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    I am fine before the speech, but when I am giving the speech my mind goes blank and I sweat profusely. What can I do?
    Deb DiSandro
    Owner, Speak Up On Purpose
    Deb DiSandro is the Owner of Speak Up On Purpose, an organization dedicated to improving and teaching public speaking. Deb has over 30 years of experience as a national speaker and has presented at the Erma Bombeck Writer’s Conference and the National Society of Newspaper Columnists. She was awarded the National Speakers Association Member of the Year 2007 and has been published in Writer's Digest, Daily Herald, Women's Day, and Better Homes & Gardens.
    Owner, Speak Up On Purpose
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    This can be because we often practice the beginning of our speeches the most, and we have practiced the middle the least. You have to know your stories and your points so well, that your brain will automatically go to the next point. Remind yourself to be present and not try to jump ahead to what you are going to say next. Stay connected to what you are saying in the moment.
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    How can I make my speech emotional and fun?
    Deb DiSandro
    Owner, Speak Up On Purpose
    Deb DiSandro is the Owner of Speak Up On Purpose, an organization dedicated to improving and teaching public speaking. Deb has over 30 years of experience as a national speaker and has presented at the Erma Bombeck Writer’s Conference and the National Society of Newspaper Columnists. She was awarded the National Speakers Association Member of the Year 2007 and has been published in Writer's Digest, Daily Herald, Women's Day, and Better Homes & Gardens.
    Owner, Speak Up On Purpose
    Expert Answer
    To make your speech both emotional and fun, tell stories. Share your failures, not your successes.
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    How can I stop being nervous apart from the basic repetitive reasons and why do I get really nervous?
    Deb DiSandro
    Owner, Speak Up On Purpose
    Deb DiSandro is the Owner of Speak Up On Purpose, an organization dedicated to improving and teaching public speaking. Deb has over 30 years of experience as a national speaker and has presented at the Erma Bombeck Writer’s Conference and the National Society of Newspaper Columnists. She was awarded the National Speakers Association Member of the Year 2007 and has been published in Writer's Digest, Daily Herald, Women's Day, and Better Homes & Gardens.
    Owner, Speak Up On Purpose
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    Remember that you care about your audience so much, that you want them to have this gift. It's not about you. It can help with nerves because we are all, by nature, givers.
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    How do I make myself act cool while speaking?
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    Do not look directly at the people. They may distract you. Look at a point right above their heada and concentrate on the subject you are talking about.
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    How do I stop my voice from being so shaky when giving a speech in front of my peers?
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    You need to take deep breaths, and remember that most people hate speaking in front of others. Remember that your peers are just people who feel exactly like you do! Relax around them, and speak naturally, loudly, and clearly. This will make you seem more confident. Also, remember that even if a few people make fun of you, everybody else is listening. Speak to the people who listen and forget about the people who don't. If people start laughing, laugh with them! They are more than likely not laughing at you, and even then, laughing at yourself is proven to give you more confidence.
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    How could I start with the given topic?
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    Ask a question about the topic. If the topic is environmental protection, you could start with, "Why does environmental protection matter?"
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    How can I not be nervous if my voice is squeaky, and my crush is listening?
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    Lubricate your throat well beforehand, and pretend like your crush is not there.
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    How do I start a public speech?
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    Introduce yourself and your topic, start with a question to engage your audience and make them think, be sure to speak slowly and clearly and exude confidence.
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    How do I prepare my introduction when public speaking?
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    A good tip for writing speeches is to tell the people what you are going to tell them in short point form, then tell them properly as the speech contents. Finally, summarize what you have told them. Then they are sure to have understood what you are trying to tell them.
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    What should I think about on stage?
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    Believe in your capacity to improve. You don't need to believe you can become the next JFK or MLK but you do need to believe in your capacity to improve your skills. People generally do better if they have a growth mindset (you see yourself as a work in progress) versus a fixed mindset (you believe your capacities are fixed).
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    What should I do if I get stuck in the middle of the speech?
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    Don't let it make your speech bad or stop when you mess up.
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    How do I not get nervous when seeing my crush?
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    Take deep breaths and think of your crush like any other person that you wouldn't get nervous around. Don't worry about messing up or impressing the person, just relax and be yourself!
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    I discovered I am always nervous when making a presentation to a particular group of people. What should I do?
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    I experience the same thing. Take your time talking and pretend that they aren't even there. Take deep breaths and realize that they are people too.
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    What is the best introduction of myself for the beginning?
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    Most people don't want to hear a life story. Just say, "Hi, my name is ____ and I am _____." Tell them why you are speaking to them and maybe why you are qualified to.
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    What should I do if someone in the audience asks me a question after my speech that I don't know how to answer?
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    You could just be honest with them and say, "I'm sorry, but I'm actually not sure about that. Could I get your contact information so I can follow up with you once I get the answer?" That gives you time to do some research on their question and send your answer to them later.
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    How I can stop stuttering?
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    Other than speech therapy, just take your time and think about what you are going to say. If you speak slower, it is actually easier for people to understand you, even with a stutter. Also, think before you speak. Think about how you say each word, and make sure you don't psyche yourself out. Calm down and breathe. If you still have a stutter, it's okay! Plenty of people speak with a stutter and can still be taken seriously when they have something important and educated to say. Speak with purpose and people will listen.
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    What if I am too shy and then I forget my speech?
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    Take deep breaths, and take a couple seconds to gather up your thoughts. If that doesn't work, just talk about your topic.
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    How do I speak confidently in public if I forgot something in my speech and my mind goes blank?
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    Practice improvising. This way you won't be completely blank if you forget something. There are lots of ways to go about this. Look up improv games and see if you can practice with some friends or family members. Take a look at the article on How to Be Good at Improvisation .
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    What do I do if my hands won't stop trembling?
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    First of all, try to release your jitters before the speech by moving around a little. Are you speaking behind a podium? If so, you can grip it or try to hide your hands behind it.
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    What should I do when I'm in middle of meeting with my colleague and I feel like I'm mumbling?
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    Make your voice louder, more confident, and more direct. Open your lips wider when you're forming your words. By doing these few small things, your voice should come out sounding much more assertive and strong.
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