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    How do I deal with an employee who is constantly arrogant and insubordinate?
    Paul Chernyak, LPC
    Licensed Professional Counselor
    Paul Chernyak is a Licensed Professional Counselor in Chicago. He graduated from the American School of Professional Psychology in 2011.
    Licensed Professional Counselor
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    It's usually helpful to have a direct conversation with the employee to inquire about their thoughts on the matter. They may not even realize that they are coming off that way, so it's important to avoid being accusatory. If the behavior persists, then you will need to discuss further actions and resolutions.
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    How do I resolve difficulties working with colleagues in a polite and constructive way?
    Paul Chernyak, LPC
    Licensed Professional Counselor
    Paul Chernyak is a Licensed Professional Counselor in Chicago. He graduated from the American School of Professional Psychology in 2011.
    Licensed Professional Counselor
    Expert Answer
    Come to the discussion with an attitude of openness and non-judgement. Also, avoid being defensive or taking things personally. Try to address the conflicts directly rather than criticizing the people involved.
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    How do I deal with coworkers that have nothing to do all day? They are my leads and they see how much work I have to do, but yet they still won't pitch in.
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    Talk to someone higher up about your own workload. Make it about you, not them. For example, say, "I have so much work and I'm constantly staying late. I need to cut back, and I need some help splitting my responsibilities with someone else."
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    Why should issues or situations be resolved promptly?
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    Because what might be small or moderate today could potentially be extreme tomorrow. In other words, It might get worse over time. It is true that sometimes things work out on heir own, but Why take that chance? Why wait on resolving a conflict? Better to prevent than lament.
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    How do I deal with demeaning staff?
    Arebello
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    If the entire staff is an issue, consider talking to someone higher up in the company. It may be that he/she is not aware of the issue.
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    What if I am working in one place and receive a call to go do something work-related in another place?
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    It's a judgment call, but you should go to the place where you think you are more urgently needed. Don't forget which place is more important.
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    How do I get my manager to listen to me and help resolve conflicts?
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    Make him/her happy by completing your duties as required, and then some. After which you can humbly approach him/her when they are not busy and tell them you want to discuss something that bothers you. If you find your boss still will not listen to you, talk to their boss or the human resources department.
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    Should there be notes taken in mediation?
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    Either the mediator and/or the participants can take notes, but all notes should be destroyed (torn up and thrown away or shredded) at the end of the mediation.
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    How do I resolve a misunderstanding with my boss?
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    Make it clear that it was a misunderstanding and that you're not accusing them of anything. Say, "I'm not sure I did a good job communicating earlier. Let me try again."
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    How do I deal with an old coworker who babies me, asks personal questions and is always gossiping/talking. Distancing myself has not worked and isn't a great option as we have to work somewhat as a team and they don't like my introverted nature. What should I do?
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    Say, "I want to keep my personal life to myself and not share that at work." If you can, wear headphones as a way to interact less with this person.
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    Why is it necessary to take prompt action to resolve difficulties in the workplace?
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    If you take ownership of the problem and look to address it early in the process, you will have more control over the result of the decision. Allow yourself to take a breath and think how the situation looks from another perspective. The longer you take to resolve the conflict, it tends to escalate. Once the issue goes to your boss, HR, director and so on up the chain of command, the result becomes more arbitrary and judicial. The final decision maker may make a judgement that causes you to lose everything (your job, your reputation, etc.). Think of the lost hours of productivity, sleep and personal satisfaction with your job while you are in conflict.
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    How can I use my face to resolve conflicts?
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    Maintain a neutral expression when dealing with conflict. Keep your face blank so that your expression cannot be interpreted as angry, upset, condescending, etc. If someone is talking to you, maintain eye contact and nod to show that you're paying attention to them.
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    I'm strongly considering walking away. I've done almost everything suggested in this article, but I'm a woman and my employer is very misogynistic. How do I address why I need to leave?
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    You don't have to tell your employer why you are leaving if you don't want to, just send a polite notice letter, and try to say something positive in it (i.e. "I learned a lot in this position, but it's time for me to move on..."). Some places just have a culture that is unhealthy and you have to walk away.
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    How to I deal with an aggressive, demeaning colleague?
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