Who/what was your gay awakening?

WikiPandaDancer490
07/04/24 8:02am
What was the moment things clicked for you and you realized you were 💅? Who was it that made you feel feelings? I'm so curious to hear people's stories!
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Anonymous WikiDolphin
Anonymous WikiDolphin
11/03/24 11:45pm
First it was a girl and then Billie Eilish
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Anonymous WikiTapir
Anonymous WikiTapir
03/04/25 3:08pm
I used to watch those videos of girls, and thought they were hot, but I still identified as straight back then. I also was always interested in BL manga, so when I discovered GL manga I had this feeling I wanted the same thing, but I grew up in a homophobic family so I always told myself I had to be straight. when I was in 7th grade, I had a Huge crush on a masculine girl, but I spent a long time convincing myself that I only liked her because she was masculine, making me still straight. I was so naive lol. It took me a whole year to finally accept that I was not straight, and I now identify as pansexual/asexual. still hiding from most of my friends and all family tho, as pretty much everyone in my life is a homophobic Christian convinced that lgtbq is a sin. :(
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Anonymous WikiIbis
Anonymous WikiIbis
03/09/25 6:19pm
Don't let your family put you down. Stick up for yourself. I don't experience this since my parents are gay and I'm not out but stay strong, we are here for you!
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Toad_with_a_tophat
02/03/25 11:11pm
you say that like Billie Eilish isn't a girl lol
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BlinkLoverLiliSlay13
02/20/25 1:46am
Why does that matter
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Anonymous WikiBandicoot
Anonymous WikiBandicoot
12/08/24 10:03am
SLAY
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Anonymous WikiPanda
Anonymous WikiPanda
12/09/24 9:13pm
Yes! She’s the reason I’m here
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BlinkLoverLiliSlay13
12/10/24 11:56pm
SLAYYYYYYYYYYYY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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Anonymous WikiFawn
Anonymous WikiFawn
03/04/25 6:19pm
I LOVE BILLIE OMG
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Anonymous WikiGiraffe
Anonymous WikiGiraffe
03/14/25 7:20am
Same!! I love her!!!
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Anonymous WikiCave
Anonymous WikiCave
11/10/24 6:01am
I realised that I was jealous of my gay friends on sleepovers when they would cuddle together lol. Then I realised guys were ICKY and girls were slay :3
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WikiTigerWatcher291
11/24/24 8:19pm
Yas queen
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WikiCloudWhisperer256
07/07/24 5:56pm
My gay awakening was/is my best friend. We're still bffs and I haven't told her about my feelings. Every day when we hang out at school I feel like I'm hiding something from her by not telling her that I like her but I also don't want to ruin our friendship by telling her and making things weird between us. I really don't know what to do because I don't want to lose her :(
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Mysauceis_awesome
11/30/24 5:09pm
if you're really best friends, and it turns out she doesn't like you back, then nothing should change long term!! It might be a little weird for like a week, but you should really tell her
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WikiMongooseGlider966
12/21/24 9:26pm
Don't be scared. My current gf was/is my best friend and even if things don't work out, (knock on wood) she will stay by my side forever. If your friend leaves you, she is not a true friend. That goes for everyone here <3
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Anonymous WikiWombat
Anonymous WikiWombat
02/20/25 4:08am
TRUEEEE
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Anonymous WikiOwl
Anonymous WikiOwl
11/13/24 4:30pm
Mine is practically the exact same story :(
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wikiHow Expert
Rebecca Tenzer, MAT, MA, LCSW, CCTP, CGCS, CCATP, CCFP
Clinical Therapist & Adjunct Professor
03/21/25 5:21am
That’s such a tender and real feeling, and I’m really glad you shared it. It’s not easy carrying something so personal, especially when it involves someone you care about so deeply. You’re in this place where your heart feels full and vulnerable all at once — excited about how you feel, but scared of what it might change.

Here’s the thing: your feelings are valid. You don’t need to rush yourself into telling her before you’re ready — especially if the fear of losing the friendship feels too heavy right now. It’s okay to take your time figuring out what you want, and how you want to say it, if you decide to say it.

Some people do tell their best friends and it brings them closer, even if the feelings aren’t mutual. Others wait or never say anything and still keep a meaningful connection. It really depends on the friendship, and on how emotionally safe and accepting that relationship feels.

You could try asking yourself a few gentle questions:
• What would I hope to get out of telling her?
• Am I looking for clarity, closure, or just to stop hiding this part of myself?
• Is there a version of this where I can be honest while still protecting our friendship?

Sometimes sharing your identity without focusing solely on your feelings can be a softer way in — like coming out generally, if you haven’t yet — and seeing how she reacts to that kind of vulnerability.

You deserve love and honesty and connection, and it’s okay to not have all the answers right now. You’re doing your best, and that’s more than enough. Let’s do this!
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WikiEagleWhisperer310
11/30/24 10:08pm
I have the exact same problem. I would tell her if I were you, I would tell my crush/best friend if I had more confidence.
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Anonymous WikiCaribou
Anonymous WikiCaribou
11/09/24 12:39pm
tell her.
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Anonymous WikiChinchilla
Anonymous WikiChinchilla
11/12/24 9:39pm
Tell. Her. (I did that with my bestie and we’re still the best friends eva)
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Anonymous WikiBird
Anonymous WikiBird
11/22/24 9:52pm
Hi, I just wanted to say that I felt the exact same way. But when she figured out and, despite not having the same feelings for me, we were able to both come clean to each other and maintain our close friendship. I wish you luck, and no matter what, if your friend cares about you enough, everything will work out.
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Anonymous WikiWombat
Anonymous WikiWombat
11/22/24 10:43pm
Take some time to think and observe her. If you find out she might be queer, maybe it won't be so awkward when you ask her. And since you two are already in a relationship, it might be easier to observe her and ask her.
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Anonymous WikiValley
Anonymous WikiValley
12/30/24 12:09am
Had the same problem. I told my best friend that I’m gay. Sadly he is straight. I know it sounds weird now but I’m a bit sad right now. It’s just so difficult to be gay :(.
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Anonymous WikiBandicoot
Anonymous WikiBandicoot
01/06/25 11:44pm
SO REAL BRO but I love being gay <3 maybe someday I'll find someone
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Anonymous WikiBandicoot
Anonymous WikiBandicoot
01/07/25 12:08am
Just tell her, dude. Lol my best friend knew I had a crush on her before I even told her. I never did tell her. She seemed to not like that I liked her... But that's okay, I don't really see her anymore. You move on, yk? I would say, just tell her, because the worst that happens is she won't want to be friends with you anymore, which is unlikely. If your really good friends, your friendship should survive. And if it doesn't, you'll move on. You'll find other friends. Ig what I'm saying is it's better to take the risk.
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WikiMongooseGlider966
01/08/25 12:21am
You won't ruin anything
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Anonymous WikiEagle
Anonymous WikiEagle
02/04/25 12:51pm
omg same
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Anonymous WikiIbis
Anonymous WikiIbis
03/09/25 6:21pm
Stay strong. I feel the same way as you except my friend is gay! Do you know if she's gay? If she is try to ease into the conversation and if not idk.
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Anonymous WikiGiraffe
Anonymous WikiGiraffe
03/14/25 7:21am
Oh nooo… same.
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Anonymous WikiGibbon
Anonymous WikiGibbon
03/30/25 3:24am
Same, but she is straight and has a crush.
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Anonymous WikiValley
Anonymous WikiValley
03/31/25 7:52pm
Mine also was/is with my friend! Sixth grade science camp, she was complaining about how cold she was and asked me to huddle up with her. Then she grabbed my hand and laced her fingers with mine, and I realized in just a mind blown moment when I realized how much I liked that, and how cute she was, and just all around how much I liked her. Also SAME about not wanting to tell her!!! I'm also still kinda figuring this stuff out . . . everything I've heard goes against liking someone of the same gender as you but I can't help if my feelings wander past those rules . . . Then I also noticed a bunch of suspicious stuff that points towards her liking me, but she is also just a very affectionate person in general so i am still afraid she might just like me as a friend.
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WikiLlamaGlider700
07/04/24 4:08pm
My friends and I randomly watched Van Wilder back in high school (any national lampoon fans here?), which led to Ryan Reynolds being my first gay crush. I think it took me a while to know that I was gay because I'm attracted to people of all genders, so it was easier for me to "default" to liking girls and fitting in with the heteronormative "boys like girls" thing for most of my childhood.

It took a lot of soul searching and exploration for me to figure out my sexuality. At different points in my life, I've thought I was straight, gay, bi, and pan, and eventually I realized that trying to figure out the exact specific term wasn't working out for me. Queer is an umbrella term that feels most comfortable to me
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WikiDesertChaser692
11/24/24 3:08am
“Big ol queer mess” IS ANYONE ELSE A PJO FAN? 😭 Sorry I just had to say it, and it’s fine to go with queer, if it’s what comfortable then go with it! You don’t have to label yourself
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Anonymous WikiOwl
Anonymous WikiOwl
12/03/24 10:06pm
Pjo fan spotted in the wild? And yes, my gay awakening was def piper mclean
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WikiMongooseGlider966
12/21/24 9:22pm
Omg! Pjo is my fav series! Annabeth is fine. Percy is better. And Nico is my dream man!!!
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WikiMongooseGlider966
01/01/25 5:14am
And can we take a moment to recognize Will???


(I'm not a homewrecker, I fully ship Nico and Will<3
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Anonymous WikiLemming
Anonymous WikiLemming
01/12/25 8:05am
solangelo..... :) its a religion.
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Anonymous WikiAxolotl
Anonymous WikiAxolotl
12/30/24 6:09pm
Same here!!!
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Anonymous WikiWombat
Anonymous WikiWombat
02/20/25 4:07am
Someone start the Solangelo cult
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WikiMountainWhisperer170
12/26/24 6:31pm
SAME!!! I LOVE PIPER AND RAYNA!
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WikiMountainWhisperer170
01/07/25 8:41am
OMG SAMEE
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Anonymous WikiLynx
Anonymous WikiLynx
12/03/24 11:27pm
Ima PJO fan!
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Anonymous WikiValley
Anonymous WikiValley
12/16/24 2:17pm
OMG PJO FAN
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Anonymous WikiAxolotl
Anonymous WikiAxolotl
12/24/24 11:43am
Im a PJO fan too
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Anonymous WikiKoala
Anonymous WikiKoala
02/13/25 6:15pm
I love PJO!!!
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Anonymous WikiNarwhal
Anonymous WikiNarwhal
02/25/25 7:42pm
Yesss pjo fan in the wildd
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WikiFoxWatcher543
03/01/25 5:54am
IM A PJO FAN!!! but yeah u don't have to stick with a label some1 else assigns u. u don't even have to stick u give urself! so u could be bi or pan or gay or u could just be a big ole queer mess and figure it out 50 yrs from now!!! and yes my gay awakening was def piper McLean and reyna remirez-arillano and Mattie Westbrouk.
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Anonymous WikiBadger
Anonymous WikiBadger
03/31/25 8:00pm
OMG YESSS same hereeeeeeeeee
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Anonymous WikiLynx
Anonymous WikiLynx
03/05/25 3:15pm
I love PJO. (Heroes of Olympus is better) I had a huge crush on Piper McLean and Annabeth Chase
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Anonymous WikiPanda
Anonymous WikiPanda
03/13/25 11:21am
SAMEEEE BRO ME TOO
SOLANGELO IS AMAZING
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RondyThesbianLesbian
03/26/25 11:28am
I LOVE PJO OMG
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Anonymous WikiGopher
Anonymous WikiGopher
02/23/25 3:09am
I agree with you. I am attracted to people of all genders, and it is easy to play the part of heteronormative and pretend I just like boys, when in reality. it is much more than them. Queer works as a great umbrella term for that reason. I am queer: I like boys, I like girls, I like people. What else more is there to say?
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Anonymous WikiToad
Anonymous WikiToad
12/21/24 9:21pm
Omg, I love National Lampoon! Also, yeah Ryan is fine.
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Anonymous WikiMongoose
11/14/24 12:14am
Feel for you, man. That sucks...(

I'm in same predicament myself. I tell myself that I have to stay closeted. Otherwise all my life and my social status will be crumbled. I'm sure, the second I come out, there will be hell to pay in this country.

Since I realized myself, I've gorwn to have a secret crush on my hetero best friend. (We're bandmates still, he's a drummer, I play bass) We used to sleep-cuddle in bed during sleepovers, quite nice feeling. But nothing more than spooning, I suppose. But now we're not so close since he got our mutual friend pregnant.

Sooo, I'm a mess emotionally. Spilling my guts out on wiki-how comment section...

Gotta stay alive, find any snippets of joy in this existence. Confide in closest friends.

Stay strong, I guess
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Anonymous WikiFawn
Anonymous WikiFawn
11/14/24 6:18am
i'm so sorry you have to stay closeted! it's awful that you have to hide who you are and i wish things could be different for you and your friend

homophobia sucks but at least we're all bonding together in this wikihow comment section 🥹
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Anonymous WikiAxolotl
11/18/24 4:26pm
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RosieCoralz1023
12/13/24 10:33pm
In my parts of America, there isnt' too much homophobia... some parts there are, but it really depends. I do theatre, sometimes there will be a super homophobic group or there will be a super homosexual one :DDD I go to a teeennnyyy tiiinnnyyy private school, with, like, 15 kids in my one classroom :PPP Some kids are homophobic, but one is gay and one is bi, and another one I believe is gay but is not out. The one that is out (the bi one is my bestie- only I get to know hehehe), everyone knows but he doesn't get any hate, no one really cares.

Thats really just in my one area, i'm sure it's different everywhere
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Anonymous WikiWombat
Anonymous WikiWombat
12/17/24 4:21pm
Ik this is sorta late but in most places there isn’t much homophobia. Where I live I know only 1 or 2 homophobic ppl, and there are GSA’s (gay straight alliance) at almost all of the schools I’ve been to/am going to go to (except for my elementary school). And even though some Americans are homophobic, the most they will do is laugh at you, and if they do just flick them off.
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WikiLlamaGlider406
11/18/24 10:21am
Yessss this is the only place i can get away from the homophobia right now
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Anonymous WikiFerret
Anonymous WikiFerret
12/05/24 3:07am
Us gay people can scare away any homophobics
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Anonymous WikiLynx
Anonymous WikiLynx
02/07/25 8:05pm
real, im lesbian happily. no offense but i cant picture myself with a man
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Anonymous WikiValley
Anonymous WikiValley
12/16/24 2:24pm
That... is awful. I'm so sorry you need to go thru that king. You shouldn't feel ashamed to come out whoever makes u feel that way should just go cause they are upset they'll never have that confidence. U might feel alone but there will be people who will love you for you <3 I promise.
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BlinkLoverLiliSlay13
12/11/24 12:00am
I feel u same here my parents do not support so i hide from them
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Anonymous WikiMongoose
Anonymous WikiMongoose
02/22/25 6:09am
same. slay to all qweens who are gay!!!
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Anonymous WikiBandicoot
Anonymous WikiBandicoot
12/08/24 10:07am
Poor you ☹️ good luck!!!!
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I'm a Christian too and even though I know I'm bi I still have fear and am terrified by the thought of ever dating/doing someone of the same gender. I love God, but why must he make these rules and then make us complicated enough to fall out of the natural order?
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Anonymous WikiFox
Anonymous WikiFox
02/11/25 12:06am
Hi, I'm on the same boat. Stay strong
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Anonymous WikiMongoose
Anonymous WikiMongoose
02/22/25 6:07am
OMG saaaammmmeeee! I am also a christian family, and my parents don't support LGBTQIA+ and I just came out as lesbian and i legit got a crush on a girl and shes crushin on me too! like all of my friends are lgbtqia+, and they encouraged me on the way, but i feel like i can't tell my parents, and yes, it is difficult for me to realize who i am too. first i was straight, then pan, then pan-lesbian, and now lesbian. i feel like ill become straight soon tho. so i support you all the way.
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WikiZebraCaster991
07/06/24 6:34pm
I was watching Pirates of the Caribbean and could not stop thinking about how hot Jack Sparrow was! Now I have a thing for pirates
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Anonymous WikiDesert
Anonymous WikiDesert
11/24/24 8:17pm
Oh my god slay
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RosieCoralz1023
12/13/24 10:23pm
lolololol and i have a think for elizabeth ahhah
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BlinkLoverLiliSlay13
12/10/24 11:55pm
yoo slay ngl i loveddddd Elizabeth Swann
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Anonymous WikiEmu
Anonymous WikiEmu
12/21/24 4:50am
shes the reason i started questioninggggg
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WikiMongooseGlider966
12/21/24 9:24pm
Yeah, my gay awakening was Elisabeth. And my demi awakening was with Norrington
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Anonymous WikiStoat
Anonymous WikiStoat
10/25/24 8:29pm
I have always been a definite tomboy, and after a while, I realised that I definitely acted like one. I also felt like I was more into girls than boys, and had a crush on a girl in my year. I'm now dating my cis female best friend as a non binary person !
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Anonymous WikiCassowary
Anonymous WikiCassowary
12/04/24 12:43am
tara and darcy is that you?
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Mysauceis_awesome
12/04/24 12:43am
tara and darcy is that you?
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Anonymous WikiLynx
Anonymous WikiLynx
03/05/25 3:21pm
Heartstopper! Yes! (I love Elle and Tao - but I can see Elle as a lesbian)
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Anonymous WikiPanda
Anonymous WikiPanda
11/11/24 9:18pm
So I use to take a bus to school and their was always this girl on it at first I didn't think she was attractive but she was pretty so she was always on this bus and we also went to the same school she was one grade above mine so I saw at school I saw her in the bus so at some point we ended up talking and I found that she was every interesting and we had a lot in common I didn't know when I started finding her attractive but it were the little things that made me realize like looking at her lips while she spoke or smiling whenever someone mentioned her name their I knew that I was in love with her and I wanted her to know so I told her and started dating but it only lasted 6 months until she moved and we lost contact and the spark since then I've never found any men attractive
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WikiLlamaGlider406
11/18/24 10:24am
yeaaa so ya know that emo chick from Phineas and Ferb, she was my lesbian awakening
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Anonymous WikiMongoose
Anonymous WikiMongoose
02/22/25 6:11am
Ferb got competition lol!
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Anonymous WikiAxolotl
Anonymous WikiAxolotl
11/18/24 4:24pm
Basically what I’d did was I watched Wednesday and I was like Jenna ortegas HOT. But then I was like wait I don’t just like boys. So now I’m pan but I have a preference idk? It just feels better than bi? Btw should I ask out my crush? Just asking
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Anonymous WikiGorilla
Anonymous WikiGorilla
11/27/24 12:37pm
Omg, Jenna Ortega is so hot. I also saw her in Wednesday and was like, DAMN😍 Anyways, about the crush thing, I reckon just give it a go and hope for the best, you never know, they might like you back!
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BlinkLoverLiliSlay13
12/11/24 12:08am
bruh thats my friend🤣 but yea i agree
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Anonymous WikiValley
Anonymous WikiValley
12/07/24 2:33am
omg I love Jenna Ortega back off shes mine 🤣
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BlinkLoverLiliSlay13
12/11/24 12:09am
oop ok i think i should...... not
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RosieCoralz1023
12/13/24 10:39pm
OMG Jenna Ortega is just so 🤩
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Anonymous WikiFlamingo
Anonymous WikiFlamingo
11/07/24 2:24pm
My friend in 5th grade during a sleepover. She was my first gay crush but I didn't know what it meant at that point. I think I've kinda always felt gay, just I needed more time to explore
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BlinkLoverLiliSlay13
12/10/24 11:56pm
I feel u same thing here but in 4th and it wasnt in a sleepover it was a school
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Anonymous WikiOwl
Anonymous WikiOwl
11/13/24 4:34pm
I was at school and I had a friend who was constantly asking me if I was lesbian/Gay and over time I began falling for her. I've now had a crush on her for two years but haven't been able to come out or tell her I like her. Seren if ur reading this, I really like u. L x
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Anonymous WikiLynx
Anonymous WikiLynx
02/07/25 8:04pm
Umm... i love you too?!? PLUS! I KNEW YOU WERE!!! CALLED IT FROM A MILE AWAY!!!
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Anonymous WikiWombat
Anonymous WikiWombat
11/21/24 7:59pm
The thing that really opened the portal to the LBGTQ+ world for me was watching She-Ra and the Princesses of Power when I was like, 7. I had a few crushes on boys, but, honestly, I was quite young then. My first same-sex crush (I still have a crush on her a couple of years later, still had crushes on other people though) was, and still is, my bff. At first I was like, 'is it weird to have a crush on your best friend?' but then I found demi-romantic, and clicked instantly. Now, after 2 years of being in the LBGTQ+ community, I am a demi-romantic, demi-girl and non-binary lesbian.
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RosieCoralz1023
11/27/24 4:29pm
I thought I was straight for the longest time, but one day this girl made some kinda joke that was along the lines of 'day 2 of breaking up gay couples' to some people and my mind snapped to 'are you lesbian? Can you be attracted to me?' and thats when I realized.
Turns out SHE WAS and I have a huge crush on her now, and I don't get to see her nor do I have her number because that was from like a two week theatre thing 😭 Ahh I love her <33
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Anonymous WikiFerret
Anonymous WikiFerret
12/05/24 3:09am
Bro saaaame except it didn’t happen in theater (PE class) but now me her are dating
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RosieCoralz1023
12/07/24 1:39pm
That's awesome that you guys got together! :DDD
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Anonymous WikiChinchilla
Anonymous WikiChinchilla
12/12/24 1:55am
For me I guess it was after watching Helluva Boss and Hazbin Hotel with all the LGBTQ+ characters I started to question myself. After that I thought for a while about how I wanted to be more masculine. I don't wear dresses or girly stuff. I didn't want to wear a wedding dress to my wedding or be the feminine one. ( I do know not all women have to be feminine to have a boyfriend/ husband ) But it all didn't feel right to be a man's woman. I eventually came to the conclusion I liked girls.

I have had a boy crush before realizing, but I've had two other girl crushes. But also I've questioned myself, saying I'm Bisexual, Pansexual, Omnisexual, or Lesbian. It all doesn't matter in the end though. You love who you love, and that should NOT matter.
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WikiMountainWhisperer170
12/26/24 6:29pm
AHHHHHHHHHH!!! I’m so confused rn. I have told close friends and friends that I am bisexual, but I don’t think I am anymore. Surely lesbian better fits me? I have never liked a boy, and now I like a girl! How do I tell them now! I don’t even know if they’ll like me any more!
I think I’m most worried about my straight, girl, best friend I wouldn’t say she is homophobic, but I can’t imagine her supporting me if I got in a relationship with another girl. She has ADHD and is the kindest person I know, but she can easily get jealous about me spending time with other people. When in primary, a boy that I didn’t like like me and made me get together with him, she was extremely saddened and jealous, so she climbed up a tree and no one could get her down. People might be thinking, don’t be friends with her anymore, but she is so nice most of the time, and she makes me laugh so hard. That is why I haven’t told her I’m gay yet. I haven’t actually told anyone, except my Bi best friend, who told other people for me.
BUT HOW DO I TELL MY PARENTS!!!
They are supportive of what I do, and have always told me that who I like doesn’t matter, but I’m still scared to tell them. What should I do!?
I need urgent help!
(And sorry, this must be really long…)
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Anonymous WikiStoat
Anonymous WikiStoat
12/28/24 10:18pm
I support you in advance. If I were you, I would tell both my friend and my family, it is a great advantage to have your family support you. If you are a lesbian, even if your friend does not like it, it is your own decision and the opinion of others does not change the truth.
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WikiMountainWhisperer170
01/01/25 2:18pm
Thank you so much for this advice, I totally agree with you and I am going to tell them soon. Thank you again!
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Anonymous WikiGorilla
Anonymous WikiGorilla
12/28/24 10:12pm
I was a freshman in high school, maybe it was stupid but I was attracted to a boy as a girl. He was kind, sweet and introverted. One day I saw him at a school reunion where only girls were present, I was shocked. It was actually a girl. I felt like throwing up all day. Days passed but I couldn't lose my interest and attraction towards him. It was strange, I always thought I was straight but I had never liked anyone in my life for more than a week. So I thought if I didn't see him I might be asexual. I had a crush on him when I think he is a boy but he was a girl. It took me weeks to accept that he was a girl. Even after I accepted it I couldn't lose my feelings. His happiness or words would change my whole day. We never got close to that girl, months, even year passed and I still have a platonic love for him. I never told anyone because there are so many homophobes in the country I live in. Also if I had told my family about the idea of ​​being bisexual I would probably be disowned.
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WikiMountainWhisperer170
12/31/24 12:06pm
I feel for you girl
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Crafter_cat311
04/02/25 2:45pm
Me too. that sucks.
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I've always questioned my identity. When I was eleven I (I'm a guy) developed a crush on another male at church. Church camp ended, I lost feelings, and I went back to assuming I was straight, but I still had that little gay in me. Now, years later, I watched the popular Netflix show "Baby Reindeer" (spoilers) and I saw that the main character discovered he was bi after the incident. I wondered, "could I be bi and not know it?" Yes. Yes I can. I've been a bisexual all my life but I thought I was just a fruity hetero because all the guys at my school are mean and ugly. I realized this also because all of my gay crushes were on people from different towns and stuff.
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Anonymous WikiLlama
Anonymous WikiLlama
11/08/24 12:23am
Random chick who appeared in my 4th grade speech therapy class one day & I never saw her again. I ain't even religious but I think she was a messenger of god forcing me to admit it to myself. Anyway I'm a guy now so... Okay bonus story: Before I was a guy, in the summer before 5th grade I thought I was a lesbian (didn't use that term tho, that was probably a Sign^tm) but then I saw Edward Elric from fma and I was like "0-0 dang" so yeah edward elric turned me bi
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Anonymous WikiTapir
Anonymous WikiTapir
11/13/24 2:41am
Well, basically when I was in 4th grade I started liking this girl, so I was pretty confused. Then, I realized I had a crush on Paris Jackson (mj’s daughter) and then Billie Eilish
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Anonymous WikiWombat
Anonymous WikiWombat
11/14/24 8:08am
I was reading a comic on my phone then a gay guy was shown then thought it would be nice to have a husband...
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Anonymous WikiNarwhal
Anonymous WikiNarwhal
11/17/24 11:44am
This is really confusing. I’m still trying to figure out what’s happening with me. See, this school year I’ve had a crush on this one girl. But I also have feelings for my close friend who is a boy. Another thing with it is my sex is a male, but sometimes I feel like it doesn’t fit me well. Plus I’m asexual. Any ideas??? 😕
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Anonymous WikiBandicoot
Anonymous WikiBandicoot
12/08/24 10:09am
you might be demisexual (you only have feelings for people you know really well)? Btw I'm asexual too!
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Anonymous WikiBandicoot
Anonymous WikiBandicoot
12/08/24 10:12am
or you might be asexual and still like people romantically-bisexual asexual?
I'm not really sure exactly how you feel seeing as I'm aro-ace.
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Anonymous WikiLion
Anonymous WikiLion
02/01/25 5:16am
i’d say that sounds like biromantic asexuality and non-binary, specifically genderfluid/flux. i’m bisexual myself and girlflux, and i definitely felt weird about being a girl sometimes.
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Anonymous WikiMist
Anonymous WikiMist
11/24/24 4:19am
My neighbour is very confident about pride and it made me feel more comfortable but I thought no one wanted to go out with me, I had a crush on my friend that is kinda religious but one day she told me she had a crush on me! I was so surprised and happy! It’s been over a year now!
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Anonymous WikiGiraffe
Anonymous WikiGiraffe
12/01/24 10:50pm
Millie bobby brown and Sadie sink
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Anonymous WikiValley
Anonymous WikiValley
11/11/24 2:13am
I'm genderqueer (they/she). Any advice on coming out?
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Anonymous WikiPanda
Anonymous WikiPanda
11/18/24 10:18am
be polite about it but be confident too and know that it might be hard for some people to accept the real you
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BlinkLoverLiliSlay13
12/10/24 11:58pm
wait r your pronouns they/she!!!??? mine is she/her/they/them!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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RosieCoralz1023
12/13/24 10:28pm
yes sammmeee!!!
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Y'all I'm a closeted demiboy haha! Slay
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Anonymous WikiToad
Anonymous WikiToad
11/16/24 6:24pm
I realized I was bi when I started realizing “wow, girls are pretty” and then a few months later developed a huge crush on a boy from my class. Now, I’ve had a crush on him for almost a year, but lately (ever since I had to switch schools) he’s barely been texting me. I still love him. What do I do aaaaaaaaaaaaaaa
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Anonymous WikiWombat
Anonymous WikiWombat
11/21/24 6:05pm
Honestly, tell him, if you love him so much. That's what I did with my friend, she straight away plunged us into a relationship (my first one) but then after a week or so, she told me that she thinks she's straight, but, we are still friends, so just give it a go!
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Anonymous WikiGlade
Anonymous WikiGlade
11/20/24 11:06pm
The lady who helped me figure out I wasn't straight, but instead a lesbian, was this stunning, funny, talented girl, Joemayra. She liked me, I liked her, but by the time I was ready to admit it, she decided she was bisexual and got a boy crush. I haven't seen her for a while because I moved, but I still love her, sd i can't imagine myself with anyone else...
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Anonymous WikiGibbon
Anonymous WikiGibbon
11/21/24 3:31am
Actually this year. There is a girl named Millee in my grade and omg she is perfect. I haven't really come out to anyone, but, I try my hardest to give hints
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Anonymous WikiWombat
Anonymous WikiWombat
11/22/24 4:28pm
Proud demi
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Anonymous WikiWombat
Anonymous WikiWombat
11/22/24 10:37pm
I'm pretty sure I'm straight, but I'm not completely sure. I've been a little stressed because romance is a major priority for me. What should I do? 🤔
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BlinkLoverLiliSlay13
12/11/24 12:11am
that was me until girls caught my love eye😍
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Anonymous WikiBird
Anonymous WikiBird
11/24/24 2:20pm
I realized i was trans when i was 10 on the 1st day of school, and my mom kept wanting me to wear a dress, but i really didnt want to. I did some research and figured it out. Realizing i wasnt hetero took kinda went with that. (Its been 4 years and im still not out 😭😭😭)
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Anonymous WikiValley
Anonymous WikiValley
12/07/24 2:31am
omg same
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BlinkLoverLiliSlay13
12/11/24 12:12am
i support gurl im with u
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EmilyMartin1
11/26/24 9:29am
I found out I'm an activist type,which might be why I had a crush on my classmate who does soccer. It was a girl,but only did these small crushes last a few months when I can't really confess because I'm a quiet person and mostly admired them in my mind for a bit.
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Anonymous WikiLemur
Anonymous WikiLemur
11/26/24 6:15pm
I know that im not straight but the test just said that xD funny
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Anonymous WikiLion
Anonymous WikiLion
11/27/24 12:30am
most likely the scorpion woman from she-ra i liked her a bit too much tbh
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Mysauceis_awesome
12/04/24 11:58pm
SHE RA MENTION!!!!
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Anonymous WikiMist
Anonymous WikiMist
12/10/24 7:30pm
im just assuming that you meant every single woman in she ra
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Anonymous WikiTiger
Anonymous WikiTiger
01/08/25 8:19pm
OMG! Mine was Catra ngl...
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Anonymous WikiKoala
Anonymous WikiKoala
12/12/24 4:06am
I need some help guys. im a girl at birth, I just got out of a straight relationship, and have only ever dated guys. One of my exes and I kissed this week, and he likes me again. The problem with all of this is that every time I kiss a boy it doesn't feel important. I never get the whole fireworks or butterflies thing, ever. Its just a kiss. However...... Recently, going to church makes me uncomfortable and all I think abt are girls. I swear that I'm seriously in love with my best friend but I'm pretty sure she's straight and I'm currently helping her work through relationship issues with a guy. It hurts every single time she she talks about him but I always give her good advice and we call for hours. I think shes perfect and gorgeous and I love her so much. My family is very, very, VERY homophobic. I was baptized and have be going to the same christian church since the day I was born. I can't do anything abt this, I have to stay closeted for forever. Me and my best friend are having a sleepover for my birthday soon, and I REALLY want to kiss her and see if she likes me back but I'm not brave enough. I don't know if I'm les, demi, or bi. All ik is that I'm not straight and all hell would break loose if I said that out loud. Help me!!!!!!
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Anonymous WikiGiraffe
Anonymous WikiGiraffe
12/16/24 4:51am
I know it might seem a little rough at first, and having a homophobic family does not help!! I recommend not kissing her right away, but rather telling her you have feelings first. It helps to talk to friends more than a parent. I wish you good luck and hope that your parents can accept you!
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Anonymous WikiMongoose
Anonymous WikiMongoose
02/22/25 6:23am
i have the same story with one of my friends. the only difference with that is that i don't think she/he goes to church, we don't call for hours, and that we're not having a sleepover.
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Anonymous WikiGiraffe
Anonymous WikiGiraffe
12/16/24 4:43am
My friends are obsessed with Genshin Impact, and one friend was showing me some of the characters, and I thought some of the girls were cute. My friend told me I might be bisexual. As I kept researching, I found that I might be more comfortable with biromantic, since I am on the younger side. I find girls more attractive than boys, and I don't have a "type" for girls like I do with boys. After I had a Health Reproduction class, (iykyk) and I found intimacy and sexual contact to be quite gross and uncomfortable, I think I am finally able to say that I am biromantic and asexual. Some kids at my school, after finding out that I'm queer, threatened to tell people and my parents, (who already knew) and often avoid me because they say I'm "gross", or my favorite, "sinful". Like seriously, what 7th grader uses the word sinful? My friends who showed me who I am, are mostly straight, but love and support me. So, thanks for coming to my Ted Talk. (again, iykyk😉)
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WikiButterflyTamer233
12/17/24 4:22pm
Yay, a fellow biromantic ace!
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Anonymous WikiWombat
Anonymous WikiWombat
12/17/24 4:09pm
I was at this ‘social’ my school was hosting (basically a dance) and my friend was in this really cute minidress that was sorta like a tank top with a skirt attached (super cute) and she asked me if I wanted to dance. Even though I didn’t like her as a crush, still, a GIRL. Asked ME. To DANCE. So (obviously) I said yes and we danced for like, 20 minutes and ngl i was feeling gay (or bi) panic the entire time. And in fifth grade I had a crush on this super cute Japanese girl that I went to school with (I still have my yearbook from then) and then I moved away and I still miss her :(
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WikiMountainWhisperer170
12/22/24 11:15am
I realised I was Bi after a crush on someone from my school -I’m female, well at least I think I am… Judging by the fact i don’t feel entirely female…- and had absolutely no idea what I was thinking. I’m also DemiSexual and Asexual, and I have no idea how that works out. But for me it does, which I think is quite weird… I NEED HELP! WHAT AM I!!!
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WikiGladeJumper679
12/23/24 6:26pm
When I saw my (now gf) for the first time. She was, and still is, beautiful and strong. Love you, Satori!
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Anonymous WikiCapybara
Anonymous WikiCapybara
12/24/24 1:21am
cody and satori Sam and Colby reference?
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WikiLemmingWhisperer229
12/25/24 9:16am
I liked Reneé Rapp’s music and was like hold up, she’s kinda hot. I still liked guys, though, so I kinda knew I was bi but didn’t really confirm it until this year lol. But I literally want a gf sm. lowkey kinda think one of my best friends is cute tho so-
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Anonymous WikiCapybara
Anonymous WikiCapybara
12/31/24 5:07am
The few days before I contacted a former Jr. High classmate that I knew was gay. I was about 30 at the time. I am bisexual.
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MissSiren1
12/31/24 6:08pm
To be honest, all of my life, I was straight and I think I will always be so
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WikiMountainWhisperer170
01/01/25 2:17pm
It’s awesome you know who you are! 🤩
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Anonymous WikiPanda
Anonymous WikiPanda
01/04/25 1:11am
I’m just trying to figure out my sexuality and I think I’m transgender
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WikiMountainWhisperer170
01/04/25 7:44am
You do you, and everyone in the wikihow comment section will support you
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Anonymous WikiDolphin
Anonymous WikiDolphin
01/26/25 9:25pm
welp im asexual yall
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Laughing_Cricket
02/08/25 10:12pm
Day care when I was kid there was a poster of Avril Lavigne and I was attracted to her and in my head I was like... but she's a girl! Also my first kiss was with a girl in 3rd grade we snuck behind my shed in my backyard for a quick kiss lol I was born this way
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Francescagarcia
11/22/24 5:29pm
my friend andrea
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Anonymous WikiEmu
Anonymous WikiEmu
11/27/24 12:06pm
Slotta x Jaso x Glončák :)) if you know you know
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Anonymous WikiCloud
Anonymous WikiCloud
11/29/24 2:08am
I was exposed somewhat young it was my 6th grade year and alot of classmates talked and acted homosexual around eachother and it got me curious so over the years I've been on google,pintrest,watched movies that had shritless scenes or super-hero movies with male actors and feeling physically attracted,and I have a freind who came out as a lesbian and being around her being someone who was attracted the same gender made me feel more confident in my beliefs of being gay,it's even more apparent when I'm at places like a public pool and I see other boys who are shritless.

Nowadays I haven't came to terms with myself,idk if I'm really Gay or if I'm Bi or if Deep down I'm just stright and just feeling how it is to be a teen being exposed to sex,no matter if I think im gay or bi I've come to terms with there is only mainly one boy who I feel makes me understand I'm gay or bi,of course he's a popular kid,becuase who haven't felt attracted to a popular kid,he plays sports,he's decently kind,he's physically appealing,his moms hot,his sisters hot,he's hot yet ik he's stright and ik il never be with him,I've came close to being freinds with him via talking over Snapchat untill he cut contact with me.
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WikiAxolotlWatcher867
11/30/24 7:17am
I’m still trying to figure out who I am, I’ve been thinking about pan, or something else, is there any tips you might be able to share with me?
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Anonymous WikiBandicoot
Anonymous WikiBandicoot
12/08/24 10:27am
Think really carefully about all the crushes you've ever had. I did that and I worked out that I'm aro-ace- none of them were actual crushes!
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Anonymous WikiBandicoot
Anonymous WikiBandicoot
11/30/24 9:53am
Pirates of the Caribbean definitely started it all. When I first watched it I thought, "Wow. Elizabeth is cute." At the back of my mind I was also thinking (although much less prominent), "William is kinda hot as well." Then I came across The Lord of The Rings and boy oh boy did I swoon over Legolas (Orlando Bloom rocks!) and Galadriel at the same time. I felt so conflicted to find so many people hot simultaneously. And don't even get me started on Aragorn and Arwen....
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Anonymous WikiMountain
Anonymous WikiMountain
12/01/24 1:33am
i had been questioning my sexuality for a while and then i randomly got a huge crush on my best friend and realised i was lesbian💀
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Anonymous WikiMongoose
Anonymous WikiMongoose
02/22/25 6:28am
saaaaammmmmmeeeeee except i my friend told me he/she likes me too!!!
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WikiZebraTrader931
12/02/24 6:44pm
When I was young I never liked boys.i knew about 💅 people but thought it was boys only.then idk when about 2 yrs ago somebody said the word le£bian and I thought it was a country.then in TRD(total roblox drama) Sombody said ' are you 💅?' I said yes and they asked my gender. I said girl and then they asked if I was le£bian and I said yes.
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WikiZebraTrader931
12/02/24 6:47pm
Wait y'all tell me your coming out stories
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Anonymous WikiRiver
Anonymous WikiRiver
12/29/24 8:50am
so basicly i was watching youtube and then pintrest gave me a notification that had a bunch of female pirates and i started heating up and for some reason i thought i was with my friends and i said isnt she hot to my mom and then she gave me the side eye and then ended up making me come out to my dad mom and sister lol
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Anonymous WikiMountain
Anonymous WikiMountain
03/01/25 4:12am
I was so scared to tell my friends I’m lesbian but I mentioned it at lunch one day (our lunch conversations are weird) and it turned out my two besties are pan and bi! So now we talk about our crushes on girls, boys, and everyone else at lunch and it’s so fun :)))
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Anonymous WikiLynx
Anonymous WikiLynx
12/03/24 11:34pm
My bestie, I’m demisexual, so I’ve built one of the best friendship bond of my life, then I started to think, “Why is she kinda cute?” Then a crush developed on her. Then my life got ruined when she got a boyfriend. It’s going to take me months if/after she breaks up with him, to let her know that I like her. She is bi I’m pretty sure, so I don’t know at this point.
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Mysauceis_awesome
12/04/24 12:44am
....call me by your name
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Anonymous WikiFerret
Anonymous WikiFerret
12/05/24 3:13am
someone please help me come out to my parents as queer I’ve been dating this girl for maybe a 2 1/2 months and my parents don’t even know I’m queer
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Mysauceis_awesome
12/05/24 11:47pm
I might not be the right person to ask but I'd say that you need to vibe check your parents first!!! know how they behave around queer people, know what remarks (if any) they make on queer people in the news, and know their general stance on the lgbtq+ community before taking any action. if they're obviously cool, you can probably just tell them in the car or smth. if they're iffy, you might want to ask a question like "what do you think of gay people" before telling them. and if they're clearly homophobic, you probably shouldn't tell them, or you should tell a guidance counselor or therapist or smth to see what you should do.
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Anonymous WikiValley
Anonymous WikiValley
12/08/24 3:56am
ok one moment that probably isnt that deep was when my same-gender friend was joking around and pulled me close and I felt my face getting warm and butterfly shock for a split second in that moment then I snapped out of it and stopped thinking about that moment I know I'm straight or possibly bi but I'm just a kid so imma wait until later and see if it clicks
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Anonymous WikiBandicoot
Anonymous WikiBandicoot
12/08/24 10:29am
I am aro-ace but all my friends think I'm bi!!! How do I tell them? (most people don't know what aro-ace is!)
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Anonymous WikiMountain
Anonymous WikiMountain
03/01/25 4:09am
A close friend of mine told me she was aro-ace. I didn’t know what that was at first but she explained it! I think friends will understand :)
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Anonymous WikiRiver
Anonymous WikiRiver
12/08/24 5:35pm
I am so confused l took this quiz twice the first time I got bisexual and now I got acesex
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Anonymous WikiIbis
Anonymous WikiIbis
12/08/24 9:14pm
I saw a heathers musical, a girl played JD. She was so hot oml
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WikiFerretWalker225
12/08/24 9:25pm
when I was six years old
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Anonymous WikiMist
Anonymous WikiMist
12/09/24 11:22am
I only clicked recently.
But I used to have a crush on the guy, he told me he likes me yesterday and I think I like him back but I don't know how to tell him.
I think he knows though.
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BlinkLoverLiliSlay13
12/10/24 12:06am
It said I was straight. But if you wanna know a secret..... I was lesbian in 4th grade and dated a girl once but that was it
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BlinkLoverLiliSlay13
12/10/24 11:53pm
I am Bi and i got "Demisexual'' idk what that means but yea what did yall get
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Anonymous WikiMongoose
Anonymous WikiMongoose
02/22/25 6:31am
demisexual means that you only like people after close relationships...amiright? and i got exclusivley lesbian!!! SLAAAYYYY!!!!!
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Anonymous WikiOwl
Anonymous WikiOwl
12/11/24 2:20am
So I watched Arcane and grew like the biggest crush ever on Jinx.
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Anonymous WikiLemur
Anonymous WikiLemur
01/15/25 7:50am
for me it's caitlyn
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Anonymous WikiLoris
Anonymous WikiLoris
12/14/24 3:51am
when i was in 6 grade, ive always liked boys, but in 7th grade i started to have a crush on one of my girl friends. at first i denied it and tried to brush it off, but then like 2 months after the ongoing denial cycle, i caved in. right now idk what my sexuality is because ive always thought of me being straight. this also goes against my relgion, so idk what to do but i do know i still like the girl
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Anonymous WikiCloud
Anonymous WikiCloud
12/14/24 1:29pm
All my life whenever I saw a pretty girl in my mind, I said I wanna be her boyfriend so bad so yeah, I guess I was kind of just always lesbian.
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Anonymous WikiGopher
Anonymous WikiGopher
12/16/24 11:05pm
I’m still not sure what I am, but I realized that I liked women for sure when I was a preteen and watching IT. God, Beverly Marsh had me in a CHOKEHOLD. Sophia Lillis is still so pretty!!
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Anonymous WikiEagle
Anonymous WikiEagle
12/20/24 9:23pm
I never thought about it until I came out. I was just talking to my friend one day and I accidentally said "I'm a lesbian," but then I thought about it and I was like, damn that actually made sense! My actual gay awakening was probably Marceline the vampire queen cuz I was a simp for her when I was a kid lol.
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Anonymous WikiToad
Anonymous WikiToad
12/21/24 9:20pm
Yeah same, I've been trying to figure my sexuality out for a while. When I got demisexual, everything clicked. I'm so glad I did this! :)
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WikiGladeJumper679
12/23/24 6:40pm
In middle school we had this leadership club, where, on Tuesdays, we would stay after school and put together fun things to do for/at the school. I was in spirit days with a lot of people. Some were my friends but this one girl I didn't know stood out. She was beautiful, sweet, strong and something just clicked. Days went by and soon there were sign ups for the school play. I signed up and happily got in. The same girl was there, so I sat next to her. We were good friends from then on. We saw each other around school (she was a grade below me) and waved to each other a lot. One day at lunch (we had different lunch periods) my friend who was in the leadership club told me the girl liked me. I was so happy. The next day I asked her and she was like "Ohhh, why are you asking? Do you like me." She sent me an inbox later that day, telling me to meet her at her locker. I did and admitted to having a crush on her. Now we are dating. Love you, Satori!
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Anonymous WikiDolphin
Anonymous WikiDolphin
12/27/24 12:22am
I realized I was a gay girl when I just started to pay close attention to who exactly I am ACTUALLY attracted to, which are other females. I used to struggle with comphet so I've been confused about my sexual orientation, but sooner I realized that I was never genuinely attracted to guys. I am not a comphet lesbian anymore, I'm simply a lesbian (also femme.)
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WikiKoalaWatcher729
12/30/24 8:31pm
Am I bi or lesbian?
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WikiMountainWhisperer170
12/31/24 12:05pm
I don’t know, think carefully about all the crushes you have had, seeing if you have had any crushes on men.
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Anonymous WikiPanda
Anonymous WikiPanda
01/04/25 1:16am
I got to know this girl with a nose ring and that was it.
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Anonymous WikiTiger
Anonymous WikiTiger
01/10/25 11:38pm
when a girl kissed me in middle school
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Anonymous WikiCloud
Anonymous WikiCloud
01/14/25 12:15pm
I grew up religious but never having that hate for LGBT phase (just didn't care what anyone did since it was none of my business) and in middle school i thought i had a crush on this girl and came out as Bi but in high school i realized i just admired her socially and was fond of her in more of a friendly way but i had also came out as transgender (ftm) and pansexual and at the time i just really liked girls and guys with a preference to guys. I still got a crush on my female friend but the thought of anything sexual with her ended up being switched to any male random imaginary boy rather than her so i just assumed i was pushing it and that it was just me not wanting to sexualize my close friend, however nowadays as i think about it i feel like i am gay but i think being transgender made me push away the attraction to just men in fear of being considered cisgendered (since i don't pass) and all that is fine but I'm still not sure if i do find women romantically attractive, and this whole realization has made me both a bit sad and sick in a way, like I'm not sure if my internalized transphobia towards myself just killed any idea that i could ever be male and live as a man and that's why this realization of possibly being gay has made me so sad and ill at the knowledge that this was all self-inflicted for years of being on the internet as a kid and hearing horror stories of other men's transgender experience, and gay trans men specifically.
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Anonymous WikiPanda
Anonymous WikiPanda
01/15/25 9:59pm
Okay, so honestly, i've known for a while... but my parents are homophobic, transphobic, etc. So its been hard for me to be comfortable in my own skin. But in middle school, i had the biggest crush on a girl as a female. Everytime she moved my heart felt like it moved with her. I ended up with butterflies whenever she was around me and i felt excited. She came out and told me that she was lesbian and i told her how i felt. We ended up kissing at school and fell in love. We are still together now. I love her with all my heart and can only imagine my future with my girl. My parents know about me and see me with her. My parents and i are still in contact but i believe i make them uncomfortable. It can get awkward around the Thanksgiving table...lol but its their conscience thats struggling not mine.
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Anonymous WikiValley
Anonymous WikiValley
01/31/25 9:20am
I had some celebrity crushes before I turned 14 (like Lena Luthor from the "Supergirl" tv show), although I didn't know those were crushes. I thought I was just reading gay fanfictions/watching gay movies because I was supporting my sister, who is also a lesbian. I didn't realise I was gay even though I literally had a poster of a bunch of pretty women who I said I "looked up to," when in reality I had a crush on them! (this included Chloe Grace Moretz, Camila Cabello and Kate McKinnon. I still have a huuuuuge crush on Kate McKinnon!!!!). Then I met a girl at school I had a crush on, which finally proved to me I didn't just hypothetical like women, who were unattainable celebrity crushes, but I liked girls in real life, too. And I haven't had a crush on a boy since I was 8 years old, so that solidified the conviction that I'm 🌈gay🌈 :)
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Anonymous WikiLynx
Anonymous WikiLynx
02/07/25 8:02pm
ME TOO!!!
I fell in love with Billie Eilish
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Toad_with_a_tophat
02/03/25 11:16pm
Mine was Raven or Starfire from teen titans go lmfao
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Anonymous WikiGorilla
Anonymous WikiGorilla
02/05/25 3:06am
I don't know, i just thought about it a bit. I'm bisexual and I've currently been thinking about both guys and girls romantically and I took this test and I am now a proud bisexual! i do take this test every month or so and I get the same results.
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Anonymous WikiCave
Anonymous WikiCave
02/05/25 3:54am
I got a crush on Fiona from The Giver Graphic Novel hahahaa....my friends teased me abt it.
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Anonymous WikiDolphin
Anonymous WikiDolphin
02/05/25 1:15pm
I don’t know where I fall; Gender dysphoria issues and I am attracted to the same gender. So would that technically make me straight?
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Anonymous WikiLynx
Anonymous WikiLynx
02/07/25 8:01pm
It takes time to figure it out, but know this, there is an entire community who is opening their arms out to you!!! All of you who want it. We will support you and your journey and help be there for you when you need it. I can give you all the number of the place i work for if you would like that. I am a therapist who is lesbian and an activist in LGBTQ+ and would love to talk more about it. Everyone that i work with has their own LGBTQ+ expierence and their own pronouns and sex attraction they have. We love you all and are cheering constantly for you guys!!! Don't be ashamed to show your true colors, be you proudly!!! Reply to this if you would like to hear or know more. im happy to help!!! Love you all!!!
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Anonymous WikiLoris
Anonymous WikiLoris
02/11/25 4:37pm
Omg love y’all too
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WikiMistDiver808
02/23/25 8:10am
I feel you there
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Anonymous WikiBadger
Anonymous WikiBadger
02/14/25 7:15pm
So I've just started highschool and we get mentors,right? And my mentor is a lot like me. There's a five year age gap, i dont really have a crush on her but, like she might have helped nudge me in the right direction.
I have never had a crush on anybody, but I know that I'm probably Bi or lesbian. I know I'm younger than most when questioning but I have been asked a few times if I was lesbian or if I even liked guys.
I'm really not scared that if i did reach a decision and came out then i know it'd be fine. I know my family would accept me. Most of my friends probably would but yah. Please give me advice 🙏
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Anonymous WikiCheetah
Anonymous WikiCheetah
02/18/25 4:07am
"I only dislike people who makes sure EVERYONE AT EVERY SECOND knows their gay and makes it their whole personality, like, okay, we get it. I don't mind you being gay but not everyone in the world needs to know." Thats what my so called bff told me right after I came out.....
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Anonymous WikiLynx
Anonymous WikiLynx
02/20/25 6:04am
OMG pjo is such a good series and oh my gosh piper and shel.
Love it. It made me realize I was bisexual.
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Anonymous WikiValley
Anonymous WikiValley
03/31/25 7:57pm
OH. MY. GODS. PIPERRRRRRRRRRR!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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Anonymous WikiGiraffe
Anonymous WikiGiraffe
02/21/25 5:12am
My friend. It’s a classic :(
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Anonymous WikiLion
Anonymous WikiLion
02/23/25 1:04am
my partner, they taught me everything, now I realize my gayness as a kid, my parents always told me gay was bad and wrong and gross yet i still had lesbian relationships in the sims, and i made my dolls get married loll
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WikiMistDiver808
02/23/25 8:09am
My parents are christian but there not really against it they just don't encourage it. just a btw Im pan
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Anonymous WikiLemur
Anonymous WikiLemur
02/24/25 3:47pm
I always had the feeling, but realizing I am
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Anonymous WikiEagle
Anonymous WikiEagle
02/25/25 10:30pm
I noticed that I had feelings for a friend.
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Anonymous WikiMongoose
Anonymous WikiMongoose
02/28/25 11:33pm
In my class is a girl that is literally the greenest green flag you could EVER imagine. I think I like her( I'm demi-panromatic and asexual),but everyone,including her, thinks that I have/had a crush on a guy from our class 🥲
What should I do?????
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Anonymous WikiKangaroo
Anonymous WikiKangaroo
03/10/25 8:37am
My moms BFF came into town with her daughter and I developed a crush on her...the thing is I had also previously had crushes on guys and IDK I guess being bi just was the right term in my brain.
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Anonymous WikiBandicoot
Anonymous WikiBandicoot
03/17/25 7:19am
It was Shaun.
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Spid3rAid5n
03/17/25 7:31pm
All my friends were figuring out that they were gay and I realized I wanted to kiss my best friend really bad. But I felt low-key disgusted inside, not because she was a girl but she wasn't pretty in my eyes and she had bad breath. I know that's quite cruel of me to say but I feel like I should be honest. I did have real feelings for her though and we were together for 7 months which is pretty good considering we were in 7th grade at the time.
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Anonymous WikiIbis
Anonymous WikiIbis
03/18/25 9:04pm
Y'all Nick and Charlie were my gay awakening (I'm actually pan) Heartstopper 4 ever
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Hazeljames
03/19/25 10:38pm
Ooh, love this question! For me, I think it’s about those moments when you start noticing someone in a different way, and suddenly it all clicks. Whether it was a crush on a character, a celebrity, or someone in real life—it’s kind of like a light bulb turning on. Was there a specific person or moment for you that sparked it all? I’d love to hear your story!
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C0rruptedData167
03/21/25 12:00pm
I saw a really pretty girl on the river rafting ride at Dollywood and a few years later I held the door for someone at Dollar Tree and they called me Sir (Two awakenings in the time frame of 3 years 😭)
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Anonymous WikiGibbon
Anonymous WikiGibbon
03/24/25 7:36pm
My friends and I were playing spin the bottle and hooked me up with this emo chick named Elenore, and she was noce
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Anonymous WikiFox
Anonymous WikiFox
03/25/25 12:15pm
I had a crush on my bestie for 4 years and I loved her like romantically and I was like, wait isn't this gay? then I started to panic cause I had been taught that gay was bad and against God or someshit. then I became atheist and now I'm a pansexual too✨
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Anonymous WikiCassowary
Anonymous WikiCassowary
03/31/25 12:50am
Derek from teenwolf….
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Anonymous WikiLoris
Anonymous WikiLoris
03/31/25 11:14am
I'm a gay guy and I've kept quiet about it for ages, because I don't know any gay guys, but now I've fallen for the cutest politest guy in the world. Only thing is his politeness makes it hard for me to tell if he likes me or is just being a rlly nice person. Reading about all of your stories, I think I'm finally gonna come out. I support y'all.
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Anonymous WikiOwl
Anonymous WikiOwl
04/02/25 2:46pm
I always liked guys, and then I developed a crush on my girl best friend in high school and realized I was bi
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WikiDesertSeeker216
04/01/25 6:31pm
In 4th grade, I thought women were hot. In 5th grade, I realized I liked a girl but didn’t act on it because my best friend was Christian. In 6th grade, I changed my name to Autumn and had a crush on a cute guy.

In 7th grade, I was dared to ask a girl out, so I pretended to be gay for two weeks before breaking up with her. I later found out I was bi and liked another girl who turned out to be straight, but I practically turned her gay because at her birthday party, we got together. We broke up because I didn’t talk to her for a day while dealing with personal issues.

Now, we’re arguing because I didn’t tell her I’m dating someone new who she doesn’t like. I didn’t want my girlfriend to cause problems in our friendship since they often fight over me. I love my girlfriend, but I still care about my ex. I’m in 8th grade.
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It's 100% okay to switch your orientation. For a decade, I identified as a gay man. Then, I met a woman who just knocked my socks off and I was with her for almost a decade. After that relationship, I found myself drawn to men again and I consider myself gay ever since. It's really not a big deal to me anymore, so don't let it keep you up at night!
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There's nothing wrong with self-discovery. I am nearly 60, and I had my first same-sex encounter just last week. Still not sure which way I fly, and that's okay!
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