Q&A for How to Talk Dirty on the Phone

Absolutely! In fact, it shouldn't be called "dirty" talk at all—talking sexually is a normal, healthy, and positive thing to do.

You can't "make" her like anything. If she doesn't enjoy it, don't put her in that kind of a position. Respect her and respect her wishes and her desires.

He wants to see your body, completely naked, in an erotic pose. Think carefully here. Will these pictures be posted on the Internet, on social media? Will he show them to his friends? Never let anyone pressure you into doing anything you don't want to do. Set boundaries and stick to them. A naked shoulder or leg can also be erotic.

If your boyfriend is pressuring you after you have told him that you don't want to, he doesn't deserve you. People who really care about you will respect you and won't pressure you to do things you're not comfortable with.

There is no real need to; however, it does contribute to the mood and can give your partner a turn on. It lets your partner in on the action when he/she pictures you slowly stripping.

Whether on the phone or in real life, start small. For example, ask for the color of the other person's underwear. Make sure to listen to the reply, then take it from there.

You can do it in person, but you can also do it on the phone if you want to.

Talk as you would during sex. Make your significant other feel as though they have control over you.

The point is to keep an interesting sexual attraction to your partner going while you're away from each other. You can use any method of communication you prefer. However, at least two things come to mind. Texting is not as instantaneous as a voice call. You get no feedback from intonation as to whether your partner is liking it, and people are usually not entirely focused on a text conversation, at least not to the extent as a phone call. Also, remember that texts are usually kept. You may say some stuff in the heat of the moment, that you would not say in normal conversation. On the phone, there's generally no record of it.

He is probably wanting to see you in person and not just over the phone.

Ask him questions! Ask him what he's doing to himself, what he wants to do to you, or what he wants you to do to yourself. If this doesn't help, bring it up sometime when you're not having phone sex. Just say, "Hey, when we have phone sex, you never say much. I want to know that you're into it just as much as I am, so don't be afraid to talk!"

Yes. This could be applied to any conversation, whether on phone, in chat or in video chat.

Phone sex doesn't have to be exclusively dirty talking. While it can be hot, just rambling on and on often gets a little boring after a few minutes. Spread out what you're going to say over an appropriate time frame. When you're not speaking, make noises and enjoy yourself, and listen to your partner doing the same.

It's more difficult to involve kinky aspects over the phone, but it's definitely not impossible. Some things you could do include calling them certain things (whether it be a pet name or something a little more explicit), telling them what to do, and denying their pleasure/orgasm (i.e. telling them to stop and cool down for a couple minutes before they continue, to enhance their orgasm and maybe bring out some nice sounds).

It doesn't matter. Still follow the same basic process.

Yes, condoms and birth control will help you two stay safe. Remember to get tested for STDS as well.

Some young girls like phone sex, but others don't. It's always important to ask the girl ahead of time if she's okay with having phone sex.

No, I wouldn't breathe too heavily. It could be loud or annoying for the other person.

This guy is either too self-absorbed to recognize his behavior is off-putting, or he's a sex addict (or both). Respect yourself enough to disconnect and find some new friends.