Advice needed on dating a Capricorn man

WikiFawnDiver478
11/20/24 2:48pm
Just learned the guy that I've been seeing is a Capricorn and this is the first time I've ever dated one. I have no idea what to really expect from him so lay it all out for me. Give me the good, the bad, and the odd things to expect from him so I know what I'm getting into. I really like him, so any tips for making him stick around are a plus!
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Tara Divina
Vedic Astrologer
11/21/24 9:12am
There are so many other factors that I would consider aside from the fact that the person was a Capricorn, but they do have some common traits. They're going to be a little more practical as opposed to romantic and idealistic. They're going to value realness, authenticity, and directness, rather than overly-positive romantic gestures. He is going to potentially be ambitious, and care deeply about his career. So give him space to pursue his interests and ambitions, and also give him the patience to pursue them at his own pace. But to give him the time to move slowly and intentionally, in a structured way, is important. Help reinforce his capacities so that when he's experiencing self-doubt, you appear as a supportive force in his life and not expecting him to be something more.

On the negative side, they might be afraid of rejection. A Capricorn might be slower to make a move, like they'll take a little longer and plan it out a little more in advance instead of being spontaneous. A Capricorn would probably move from their head versus their heart, and they would have a lot of doubts about whether the person might like them back.
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Anonymous WikiCassowary
Anonymous WikiCassowary
01/12/25 11:46pm
So true. I left a text and voicemail and it’s been 5 days. Heard nothing.
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Anonymous WikiIbis
Anonymous WikiIbis
03/13/25 9:05am
if he's not responded in 5 days, maybe he missed the text/ voicemail or he's not the one..
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Anonymous WikiTiger
Anonymous WikiTiger
03/20/25 10:40pm
I dated a capricorn like that. He will break you if you don't run now. You see,he is interested but he will frustration your patience. They hardly have emotion especially when they have their mind set on their career or business. Then make you feel like you are the lazy one even if you are a millionaire. You will keep showing your love but he will only welcome it when it pleases him. You know what the earlier you run, if that the treatment you receive, the better for you. I know he would have really ignited your feelings and then put in efforts and all of a sudden, STOP. RUN!!!
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Haley Delgado
Astrologer
04/16/25 1:54am
Ah, the shadow and light of a Capricorn man!

The light aspect of a Capricorn man is that they're mature. They're usually providers. They don't mind doing hard things. If you ask them to help you with a task, like a big bill or something really scary, they're going to be able to hold it down for you. They're not afraid of hard work. They are just resilient, really determined people. If you're looking for somebody who most likely wants to be a provider, this would be a good fit. They are often the most traditional sign in terms of roles. They're also classy and can be a little bit introverted sometimes.

The shadows of a Capricorn man are that they might not always be around or remember the important dates because they're working so hard. They can also use work, productivity, and achievements as a form of escape. Sometimes, they can work hard, play harder. So Capricorns can have their vices, which aren't always bad. Capricorns can be a little serious and a little rigid. In this way, spontaneous, out-of-the-blue things can be harder for them.
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Capricorn men are known for taking it slow. How would you handle this?

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WikiFlamingoChaser192
11/23/24 2:07pm
My ex is a capricorn. He is very responsible and hardworking but he'd get lost in his work and sometimes didn't make time for me. I didn't feel like I was a priority in his life. At first, I tried to be a "good girlfriend" and support him but I realized that he should care about me too. I'm sure he's successful now but I need a man who can balance his work and his relationship.
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WikiDolphinDiver871
11/22/24 8:38pm
I think what my Capricorn man found attractive about me was my ambition and intelligence. I'm the kind of person who knows what she wants and works hard to get it. I have a successful career, am financially stable, and take care of myself. On our first few dates, we had many intellectually stimulating conversations. We're both well-read and articulate. We push each other to be the best versions of ourselves.
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Anonymous WikiLlama
Anonymous WikiLlama
01/19/25 3:29am
I have been with my Capricorn Soulmate for almost 2yrs. He takes weeks, then expects me to be there. Then writes emotion romantic and engaging letters saying he wants to spend the rest of his life with me. But the moment I get frustrated, he’s gone again and is so damn stubborn. Madly in love with this dark artist who lives deep in the woods. But he asks me to leave when there’s conflict and the only conflict is me saying, “You’re not gonna spend time with me?” He says all I have to do is ask, that I’m drama filled and demanding. He’s so sweet loving and sensitive. Doesn’t trust easily and sabatoges to stay safe in his cocoon. I’m exhausted, feels like BiPolar Syndrome dating a Capricorn.😞🥲🥹
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Anonymous WikiGopher
Anonymous WikiGopher
03/02/25 7:17pm
hey there, I can understand your frustration. I’m married to one December 27 five years now it wasn’t easy in the beginning. It was a two-year court ship. He would appear and disappear and reappear and it went on, but I have my own life to live. I’m busy I’m a writer. I’m a singer a performer a mother. I have a lot on my plate, but what I believe he loves most of all is my independence and my ambition and the fact that I don’t need reassurance every five minutes he may disappear cause I know he’s working. He’s a workaholic. Oh yes, he’ll work 12 1315 hours have two hours sleep and start all over again. I don’t know where he gets the energy. I love that about him so that doesn’t bother me and when he’s not working, he’s the most lovable he’s funny. He makes me laugh. He does everything to make me happy and see me happy. This is real love we’ve been through a lot ups and downs, but I would stand by him, and I think he loves that the most I never left his side even in the downtime hard times the rough times the crying times I was always steadfast🙏🙏 try not to let your emotions get the best of you preoccupy yourself with your own independence go out be with your girlfriends go shopping learn something different. Try a new hobby and then when he’s not there or not around, you won’t miss it so much and when he does come back, you have a lot to talk about. That’s just my opinion🥰
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Anonymous WikiTiger
Anonymous WikiTiger
03/20/25 10:43pm
FACTS
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Anonymous WikiSalamander
Anonymous WikiSalamander
03/20/25 1:41pm
I feel this
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Anonymous WikiBandicoot
Anonymous WikiBandicoot
03/05/25 3:08pm
hi there well I hope I can help. It was a four year relationship before marriage so I know him pretty good nine years into it now I hope you’re sitting down. It depends on if he was born in December or if he was born in January that makes a difference, but on a whole Capricorns, they are very controlling. They have to control everything you don’t tell them what to do. They tell you what they expect of you and what they need from you. They are very strong and super ambitious. They put ambition in their career before their love relationship, but if you’re an independent woman, and you have your own life and lifestyle, this will be no problem because you will be preoccupied with what you do every day to be concerned about how many times he doesn’t pop up on a text. He’ll text you. My husband is good with words. He is so loving and care and giving I will be trading for anything well because God brought him into my life. He’s very loving practical stubborn as hell, but he listens is important. You have to let them leave the way and just support him. That’s all you have your thing he has his thing then you find things together. Don’t tell him what to do. Don’t yell don’t scream the Capricorns hate drama so if you’re a drama queen it’s gonna sneak out and they are very perceptive analytical competitive vacant here and detect your moods before you even open your mouth. They just have that extra century perception. It’s built into them. They can tell when you’re lying. They can tell when you’re not telling me the truth, they keep telling me and he will keep it. He stores everything you say and do like data his stores in the back of his brain and if that situation comes up, he goes right back to that page that file and he can pull out all what you said he doesn’t forget anything but on a hole he’s the most giving caring, loving ambitious person to take care of you and spoil you to death once they see the truth for them. I hope this helps a little bit. Sorry it was so Long .❤️‍🩹
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Anonymous WikiCloud
Anonymous WikiCloud
12/03/24 5:00am
Take it slow as mentioned expect no rushing.
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Anonymous WikiKoala
Anonymous WikiKoala
01/08/25 9:05pm
Me too! It’s so confusing. He gets close and wants to talk all the time and then suddenly out of nowhere he is distant again.
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Anonymous WikiBadger
Anonymous WikiBadger
02/20/25 9:02am
yes my BF too. we been together 3months. he so romantic anytime everyday but sometimes he is gone no text. and when he dont like the way we complain him wven with bery soft way, he will turn back the table to us. trying to make situation different then telling that we are the one who make mistake. any idea how to win his heart and make him calm when discuss something serious?
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Anonymous WikiCloud
Anonymous WikiCloud
04/08/25 9:35pm
Capricorn men can be very hot and cold. If you have something serious you want to talk to him about, I'd wait until he's in a good mood if you can. Then, communicate with him in a direct but calm manner. He will appreciate the open communication.
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Anonymous WikiBandicoot
Anonymous WikiBandicoot
01/16/25 10:57am
Cancer newly dating a Cap man & so far all that I’ve read is spot on. I can get on board with the reserved, ambitious practicality, even the dominance and control, it’s a gentle control and I find it hot & secure. As a cancer I’m somewhat rightfully accused of being emotional. But the slightest misstep or mis said word on my part has him absolutely enraged and I react to that emotionally. I feel like any woman would though. The cycle goes, he refuses to talk about it to resolve it. He decides without me on what the problem must have been without my input, later tells me what it is, then determines the outcome while I have yet to utter a word. Help? I really love him, he’s a truly remarkable and amazing man outside of this cycle.
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WikiCaribouChaser366
01/18/25 8:03am
To Wikibandicoot - Oh you have to tell him - you want to work on that cycle, and tell him even tho you love him - relationships take work, mental and emotional as well as physical. And explain to him that your thoughts and feelings must be heard, considered and equally respected as his. Reiterate the word “work” - communication takes work and “we need to work on this better”.

So you lay out the issue, the problem, the goal - in logical order. That is how a lot of men need to hear it. Then work on the ‘how’ to improve that dynamic with constructive comments also emphasizing your thoughts on the subject matter - and talking through it together taking each other’s thoughts in is what counts.

Like if he says A and say “oh how could you say that and I don’t like that”.
That right there is not constructive… it gives him no direction regarding what you think is a better solution or what you’d like better and why you think that.

When you are not being proactively constructive - he takes it upon himself to take control and “solve” the problem without your input. Don’t be passive when he does that - be Proactive and interactive. Expect to be heard.

Aside from that - this thing with the slightest misstep or word from
You has him enraged - is WRONG. It is an ABUSIVE way to Control you. Stop enabling it and stand up for yourself.

His temper cannot intimidate you into silence. If that happens again - do NOT apologize for his fit. Simply tell him you do not like the way he reacts and talks to you in those moments and you need space for a few days. Let him know when he can communicate calmly and respectfully - you will listen, but then he needs to listen to you. Say goodnight - period.

Set that boundary - he will never respect you if you don’t.
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Anonymous WikiDesert
Anonymous WikiDesert
01/19/25 6:57pm
I'm married to a cap man and he has put me through a lot of emotional abuse by bringing me down to the point where I've lost confidence in myself and also plays the victim to make you look bad instead of them which is so wrong you can't play the victim if you committed the crime
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Anonymous WikiMongoose
Anonymous WikiMongoose
01/02/25 10:48am
Capricorns value family, honesty and down to earth. Show you are loyal, trustful and ready to have a family.
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Juan Carlos Peña
03/21/25 9:55pm
Dating a Capricorn can be an interesting journey! They're often ambitious, disciplined, and value stability in their relationships. If you want to get closer to him, show that you're reliable and patient—Capricorns take their time to trust and commit. They appreciate sincerity, so being upfront about your feelings is a plus. Just keep in mind that they can be very focused on their goals, so don’t take it personally if he seems a bit distant at times. Support his ambitions, and he’ll appreciate you even more. What has your experience been like so far?
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Anonymous WikiCaribou
Anonymous WikiCaribou
04/13/25 3:47pm
My boyfriend is a Capricorn and he literally acts up a lot. He doesn’t prioritize me, but he loves he he’s very much not emotionally. Right now wet going through a phase of silence. I just chose not to text him and he has refused to text me or call me. What do I do?
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Anonymous WikiChinchilla
Anonymous WikiChinchilla
04/16/25 3:38am
I need help. I'm a Pisces female and was chatting with an amazing Capricorn man I met through a dating app a little month ago. He was so attentive. We talked about everything. Talking all day everyday. Morning until night. He would text me asking me to tell him when I got home safe from work. I found him to be the sweetest man ever. Last Sunday, we met and went out on a date. The date was great! He was so attentive, asking me questions, we laughed, shared a kiss, he even kissed me on my forehead.

The day after the date was good. We were in contact sending funny memes to one another. Cut to last Tuesday. I noticed him being more withdrawn and short with his texts. He still would text me back in a timely manner but his responses were shorter and he stopped asking me to check in with him when I got home from work. Wednesday rolls around. Same thing. Short with responses. He told me he was busy with work. He didn't text me back until almost 9:30pm coming home late from work. Thursday rolls around. Still short with texts and tells me that he is having a rough week. I told him that if he needs to take some time to decompress to do so and also if he doesn't feel like socializing to take a break and text me when he wants. He responded back and said thank you for understanding with a smiley and kissey face. I know I said this because I wanted to respect his space but now it's been 5 days and I haven't heard from him. I'm so worried he has lost interest in me and that he's gone forever. Am I doomed? Do I give it more time? How can he go from being so loving and attentive to simply feeling like he's icing me out? HELP!
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Anonymous WikiRiver
Anonymous WikiRiver
12/11/24 3:05am
What sign are you? Compatability sign
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Anonymous WikiTiger
Anonymous WikiTiger
01/17/25 10:44pm
Gemini
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Anonymous WikiLynx
Anonymous WikiLynx
01/23/25 8:45am
My Capricorn is very compatible but he's not affectionate or talk about his feelings. We been seeing each other 6 months and live together. He does say, I love you and slowly opening up. You have to give it time.
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Anonymous WikiBandicoot
Anonymous WikiBandicoot
03/05/25 3:09pm
give him space and give him time conduct your life because you are an independent woman or independent person. Let him lead the way and ask him to help you. That’s what he loves the best he loves for you to ask him how you can do this and how you can do that can you help me with this? Can you help me with that? Explain this to me he’s brilliant his brain is an encyclopedia😀♥️
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Anonymous WikiAxolotl
Anonymous WikiAxolotl
01/06/25 10:16am
Up and down...good then bad....ghosting..nice... coldness...distant behavior for
6yrs ...how do I detach and get my heart and myself out of his toxicity?
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Anonymous WikiDesert
Anonymous WikiDesert
01/12/25 3:42am
I apologize that we are like this. I know what my flaws are and as a Capricorn man, I am everything you typed. But when you have me, you have me forever. It takes time and most people simply don't have time to give
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Anonymous WikiAxolotl
Anonymous WikiAxolotl
01/14/25 5:05pm
This is just it.. I could have typed the same thing. No msgs/contact for 2 days and out of the blue he sends a couple of pictures no text.. I dunno if I should just move on. But when we are together it simply is the best
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Anonymous WikiBadger
Anonymous WikiBadger
01/07/25 7:36am
Word for word, I could’ve typed this myself. May I ask your zodiac?
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Anonymous WikiToad
Anonymous WikiToad
01/10/25 6:25pm
Why does he ask for money
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Anonymous WikiDesert
Anonymous WikiDesert
01/12/25 3:45am
Ask for money?! No real Capricorn man will ask you for money. I would rather die trying to make a way then to ask anyone for anything! No way in the world. Zodiac aside, a man is supposed to be the one. Not #2 or #3, #1.....tell him to get himself together and be the man he is supposed to be.
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