Am I Aroace?

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Not sure how you feel about sex, or even about relationships? You're in the right place!

"Aroace" is a combination of aromantic (aro) and asexual (ace). Aroace people don't usually have romantic feelings or sexual desires. Of course, there's a whole spectrum of aroace people, from those who are in a relationship that isn't romantic, to those who have sex but don't feel any sort of way about it, to those who don't want either of those things.

If any of that sounds like you, we'll help you explore more about your feelings! Answer these questions, and we'll help you figure out your truth.

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Questions Overview

1. Have you ever had a crush?
  1. Yes
  2. Maybe, I'm not sure
  3. Never
2. Agree or disagree: I'm excited or interested when I think about sex.
  1. Agree
  2. Neither agree nor disagree
  3. Disagree
3. Agree or Disagree: You find many celebrities sexually attractive.
  1. Disagree
  2. Neither agree nor disagree
  3. Agree
4. What kind of relationship appeals to you the most?
  1. A "standard" romantic relationship with all the usual stuff.
  2. A friends-with-benefits situation.
  3. A best friends situation, where we're more committed.
  4. None of these sound appealing to me!
5. Speaking of, would you ever be someone's friend with benefits?
  1. Sure! Sounds like fun.
  2. Nah. I want a monogamous, committed relationship.
  3. I'd be friends, but there wouldn't be those kinds of "benefits."
6. Agree or disagree: You find kissing enjoyable.
  1. Agree
  2. Neither agree nor disagree
  3. Disagree
7. Do you ever flirt with people?
  1. All the time, and I mean it!
  2. Sure, but it's just fun and games.
  3. I would, but I get nervous!
  4. I’ve never really felt the desire to flirt with people.
8. Agree or Disagree: You'd be happy if you were single forever.
  1. Agree
  2. Neither agree nor disagree
  3. Disagree
9. What sort of person usually puts butterflies in your stomach?
  1. Someone who's hot and connects with me emotionally.
  2. Someone physically attractive.
  3. Someone I connect with emotionally.
  4. I don't really get those kinds of butterflies.
10. What's most important to you in a partner?
  1. Looks and personality
  2. Looks
  3. Personality
  4. I don't want a partner.
11. What's more important to you: romantic relationships or self-fulfillment?
  1. Romantic relationships tend to be more important to me
  2. Self-fulfillment is much more important to me than romantic relationships
  3. They're equally important to me.
12. Finally, why are you taking this quiz?
  1. I think I might be aroace!
  2. I might be either aromantic or asexual, but I'm not sure which.
  3. I just wanted to double check that I'm not aroace.
  4. Just for fun!

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10% of LGBTQ people<\/a> identify as asexual, and one survey of asexual- and aromantic-identifying people found that 45% of respondents<\/a> said they'd never been attracted to someone romantically.

Of course, sexuality is always a spectrum! You might experience few or minor instances of romantic or sexual attraction, or you may never experience them. And just because you're not interested in these things doesn't mean you don't or can't participate in them. On the flip side, you might be romance- or sex-repulsed, which means you may never want to participate in them.

Sexuality and attraction are fluid and complex, and no online quiz can ever tell you for certain what labels apply to you\u2014it's ultimately up to you to make that choice. You may never feel certain yourself, and that's okay! What matters is you love who you are, whoever you are. Here are some valuable resources that may help:

Aroace Crash Course

What does aroace mean?
Someone who’s aroace is both aromantic , meaning they don’t experience romantic feelings, and also asexual , meaning they don’t experience sexual attraction. Notice how “romance” and “sexuality” are different! In a nutshell, those terms describe emotional feelings versus physical feelings. That said, sexuality and attraction are a spectrum, and are rarely neat or simple. Aroace people might experience these attractions rarely, or not at all. They’re still aroace!

Can aroace people have sex or be in relationships?
Yes! These terms only describe attractions or desires. The reality might look a little different! Someone who’s aromantic can still be in a committed relationship and care about a partner, even if they don’t feel romantic toward them. Likewise, someone who’s asexual can still have sex, they probably just don’t desire or enjoy it in the same way an allosexual (someone who does experience sexual attraction) does. Everyone’s different, and that’s totally normal!

Are aroace people part of the LGBTQ+ community? Yes, absolutely. Though the asexual and aromantic spectrums aren’t as well-known or as talked about, they’re still a part of the queer umbrella. It’s a given that every member of the LGBTQ+ acronym has their own unique experiences and concerns, but what unites us is a common fight for recognition and respect in a world where these identities are not seen as the norm, even though LGBTQ+ people are everywhere.

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