Smile Smiling shows confidence and friendliness, which are both attractive features. So don a natural smile, make eye contact, and stand up straight when approaching your crush. * If you need reassurance, try practicing your smile and body language in the mirror beforehand. Keep it simple Asking directly is the quickest, clearest way to ask someone out and will show your crush that you are poised and confident. Examples: “I’d love to go out with you sometime, what do you think?” “Would you like to go out on a date with me?” Compliment them Hearing why you’re interested in them is a good lead-in and will make your crush more likely to respond positively. Examples: “I think you’re really smart and cute, would you like to go out with me sometime?” “I was really impressed by your performance in the show, you’re so talented! Are you interested in going out with me?” Consider shared interests Think about what you and your crush have in common and plan a date around that event or activity. Your crush will appreciate your thoughtfulness. Examples: “Since you like jazz, I have two tickets to see a quintet this weekend if you’d like to be my date?” “You’d mentioned your love of westerns and I happened to come across tickets to a special screening this Thursday night. Would you like to go with me?” Write them a note If you don’t want to ask out loud (or if you think they’d find it endearing) ask them out in a note. Just keep it short and simple! You can even write “yes” or “no” for them to circle. Examples: “I keep smiling at you during class because I’d really like to go out with you. Are you interested? Yes / No ” “I think you’re really smart and want to get to know you better. Can I take you on a coffee date sometime?” Suggest a group date If a one-on-one date sounds too scary right now, ask them to join you for a group date with other couples. You can ask them to join you and some friends as well, but they might think you two are just hanging out rather than going on a date. Examples: “Some coupled friends of mine are going to that new fancy sushi place this weekend if you’d like to come along as my date?” “I’m going to a movie with some friends of mine this weekend if you’d like to accompany me?” Keep it casual If your crush is a coworker or fellow student, use your shared schedule to your advantage and ask them out after work or class. Make it clear during or towards the end of your conversation that you’re interested in them by saying something like: “I feel like this is a date and I’m hoping it is. What do you think?” or “That was fun, we should go out again sometime soon.” Examples: “That was a long, boring series of meetings, huh? Want to unwind and do some venting over a drink?” “Would you like to join me for a bite to eat after class?”