Q&A for How to Get Your Friend to Pay More Attention to You

They are doing this as a weak way of telling you they want out from the relationship, so decide whether or not it's worth fighting for this friendship. If it is, tell her she is being mean and not acting like a true friend. She may just laugh it off and be even nastier, in which case, it's a waste of time. If it isn't worth fighting for, ignore her and drift away, finding others to hang out with. Some friendships just weren't made to last the distance.

Give it a day or two and maybe they'll come back then, it could just last a day as they might be in a bad mood. If they don't, ask them politely if you've done anything and what you can do to make it better. Don't become suddenly hostile and not talk to them back, it'll just make it worse.

Talk to your friend about it. Say that you feel left out. Or see what the other person is doing to take your friend away and do it better than them. Although do not do anything that will damage your friendship in the future. The reason why the other person might be taking your friend away from you is that they are jealous of your friendship, so maybe try being nice to them and you could all be friends together.

Tell them how you feel. Always tell your friends if you feel left out. If they're not willing to listen to you, try making some new friends who respect you more.

If you want to spend more time with a friend, ask them when they're available and make plans to do stuff together. If they usually don't want to, they may not enjoy your company as much as you enjoy theirs, or they may not have as much free time as you do. You don't have to spend a lot of time with someone for them to be a good friend; it's about the quality of time spent together, not the quantity.

Take the initiative to talk to your friend instead of waiting for her to pay attention to you. It is possible she does not realize you feel left out.

Listen to your friend when he or she talks and act interested--even if what he or she is talking about bores you. If you talk too much about yourself, your friend may feel that you don't care about them.

Talk to your favorite friend. Ask your friend if he or she has noticed the clinginess of the other friend and how this interferes with you all having fun together. If your friend doesn't really care, then see if you can put up with this person but if not, don't get jealous. Instead, find other people to hang out with until your friend finally wakes up to the clinginess. It could be that your friend quite likes all the attention but it may eventually get annoying for them too.

Ask him what's up. If he says nothing, there probably is something wrong. Ask his friends and family if they have noticed anything. Whether they have or haven't, ask your friend to spend some time with you.

Just try talking to them. Ask them about any plans for the weekend or over summer or any other break when you see them alone and you are sitting near them.

Invite her over and try spend more time with her. Spending time together is really the only way to get closer with someone, but you can't force someone to like you more.

Try not to compare yourself to your friend; this includes your friend's looks, talents, and possessions. Instead, focus on a talent that you have that your friend doesn't have. Also, try to see and accept your own beauty instead of wishing for that of another. Lastly, try to be happy with the things you have. If your friend has a game or toy that you really like, perhaps he or she will share and let you play with it.

Keep hanging out with them, but maybe set up a time when you can hang out with just your one friend.

Be kind and thoughtful. Let the person know you care about them.

You can make other friends by trying new activities, like joining a club or going out for a sport.

Crying won't solve anything. Make sure you make eye contact (so you can be certain this person realizes you're trying to get her attention); if she continues to ignore you even though she clearly sees you, you'll have to conclude that either she's upset with you and giving you the silent treatment or she doesn't really care about the relationship.

The key is conversation. There are always new things you can talk about, whether it's current events, hobbies, movies, TV shows, musical artists, etc. Try to find things you both like and come up with new conversations about those topics to keep things fresh between you two.

Tell her how you feel and that you want to talk more. If she ignores you or doesn't care, you may need to look for a new friend.

It shouldn't be a contest. If your friend wants to have other friends, let her. Don't try to keep track of exactly how much time your friend is spending with you and with their other friend. Maybe you can all hang out together at least some of the time?

Always be open to starting new conversations when people do pay attention to you. Work on your sense of humor and tell some jokes. Just be the best person you can be.

You can't. Your friends are allowed to be friends with whoever they want, and it's not fair for you to try and prevent them from doing that. That's a very controlling and hurtful thing to do.

You can try keeping in touch via social media, texting, and phone calls. However, long distance relationships can be difficult to maintain, as sometimes people grow apart.

Invite her over to your house. There'll be no one there to interrupt you, especially if you have your own room.

Tell your closest friend in that friend group and ask for help feeling more included.

Do you have different interests than your twin? A different personality? Either factor or both could explain why you don't feel as engaged or connected with these friends. Follow the tips in this article and focus on engage more (positively) with your mutual friends.

Tell them you aren't picking anyone over the other one, then try to find things they have in common. If that doesn't work, talk to each of them privately and ask why they're fighting over who gets to hang out with you.

Maybe she just needs some personal space at school and wants to focus on the day ahead of her. Just ask her.

You should probably tell your friend that this girl is being mean to you. If your friend doesn't believe you or care, then I would distance yourself until the problem is resolved.

Tell them more about your life, and talk more. Once you discover things you have in common, you can develop a deeper friendship.

Spend time with her, talk to her, answer her texts and/or emails promptly, invite her to hang out with you, etc.