Choose boundaries that will keep you safe, no matter how hard it is. * Financial: “I’m not giving you any more money. I’m done doing that.” * Physical: “You can’t come near me anymore. I don’t want to get a restraining order, but I will if I have to.” * Emotional: “You only say things that you know will hurt me. I’m not going to listen to you anymore.” Be firm about your needs. “I’m not going to talk to you when you’re being irrational.” “I’m not comfortable having this conversation with you.” Don’t argue with them—they’ll see it as a challenge and won’t give in until you do. “I’m not going to argue with you about this.” “I’ve made my decision, and it doesn’t matter what you say or do. This is what I’ve chosen.” Set personal boundaries for yourself, too. “If they try to talk with me, I’m going to walk away.” “No matter how much they beg, I have to remember that they’re not telling the truth.” “If they try to text me again, I’ll delete their number off of my phone.”