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How can I be shy and cute?

Klare Heston, LCSW
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Klare Heston is a Licensed Independent Clinical Social Worker based in Cleveland, Ohio. With experience in academic counseling and clinical supervision, Klare received her Master of Social Work from the Virginia Commonwealth University in 1983. She also holds a 2-Year Post-Graduate Certificate from the Gestalt Institute of Cleveland, as well as certification in Family Therapy, Supervision, Mediation, and Trauma Recovery and Treatment (EMDR).

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Try being quieter, stay in the background, and be more agreeable and less dominant. Appreciate others and their ideas.

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How do I overcome social anxiety and shyness?

Klare Heston, LCSW
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Klare Heston is a Licensed Independent Clinical Social Worker based in Cleveland, Ohio. With experience in academic counseling and clinical supervision, Klare received her Master of Social Work from the Virginia Commonwealth University in 1983. She also holds a 2-Year Post-Graduate Certificate from the Gestalt Institute of Cleveland, as well as certification in Family Therapy, Supervision, Mediation, and Trauma Recovery and Treatment (EMDR).

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Social anxiety and shyness are different things. Shyness is sometimes a developmental thing or a personality thing, and the person is generally accepting of it. With social anxiety, contact with others is terrifying and painful and causes a lot of worry.

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How do I stop being shy at school?

Klare Heston, LCSW
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Klare Heston is a Licensed Independent Clinical Social Worker based in Cleveland, Ohio. With experience in academic counseling and clinical supervision, Klare received her Master of Social Work from the Virginia Commonwealth University in 1983. She also holds a 2-Year Post-Graduate Certificate from the Gestalt Institute of Cleveland, as well as certification in Family Therapy, Supervision, Mediation, and Trauma Recovery and Treatment (EMDR).

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Try to start conversations with one person at a time. During lunchtime, don't look down into a book; make eye contact with others to be more inviting. And say "yes" when someone asks you to join them for a conversation, class project, or have lunch.

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How can I be quiet and shy?

Klare Heston, LCSW
Licensed Social Worker
Klare Heston is a Licensed Independent Clinical Social Worker based in Cleveland, Ohio. With experience in academic counseling and clinical supervision, Klare received her Master of Social Work from the Virginia Commonwealth University in 1983. She also holds a 2-Year Post-Graduate Certificate from the Gestalt Institute of Cleveland, as well as certification in Family Therapy, Supervision, Mediation, and Trauma Recovery and Treatment (EMDR).

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You can't really become shy, but you can decide to act more quiet and shy-like. Take a step back; listen to others; let them start the conversation; don't be the first one to start things up. Try only speaking up when you have something to say you feel strongly about.

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