Q&A for How to Control Your Man

If he cares about you, he will treat you well. He will trust, honor, and respect you, keep no secrets, and tell no lies.

If he's obsessed he will try to get in contact with you as soon as possible early in the day, and will wish to remain in communication every single hour of it, wanting to know where you are and what are you doing, and insisting on seeing each other in person, so that he can have some control over you.

Make sure you know what he's doing. If he says he's just going out with friends, just let him go out with friends. He's innocent until proven guilty.

Sorry to say, he is bullshitting you. He is treating you as a back-up to always come to in case no other flesh reaches him. You are kind of his security spot. A serious, mature, respectful couple, thinking of settling and starting family, will never be able to justify or support that. There are such fantasies and fetishes of seeing your partner with another person, but as mentioned, serious, respectful couples don't dig that. If he's like this today, even in future upon settling down he will continue this practice and you won't be able to stop or question it. Your children will be brought up knowing that such practice is justified and they'll take on that characteristic easily.

The best way to know this is if he calls, texts, or contacts you in some other form. You could also try just asking him how he feels.

To start, a man has the right to do what he wants to do (within reason) in a relationship; he's still an independent person who can make his own decisions. If those decisions hurt you, however, or if his lies make you feel disrespected or unloved, then you may need to reconsider the relationship. Start by talking to him about these issues, telling him how you feel, and letting him know that something has to change. Then let it play out and decide from there.

If a man really loves you, he will not pay you to stay in a relationship. If he truly loves you, he will want you to be happy, whether that is with him or not.

You can't, and you shouldn't. That is emotional abuse.

Trust him and talk to him about this. If you don't trust him, you can't have a strong relationship.

You can't control him, sadly. I had an ex who only wanted sex and told me that he wasn't going to be happy until we had sex. I broke up with him. Don't let anyone pressure to have sex if you don't want to. If he's only interested in sex, he doesn't care about you very much.

I'm going to assume you mean female co-workers, but it all works out the same for men as well, it's up to you two to decide on that. Talk about it and establish a middle ground and agree on what is too far and what is okay, making sure he knows what boundaries not to cross. It's okay for men to have female friends; you need to be able to trust that he will behave appropriately.

If you mean "to end the urge forever", that's impossible. It's a normal physical need for both men and women. Having sex satisfies the urge, but no amount of sex will ever be enough to end the urge. Not enough sex can skew our mindset as well, as the urge grows. If you mean deviant sexual urges, like wanting sex with a tree, that can be channeled.

It means you are always "watching" or knowing every he is doing. Perhaps let him do things without you asking every detail of it, so he doesn't feel stalked or cramped.