Q&A for How to Decide If You Should Get Married

If you're asking if the age difference between the two of you matters, no, it probably does not. If you're asking if you're old enough to get married, the answer is definitely not. Also, you should know someone for longer than two weeks before deciding that they're your soul mate.

You don't know, because nothing in life is guaranteed. However, not being able to see the future is neither an argument for nor against getting married.

No, there is no right or wrong age to marry, provided that both of you are really committed to each other and realize that a marriage is not a perfect dream. Just don't rush into it. If you're having doubts, put it off for a while until you're certain.

If you're not ready, you're not ready. That's fine, so if you're beating yourself up about it, don't. If someone wants to marry you, that can only happen if you agree. As to how to tell him, the best way is to just sit down and talk. Think of alternatives, such as a long engagement; tell him what you want, ask him how he feels. You can most likely work something out. Avoid forcing a choice between marriage and break-up, and don't be forced into anything you don't want.

It happens to all couples. Living with another person is hard to get used to. Communication is your best bet. Time will allow you to get use to each other's habits. Talk to a counselor or clergy person if you're very concerned.

The head-over-heels thing is not the end goal, it is merely one of many optional phases a blossoming relation can go through on its way to that strong, everlasting and very satisfying feeling we call love. There is no such thing as a top candidate here. If you like three women, and score them each 6, 6 and 7, then the 7 would be your top candidate of those three. But if to consider marriage, you need at least an eight, why would you marry the 7? Stop comparing her, look at her for what she's worth. Find out how she feels about marriage. Or, just stay together, things are great as they are.

No. This is illegal. At 15, you are too young to legally consent to sex, let alone get married.

It really depends. Marriage is wonderful, but it's not easy -- do you potentially want to drive a wedge between yourself and your family for this woman? If you're sure, and she's worth it to you, go for it. But be aware that you may have conflict with your parents for a while afterwards.

You are far too young for marriage. Look at your life circumstances right now. Can you two afford to live together? Do you two have jobs that pay a living wage? Can you pay the bills? Can you buy groceries every week and still have money for rent? You only see your boyfriend on the weekends, you do not know what he is like when he is not with you, and you don't know what it is like to be around him all the time. You should wait.

Whether you marry her or not, she's still having your baby. She needs your support. I'd advise you to marry her if you love her. Try getting another part-time job if you need more money, and consider asking for help from friends or family if you need to.

First off, while it is only natural for a parent to be concerned, the decision for you to get married is in no way theirs to make. If you think it will help, ask your boyfriend to talk emotionally with your mom and assure her he can be trusted and can take care of you.

Your parents are not getting married to your partner - you are. You have to follow your own path, and if that happens to coincide with what your parents may have dreamed up for you, that avoids a lot of conflicts. But deep down, your parents want you to be happy first and foremost, and the only way to be happy is to be true to yourself. If you are on your own path, then you are true to yourself. If that is a different one than parents had in mind, so be it. And if you're on your parents' path and it's not your own, you'll be unhappy, and so will they.

You would likely date them first for at least at least a couple years before the proposal, but if it was an arranged marriage, then you could still get to know your partner more before marriage.

Deciding to marry without a reason can be difficult. If you aren't married yet, maybe you haven't felt it inside you yet. Until you feel drawn to someone as a life partner, it is best to avoid marrying just for the sake of it. Where you will meet the right person in impossible to tell. So, just lead your life trying to be a better person who is patient in testing times, faces their fears, understands people and why they act rashly, etc. Just work on yourself until you meet people and finally feel certain about a man who respects you and with whom you want to live forever.

Since you don't want to marry, as you sit through your mom's teachings, just act maturely and nod. If you aggressively deny her, she'll think that you're immature and so will think you need a man. What will help in the future is if you have a job with a good income. That way, if your parents ask who will pay the bills, you can say that you will. Being independent is one way to be able to take your decisions. Being mature in difficult situations with family is something everyone needs to learn. They can't force you to marry, legally.

A husband and wife run the house together. They pay bills and have children. If your boyfriend and you can't do it now, it is best to wait until you can. If he shows no interest in dealing with family life responsibly, you might have to carry on, complete your studies and marry someone responsible. As for your mother's reaction, she's likely to be concerned about the same things, so if you address these issues, you'll have a good response.

The question is if you are certain that the new guy is the one, why are you still uncertain? Marriage is upheld by trust and loyalty. Clearly, you are not loyal, from the married man's point of view. So, it looks like he can be separated from so you don't cheat on him any longer. If the other one is available, bring up marriage in your regular conversations and see if he wants to marry you. You will know what to do with him based on his answer.

A non-working man who has no idea who runs the house might get ego trips and take out his frustrations on you to 'show you your position'. What will he be doing if not working, the whole day? And how will you enjoy being with a man who does whatever he does while you do the earning and perhaps manage work at home also? If it seems uncertain and unfortunate, ask him to be independent before marriage occurs. If he doesn't want to make any changes, help him be stronger and not be so dependent on someone else. A married man, a husband, has to be a pillar of support with the wife being the other pillar. The wife will break if she is doing it alone.

Assess your needs by making a list of things you need as a married couple for a month and see if your earnings will help to sustain your needs. If you can't live with your earnings, you will have to delay marriage. If you both will be frustrated because of the challenging adjustments, wait for better finances. If you both can sustain with whatever you have and even support a child if one of you wants to parent children, then go ahead with marriage. Getting a better job, earning extra income through other part time job works for people. Try it if you must to get married.

The choice is ultimately yours, but I would advise you to wait. You are very young. The age gap between you combined with the anger issues is a classic red flag for abuse. Get to know him and yourself more before you make any big decisions. Do not feel rushed into any decision; it should be made with a clear head and no doubts. If it was meant to be, you can afford to take your time.