Sixu Chen
Life, Career, and Relationship Coach
Sixu Chen is a career and relationship coach, as well as an accomplished interior designer, based in Bellevue, Washington. She is the founder of SCcoaching Group, launched in 2020, and is a certified coach through the Life Purpose Institute. Sixu specializes in guiding young professionals and multi-talented individuals through transformative self-discovery journeys to design fulfilling career paths. She is the creator of the CONFIDENT Career Creation program, specifically designed to help creative minds find clarity, confidence, and direction in their professional lives. In her relationship coaching, Sixu focuses on strengthening communication skills to build deeper, more meaningful connections. She also fosters a community of growth-minded professionals by hosting Coach Connect, a weekly networking event on zoom that brings coaches together to collaborate, share, and support each other. Alongside her coaching work, Sixu channels her creativity into interior design, partnering with Beth Bloom Designs as an independent contractor. She earned her Bachelor of Arts in Interior Design from the California College of the Arts.
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My boyfriend is always moody
That sounds exhausting if you're constantly walking on eggshells. Does your boyfriend's moodiness affect you in a certain way? If it does, I’d encourage you to take care of yourself
. You cannot change your boyfriend or tell him to stop being a certain way. You just have to ask yourself this question: “Will I accept this? Do I want to change this, or can I just leave it?” Because essentially with any situation, there's only three options: accept it, change it, or leave it
. Which one are you willing to do?
What do I do if I have fallen back in love with my ex?
You can fall back in love with a person or never get over somebody, and there's nothing wrong with it. Friendship can change back to relationship
. That happened in my personal life. I was dating somebody, and it didn't work out, but we kept talking, and after you talk, talk, talk, you realize that you guys just want to get back together.
I would say don't judge yourself for that feeling . If something didn't work out before and you broke up, but your feelings are still there, embrace that feeling and see if there is any potential to get back together. If not, then let go. Otherwise, it's just pain. If you and your ex have no potentiality to have a future relationship, I would say stop being friends for a little bit until you don't have any feeling or any desire anymore, because a lot of time you just have that kind of one-sided intention of, “Oh, let's see if the other person is going to be interested in me again,” but it turns out they already shut that door. Then you end up with a second-time heartbreak.
I would say don't judge yourself for that feeling . If something didn't work out before and you broke up, but your feelings are still there, embrace that feeling and see if there is any potential to get back together. If not, then let go. Otherwise, it's just pain. If you and your ex have no potentiality to have a future relationship, I would say stop being friends for a little bit until you don't have any feeling or any desire anymore, because a lot of time you just have that kind of one-sided intention of, “Oh, let's see if the other person is going to be interested in me again,” but it turns out they already shut that door. Then you end up with a second-time heartbreak.
What can a man do to be more romantic?
Romance is different for different people. This is a key. You need to speak the other person's love language.
First of all, find out what their love language is, what makes them feel loved. Some people think they just copy the movies and create a big scene with candles, hearts, and flowers. That could appear romantic on screen, but in real life, it could be very overwhelming to somebody.
What I would say is, if you do anything that speaks to your partner's love language to show that they're appreciated, they're loved, that's romantic . One of the things that's romantic to me is my partner suddenly showing up at my door with food, with flowers, or even just a hug, just to surprise me. I think that's super romantic, but on the other hand, if I do that to him, he may feel offended.
What I would say is, if you do anything that speaks to your partner's love language to show that they're appreciated, they're loved, that's romantic . One of the things that's romantic to me is my partner suddenly showing up at my door with food, with flowers, or even just a hug, just to surprise me. I think that's super romantic, but on the other hand, if I do that to him, he may feel offended.
How do I apologize to my girlfriend?
Depends on what the apology is for. If you apologize because you cheated versus you apologize because you were late for a date, that's a whole different apology. To answer the question ‘how’, I’d say just be sincere
. If you are going to offer an apology, be sincere, however that means to you. I think your girlfriend will feel the sincerity of it.
Tips on how to ask for a raise? I'm nervous!
First of all, you have to know your company culture and how it gives raises. A lot of companies don't give a raise until your yearly review, or there is a particular timeline when it is appropriate for you to ask for a raise.
Second of all, I think it's important for you to really have your backbone to say you've done enough to earn a raise, rather than just want a raise and don't really have much supporting material to say why. To give an example, when I was asking for a raise at my previous design firm, I had supporting evidence - I was the one leading a team, and I found all the resources to help me complete the project. I took care of the project and had it smoothly completed, not only within the timeline but ahead of schedule. I definitely thought I deserved a raise. When they didn't give it to me, I spoke up and said, “I think I deserve a raise”.
And if they still will not comply, then you have two options: stay or leave. I want to encourage you to know your self-worth , and to know that if your employer doesn't value you and what you can offer, someone else will.
Second of all, I think it's important for you to really have your backbone to say you've done enough to earn a raise, rather than just want a raise and don't really have much supporting material to say why. To give an example, when I was asking for a raise at my previous design firm, I had supporting evidence - I was the one leading a team, and I found all the resources to help me complete the project. I took care of the project and had it smoothly completed, not only within the timeline but ahead of schedule. I definitely thought I deserved a raise. When they didn't give it to me, I spoke up and said, “I think I deserve a raise”.
And if they still will not comply, then you have two options: stay or leave. I want to encourage you to know your self-worth , and to know that if your employer doesn't value you and what you can offer, someone else will.
