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    How do I become comfortable around girls?
    Eddy Baller
    Dating Coach
    Eddy Baller is a Dating Coach and the Owner of a dating consulting and coaching service, Conquer and Win, based in Vancouver, Canada. Coaching since 2011, Eddy specializes in confidence building, advanced social skills, and relationships. Conquer and Win helps men worldwide have the love lives they deserve. His work has been featured in The Art of Manliness, LifeHack, and POF among others.
    Dating Coach
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    Remind yourself that girls aren't magical or mysterious beings. They're just people, and the more you view them that way, the less nervous you'll be around them. The more you practice talking to girls, the better you'll get at it and the easier it will be.
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    How can I be confident around girls?
    Eddy Baller
    Dating Coach
    Eddy Baller is a Dating Coach and the Owner of a dating consulting and coaching service, Conquer and Win, based in Vancouver, Canada. Coaching since 2011, Eddy specializes in confidence building, advanced social skills, and relationships. Conquer and Win helps men worldwide have the love lives they deserve. His work has been featured in The Art of Manliness, LifeHack, and POF among others.
    Dating Coach
    Expert Answer
    Strong eye contact is number one. People who lack confidence typically cannot hold very strong eye contact. Taking bold moves is another way to show confidence, like putting your arm around somebody and not waiting for a sign for every single moment just to try something. Taking that initiative shows confidence, because you're not walking on eggshells and you're not worried about every single moment and doing the wrong thing. Speaking strongly is another good one—you don’t want to have a fake voice, but you should use your full, natural voice. Standing straight, keeping your shoulders back, and not having your hands in your pocket also projects confidence.
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    How do I make a girl love me if I am black?
    Tasha Rube, LMSW
    Licensed Master Social Worker
    Tasha Rube is a Licensed Social Worker based in Kansas City, Kansas. Tasha is affiliated with the Dwight D. Eisenhower VA Medical Center in Leavenworth, Kansas. She received her Masters of Social Work (MSW) from the University of Missouri in 2014.
    Licensed Master Social Worker
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    Realize that you cannot make other people feel or do things they do not want to. The more self-confidence and self-esteem you have, the more you will be happy with who you are, regardless of race or ethnicity. This will show through to others as you interact with them and you will attract the right person for you.
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    What if you have social anxiety?
    Tasha Rube, LMSW
    Licensed Master Social Worker
    Tasha Rube is a Licensed Social Worker based in Kansas City, Kansas. Tasha is affiliated with the Dwight D. Eisenhower VA Medical Center in Leavenworth, Kansas. She received her Masters of Social Work (MSW) from the University of Missouri in 2014.
    Licensed Master Social Worker
    Expert Answer
    Anxiety is a normal human response when our body and mind perceives a threat or possible danger. If you are in a situation and you start to feel anxious, take note of your internal dialogue. What is it that you are fearing? Chances are the other person is just as nervous as you. Take a deep breath, and keep you topic of conversation simple. If your social anxiety is to the point where you are isolating yourself at home, it's suggested that you possibly seek help from a mental health professional.
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