Live your own life Going out with friends, taking solo trips, and not being always available for him allows space for him to chase you. This can even be as simple as waiting a while before returning calls or texts. “I’m enjoying my own company this weekend, and I’m pretty cool so you have stiff competition!” “Thanks for the invite, but I’m spending quality time with my girlfriends tonight. You’ll have to try harder to tear me away from spa nights with my squad!” Play “fun” to get Some play hard to get—too hard, and that can easily be interpreted as disinterest. Turn him down for dates every so often just so he knows he has to compete with friends and family for your attention. Be playful in expressing that you’re busy. “I’m busy for the next few days, but maybe you can lure me out for a little while...” “I’m unavailable tonight, but go ahead and start thinking about how you’ll win me over tomorrow.” Dress up Dressing up on occasion will boost your confidence and your appeal. Plus, it shows that you put effort into impressing him (and his competition). Be mysterious Instead of sharing all your quirks and life history right off the bat, show him your truth in layers and keep him guessing. The less eager you are to share everything, the more he’ll work to get to know you. “I have some quirks, but you’ll find out about those in time.” “I’ve got some funny stories, maybe I’ll tell you sometime.” Be subtle Don’t be too eager for his attention. Keep your flirting subtle to show him that you’re enjoying the chase. ✗ Constant eye contact ✓ Gaze into his eye and intermittently look away ✗ Constantly hanging on his arm ✓ Lightly brushing his arm or hand with your fingers Express appreciation When you are together, compliment him on his efforts so he knows his chasing paid off (and will chase you again in the future). “I had so much fun last night, well done planning for go-karts and a nice meal! Thank you for a great night.” “I’m glad you convinced me to dress up and come out with you. You have great taste in restaurants.”