Am I gay

03/31/25 7:08pm

so I've never really had attractions to anyone but when I saw this guy with his friends and I stared at him for a bit but when he looked at me I looked away and felt weird I wanted to smile and well its hard to explain but I couldn't stop thinking about him.

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Kelli Miller, LCSW, MSW
Psychotherapist

03/31/25 7:09pm

It's okay to be confused about your sexuality and it might take time to figure out how you feel. Sexuality is very fluid and some people are in a gray area—they may not feel 100% gay or 100% straight, and that's okay. Start by trying to get comfortable with the fact that there may not be a concrete answer. Then, give yourself permission to explore your feelings and attactions. You might fantasize about someone of the same gender, but not want to pursue it. Or, you might choose to pursue it and see how you feel in that situation. You may find that it’s not really for you, or you may find that it feels right. Either way is totally fine, and then you’ll have a little bit more clarity.

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Anonymous WikiWombat

04/03/25 5:56am

so is it bad if I don't like either gender or like what because some people call me a mistake or they call me gay but i'm Asexual.

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Anonymous WikiCapybara

04/08/25 10:03am

beeing ace is not weird and not a mistake ppl might be ace but are real ppl and how you feel has nothing to do with other ppl ace ppl might still fall in love and have a realationship and are still ace a lot of them are also gay you can fully be ace and gay or any other label

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