Tell them you want to have an honest conversation with no judgment. “I love you, and I want us to be honest with each other. We haven’t been intimate in a while, and it’s been making me feel really insecure.” “I know I haven’t been interested in sex lately and it’s been hard for both of us. It’s not easy to talk about but I think we should try.” Tell them honestly what you’re feeling. “I feel less connected to you, and like you’re not attracted to me.” “I’m working through some things emotionally that are hard to talk about, but I want to try…” Let them know that they’re not at fault. “I’m not blaming you for anything, but I need to let you know I feel.” “I want you to know that you’re not at all to blame.” Listen to their perspective and be empathetic. “I know this is hard to talk about, but can you try to tell me what you’re feeling, and what things are like from your perspective?” Ask if you can explore ways to meet each other’s needs. “I want to talk about ways we can meet each others’ needs while staying comfortable with each other.” “I want to try other ways of being intimate together, even if sex isn’t an option right now. Is that OK with you?”