Choose a good time While there’s no “perfect moment” to tell him you love him, a quiet, low-stress moment is best. Avoid telling him after sex, while either of you are intoxicated, via text or phone, or during/after an argument. Choose a good location A quiet, private location is best. However, if there’s a special place that you two share, tell him you love him there. Examples: * The restaurant or cafe where you had your first date * The park where you met * During a low-key date * During a relaxing walk Keep it simple Avoid trying to make a grand romantic gesture when you tell him. Keep it simple and from the heart. Preface the statement with a conversation about your relationship, how happy he makes you, or special memories you cherish. Examples: “You make me feel so happy…” “I’ll never forget when you first came up to me, you were so sweet…” “This is the first relationship where I feel I can talk about anything…” Maintain open body language and facial expressions If you’re feeling nervous, time some time to ground yourself by closing your eyes and taking a deep breath. Then, when you’re ready, make eye contact, smile, and speak your truth. Feel free to hold his hand, give him a hug, or a simple kiss during and after you tell him. Examples: “Nathan, I want you to know that I’m in love with you.” “I feel so lucky to be with someone who appreciates my little quirks. I feel a deeper connection to you every day. I love you.” “I have a confession to make… I love you, Adam.” Make it clear you don’t demand that he say it back After telling him, pause, smile, and talk about something else. Avoid pressuring him or sounding like you need him to say it back. Examples: “... Just felt like I needed to get that off my chest.” “... Just thought you should know.” “... You don’t have to say anything back.” Listen to his response Actively listen to his response, allowing for any silence while he’s thinking of what to say. Examples: * Look him in the eye * Face him * Hold his hand * Just sit in silence (it may feel awkward and that’s okay!) Continue treating him the same no matter what Saying “I love you” is symbolic of a new step in your relationship. If he does not reciprocate, continue to treat him like a friend (or, depending on your relationship, a little more than a friend). If he does reciprocate, don’t feel pressure to say it every day.