Expert Q&A for How to What Time Is Too Late to Text a Girl

It always depends on the connection you both share. If you don’t want to creep her out, try phrasing your text in a way that you’re just reaching out and wanting to talk a little bit.

You could simply text her talking about your day or your night out with friends. Ask her about her day and set the scene that you’re not up to anything right now. Or, you could be more direct and invite her to do something with you.

Start by asking how she’s doing. Start by setting the scene of what you’re doing (for example, you could be in a bar with some friends or just at home) and seeing if she’s on the same page as you for the night. Then, try seeing if she wants to hang out with you for a drink or something similar.

It really depends on the heat that you had built in past conversations or meetings. Try making a joke where you say the opposite of what you’re up to, like saying that your message is “definitely not a booty call” and waiting to see what she says. If she doesn’t play along, just say you were joking.