. There's not really a good way to control this; you just have to get used to cuddling.
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    Why does one tap their fingers on another's body as if they're playing the piano? Does it mean they're anxious?
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    It might mean that they're playful, and are waiting for your acceptance, or trying to show you that they are. Or, it could mean they're in a position where they don't quite know what to do, it depends on how that person is performing the actions, and their mood.
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    Can I cuddle my best friend who is a girl if I am a boy?
    AdinaDonatella
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    Yes. What you're describing is a platonic relationship (a close friendship that is not romantic or sexual). If you want to cuddle with her, then you should ask and see if she's comfortable with it.
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    What do I do if I want to be the big spoon but I'm the shorter/smaller one?
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    Just go for it! You might suffocate a little bit since your face will likely be buried into the other person's back, but whatever. You could tilt your head back about 10 degrees so you can breathe while still enjoying the experience of being the big spoon.
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    Can I cuddle with my best friend (who's also a girl) and have it not be awkward?
    Community Answer
    Absolutely! Platonic friendship can even be made stronger by physical contact. You'll want to first make sure your friend is okay with it, of course.
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    Is it okay to cuddle in public?
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    Cuddling in public is generally acceptable as long as it doesn't get too intimate. Too much intimacy in public might make people uncomfortable, which could make your cuddling less enjoyable to you.
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    Can I cuddle if I'm a virgin?
    Annah Scherman
    Community Answer
    Absolutely! Cuddling doesn't have to be related to sex at all. As long as the other person's okay with it, go ahead!
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    What are the cues that lead to cuddling?
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    If you're really comfortable with your partner and they're lying down looking at you, then just lie down next to them and cuddle.
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    What's the best way to cuddle while sitting and watching a movie?
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    Find the most comfortable spot for both of you that allows you to be able to watch the movie and be close to each other at the same time. Sitting side-by-side with legs overlapped can be comfortable and functional at the same time.
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    When I'm over my girlfriend's house, I like to cuddle, but I don't know how her mom would feel if we cuddled in front of her. How can I find out?
    Community Answer
    Ask your girlfriend. She knows her mom and will likely know what her mom will be okay with.
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    Is it good to play romantic or even sexual music while cuddling?
    Community Answer
    It can be good, because it makes things more romantic between you. Only do this with someone you are extremely comfortable with and most likely sexually involved with.
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    Is cuddling supposed to be sexy?
    Community Answer
    It doesn't necessarily have to be. It can if you set up the mood right and both agree (verbally or non-verbally) to it. It can also just be between two or more platonic friends.
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    Do you cuddle with or without clothes on?
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    Cuddling is usually done with clothes on, unless you're very intimate with your partner or you've established communication about naked cuddling beforehand.
  • Question
    She's younger than me, and she's still kind of shy. How do I start?
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    The obvious first step is to see if she if she's comfortable by gauging her reactions or even asking, "Is this okay?" It doesn't matter that she's younger, non-sexual cuddling is okay at any age. Just start by holding her hand or putting your arm around her.
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    What if I get an erection?
    Community Answer
    Try to ignore it; it's normal to get a boner during situations like that, but just try to be discrete about it.
  • Question
    How do I ask my boyfriend whether he wants to kiss?
    Community Answer
    It may be better to not ask him, but to lean in for it. Then just let him kiss you, and enjoy the moment.
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    Is it okay to spoon with best friends? We're both girls and straight, and we like being close to each other.
    Community Answer
    Yes, as long as you're both comfortable with it, that's totally fine!
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    Why does my boyfriend always want to cuddle with me in public?
    Community Answer
    Some people are just naturally very affectionate. It might also be that he wants to show others that you're "his" by being close to you in public. If this bothers you, you should talk to him about it.
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    Is it safe to cuddle with someone who has AIDS?
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    Yes. You can't get AIDS unless you mix body fluids with that person. There is no risk of infection from cuddling.
  • Question
    How do I cuddle someone when I'm 14? I want it to not be taken too far, but I want to show him I am cuddly. How do I do that?
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    At the age of 14, the more intimate cuddling positions, such as spooning, may not be appropriate, but you could try putting your head on his shoulder, or just sitting very close to him and holding his hand. If at any point things go too far, simply tell him you're uncomfortable and he should stop.
  • Question
    I just got asked out by my friend (a girl like me). Should I enforce cuddling right away, or wait until we are serious?
    Community Answer
    Whatever you guys are comfortable doing! When you're ready, ask her, "Can I have cuddles?" or, "I'd like to cuddle." If she's comfortable doing so, she'll welcome the opportunity. If not, she may not be comfortable with that yet and you'll have to give her time. There's nothing you can do to "enforce" cuddling - it's a mutual act of affection, not a requirement of any sort of relationship, no matter how serious.
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    What should I do if I want to cuddle romantically, but I'm not sure if they do?
    Community Answer
    Ask them! Put it out there subtly, but sincerely. Take note on how long you've been together and, using that, consider that your partner may not feel up to it (yet).
  • Question
    How can I get a guy to touch me?
    Community Answer
    Just ask him to do it.
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