Q&A for How to Know if Your Friend Is Jealous of You

Approach your friend in a respectful manner and tell her how you feel based on your perception. Try not to approach the conversation with pre-judgments or accusations. If she continues to put you down, she may not be the friend you need in your life. In a case such as this, I would then suggest go out and meet new people and develop healthier friendships.

Ask yourself if your friend is purposefully trying to make you jealous, or is she just excited about her achievements and wanting to share this information with you as friend. You may also want to ask yourself, why her vacations make you feel jealous. We all have the ability to create our own path in life by the choices that we make. If you feel that your life may be lacking in areas, and that you would like to see some of those positive achievements, start making changes and choices that will help guide you toward your desired goals.

It sounds like that both of you may need to re-evaluate what it means to be a friend and what expectations each of you have for the relationship you share. Your friend had every right to feel hurt if you purposefully acted against her wish. However, she would be equally at fault if she in turn retaliated against you just to hurt you. Try incorporating positive responsiveness when interacting with any friend you have. Reflect on the situation prior to responding. Think about how your actions or words will impact you, her, or others prior to speaking or behaving. Does it add to the good of the relationship, or does it add more frustration, hurt or anger?

Do the best you can to have a sit down conversation with your friend about your concerns. If she is a true friend, she will take what you have to say to heart and work with you to resolve any concerns you may have. If she keeps making you feel left out, rubbing it your face, and then lying about it, she may not be the friend you initially thought she was. If this is the case, it may be in your best interest to move on and bring in new friends who are appreciative of you and what you can bring to the relationship.