Q&A for How to Hate a Person You Loved a Lot

Try to get rid of any material things that remind you of him. Stay positive, throw yourself into your work or studies, be successful. "Living well is the best revenge."

Just forget about him, if he hates you it's his problem. Distract yourself by living your life, hanging out with your friends, and working or studying hard. They say the best revenge is to live a good life, so focus on yourself and what makes you happy.

I am sorry that happened to you. I bet it hurt a lot. That being said, the best thing you can do is try to forgive them and keep yourself busy. It's easy to sit home and hate everything, and much harder to throw yourself into productive activities like an exercise class, a hobby, a club, etc., but you will find yourself much happier down the road. Try to be kind to yourself and those that hurt you.

Just treat the person as a friend - like nothing happened. Make him/her feel you're ignoring him/her. Make new friends and mingle with them. When you look at that person, try your level best to distract yourself by remembering something else that gives you pleasure.

Move away from any toxic relationship. It's his loss. There are so many other men that would see the good in you!

Be more careful about who you get into a relationship with. It's best to get to know someone well and make sure you're compatible with each other before you commit to anything. Focusing on friendships rather than romantic relationships for a while might be helpful. If someone is a good friend to you, they'll likely be a good romantic partner as well (if you two are interested in each other in that way).

You need to try to think about something else, and don't let your mind wander back to them. Find something else to distract you.

You have two problems here, and they're both really difficult. You shouldn't leave someone just because you're afraid of getting hurt. If you do this, it will become a pattern and you'll never be happy with anyone. Work on your confidence, because this is a self-esteem issue. Secondly, you need to put yourself out there and meet some people/gain some friends and also set some goals for yourself (through school, work, etc.) so that you have something going on in your life besides this relationship. The plus side is, when you find yourself meeting your goals, your self-esteem will improve. I'd also encourage you to talk to a mental health professional about these issues to try to get to the root of the problem.

You can try to talk to her to found out why she broke up with you to get closure. Try to move on and find someone else, there are other girls in this world. Find a girl to talk to, but remember you don't need to make a relationship right then and there, just let things happen naturally. If your ex broke up with you because she loves someone else, too bad for her it's her loss.

Focus on improving yourself, getting into a new hobby, improving your health, or increasing your knowledge of the world or a new topic. Even though it may seem difficult now, you’ll look back and be proud that you took steps to improve your well-being instead of focusing only on what could have been. Move forward, because we can’t change the past, but we can determine our futures.

Tell him straight out that you do not like his behavior, and he needs to change. Consider creating boundaries when he exhibits unwanted behaviors.

You just need to ignore her and focus your energy on your other friends, academics, and potential future relationships. If you can't stop seeing her, then you just have to force yourself to stop being distracted by her. It will take some time, so be patient with yourself.

Religion does not matter in love. If you really like him/her, it's your soul liking another soul. Souls do not consider religion, caste etc.

Acknowledge that maybe one of you has to work on yourself for a little bit, and that isn't necessarily a bad thing. If one's emotional distress is causing the other to hurt as well, one must consider that maybe time to work on oneself is needed before being able to give the other the love and attention they deserve. Focus on something else besides this relationships for a while. If it is meant to be, it will happen.

Just distance yourself from him as far as possible. If he notices the silence and it upsets him, good for you.

You just have to let go of the relationship because he does not value you. If he did value you he would not have left you for your best friend. Just have it at the back of your mind that you are better than your best friend that he left you because a better person is coming for you. You don't need to stress yourself during this period he broke up with you––live your to the fullest and have fun. Get yourself occupied with work, studies, outings and friends.

Be very direct with them that you only want friendship and are not interested in anything else. Give them one chance to show that they honor and respect your wishes and can be a true friend with nothing else in mind. If they go back to pressuring you with their sexual interest in you, end the connection once and for all.

Try letting her know that you've noticed that she seems upset with you and you value her friendship and want to know if you did something to upset her. If she isn't honest with you and continues to ignore and be mean to you, that shows she probably doesn't see you as a best friend. Look for new people to make friendly connections and friendships with people who like you back and who you can trust. It might make you feel better to try some new interests and hobbies to balance out your life and take the focus off your former crush.

When we like someone, it's hard to ignore our feelings. But since he has a girlfriend and interests in other people, it would be a waste of time and emotions to pursue a romance with him. Plus, if he already has a girlfriend, and might end up cheating on her with someone else, what kind of boyfriend would he make for you? Focus on your friendships with other people, interests, and hobbies and don't waste your time on him. If in the future he is single, then you might consider approaching him, but don't assume he will be available to you.

Move on, or talk. If someone breaks up repeatedly, and always comes back, they won't change. Talk to him about why, how, and find closure. If he truly loves you, he will understand that relationships need to be open, and built on trust. A relationship is two people, not one just starting whenever he wants.