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    I have a feeling the guy I hate likes me but he is really sensitive. How do I tell him I don't like him?
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    As it stands, honesty is better than any other method when it comes to communication. Based on your explanation, there would never be a workaround if someone gets mad at every little thing. All you can do is tell him outright and stand behind your claim. You should never have to work around something like this when you are trying to end a relationship. If the person you are telling gets angry, you have the obligation to walk away and never look back. In a perfect situation, there would be an actual solution, but all you can do is tell them the truth and negate any negative emotions they would throw back at you.
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    How do I get rid of someone who is obsessed with me to the point where they are frightening me?
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    If you tried being nice about it and it didn't work, you will need to take a firmer stance by telling the person to back off. This usually helps. You should also consider telling someone you trust, such as a parent or teacher. If you are an adult, and this is a serious situation, you could tell the police or get a restraining order put on the person.
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    Should I tell a vice principal that she is annoying me?
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    Assuming you're a student at the school, no, you shouldn't. If you have a serious issue with the vice principal, talk to a teacher or a parent about it and see if they can organize a conference where you can respectfully talk through your issues. Otherwise, just avoid the vice principal as much as possible. If you don't get in trouble, you should rarely see them.
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    What if a boy wants to kiss me (he's really desperate), but I don't want to and my friends also push us?
    MARY BODDEN
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    Your friends should not push you into anything you don't want to do, and you need to tell them to stop that. Tell the boy firmly that you're not interested and he needs to stop harassing you. You don't owe him anything.
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    It's been a year and I still can't get rid of him. He cries and cuts himself. I tried to be honest, but he's so sensitive. What do I do?
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    He's manipulating you and it's working. He knows the more he cries and acts out, the more likely you are to stay. You need to cut off all contact. Stay away from him. Don't take his calls and block him on social media. You've tried to do things the nice way, it's time to get tough.
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    What if the person is not your friend?
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    Use very specific language and tell them that you don't want to be friends with them, that they got the wrong idea, or that they're not your friend. Be very clear about it, so they understand. If they don't stop harassing you, then be more firm and/or tell someone.
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    Why would someone want to be annoying?
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    Some people get a thrill from being a nuisance. Other people don't know when to stop doing silly things or being a pest. Some people don't mean to be annoying but come across that way because they are bad at reading social cues, they don't know when to stop telling jokes or revealing secrets, etc. but they don't mean to be difficult. And some people are just playing games to get their own way, making things seem different from what they really are by pretending to be stupid or bothersome when really they're observing and getting all the intelligence they need to be manipulative or to gain something. Really, there are a lot of possibilities behind why someone might be annoying.
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    How do I get rid of my ex that won't leave me alone?
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    Don't answer his or her phone calls. If the person comes to the house, don't answer the door. Talk to him or her about leaving you alone and then stick to what you say. If your ex threatens you, call the police.
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    What if the person is sensitive?
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    If it's come to the point where you absolutely cannot take them anymore, you may have to look past sensitivity and just tell them or they'll never get the message. Obviously, try to be polite.
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    What do I do if they live next door to me?
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    Just be polite but distant. Stay away from them most of the time but wave and smile from a distance, so that you seem like a pleasant enough and polite neighbor. Offer to collect their mail when they're away to appear neighborly -- if they hate you back they'll say no but at least you'll all have a veneer of politeness going on and that is hard to argue with.
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    How do I stop being friends with someone who I see at practice every week?
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    Just tell them you don't want to be friends anymore and that you are ending the friendship. While you may see them in practice, you don't have no acknowledge them. Remember to be nice when you are telling them that you are ending the friendship. If they ask why, explain why you don't want to be their friend anymore. You shouldn't act mean towards them; just ignore them or don't interact more than necessary with them.
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    What if I did manage to "shake off" the person I didn't like, only to find out they've been telling others that I'll treat them the same way?
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    It might be best to just ignore this. If you must comment on was this person is saying, just say you don't respond to gossip. It will blow over.
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    What do I do if someone keeps on following me and I don't want them too, but I don't want to hurt their feelings?
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    You may need to tell the person outright to stop following you. Sometimes, even if it feels like you might hurt their feelings, it is better to tell them so you can both move on.
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    What if someone forces me to be friends with that person?
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    Try your best to get along with that person. If that doesn't work, remain friendly with them and just don't hang out with them.
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    What do I do if the person I want to get rid of hands out with my group of friends?
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    Ask your group of friends to play at your house or somewhere away from the person you don't like. Or you could try picking an activity you know that person doesn't like. He will get bored and may decide not to hang with you and your friends anymore.
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    How do I get rid of that friend who is a total follower of me?
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    The only way to get rid of the friend that is a follower is to just tell them that you don't want them following you anymore and think they should find some new friends.
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    What can I do if I don't like someone on social media or on a game?
    MARY BODDEN
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    On social media, just block them or get a new account. On a game, just play on another server, or ignore them.
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    What should I do if I want to get rid of someone who likes to hurt me?
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    If someone likes to hurt you, tell them that they are hurting you and ask them to stop. If they are still doing this, ago to someone you trust, and report them immediately. Depending on your situation, this could be a parent, a manager, or a teacher.
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    What should I do if the person I don't like is helping out at home?
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    Go into a different room, or go to a friend's house. If they come to your house every day, then try to plan ahead so that you won't be at home during that time.
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    I have a boyfriend and there is this other guy who is still hitting on me. How do I get rid of him?
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    Just be honest with him. Tell him you have a boyfriend and he's making you uncomfortable.
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    How do I deal with my father's girlfriend, who causes problems in the family, without hurting my father?
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    Just be honest and talk to your father about what's going on. Tell him how his girlfriend's behaviors or words are hurting you and your family. You could also talk to the girlfriend directly about the problems she's been causing and how you think she could stop.
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    This girl is bothering me a year and a half after I told her I don't want to talk to her anymore. She is always sending me messages on Facebook. What can I do?
    MARY BODDEN
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    Tell her to stop one more time, and if she doesn't, block her so she can no longer send you messages.
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    What if she (the person I want to get rid of) is really popular and can ruin my life?
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    If you think she can ruin your life, she has already done more harm than good. You should be honest and tell her that your friendship is not healthy. Life extends beyond high school, and she will probably not ruin your life in the way you think she will.
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    How can I make someone quit or kick them out without hurting their feelings?
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    Ask them to stop, and if they keep annoying you, hurting you, etc., ask them nicely to leave or excuse yourself.
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    What if they live next door and then join my support group after I've told them I don't want them to?
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    Everyone is free to join a support group, you cannot stop your neighbor from doing this. If it really bothers you, you'll have to find a different support group, or just ignore them while you're there.
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    What can I do about someone who is always reminding me about all of the bad things I've ever done?
    MARY BODDEN
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    Stand up for yourself. Say, "You're always criticizing me, and I would appreciate it if you stopped, and if this happens again, I will stop seeing you," or something similar to this.
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    How do I get someone I don't like to stop flirting with me?
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    Tell them directly, "I'm not interested, I'm not going to change my mind, and you're making me uncomfortable with all the flirtatious comments. Please stop."
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    What can I do when someone won't leave me alone?
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    Make up an excuse to leave, like saying you have to study or something else important.
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    What can I do if I don't like my stepbrother or stepsister?
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    Try harder to be nice on relevant occasions, to buy yourself plenty of space away from them most of the time. For this purpose, try to find an interest they like and get involved in it with them, pretending to enjoy it. When they enjoy themselves, put it down to effort well done. Then spend a lot of time doing your own thing and if they try to butt in, remind them there is a time for spending time together and a time for spending time apart. Over time, you may even grow to like them with this sort of boundary balance in place.
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    What if I have to sit next to him in class every day?
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    You can politely ask the teacher to move seats in the class. If she/he doesn't allow you to then you'll have to suck it up.
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