She includes you in her future plans. “You know, I’ve always wanted to see more of the country. Wouldn’t it be fun for us to go on a road trip after graduation?” “If I get this job, I’ll be moving closer where you live! That means we can hang out a lot more after work.” She asks about your career plans, your ideal family, or your hopes and dreams. “Sometimes I wonder if I’ll be a different person ten years from now. Where do you think you’ll be in ten years?” “It’s pretty crazy that all our high school friends are getting engaged or having kids. Do you ever think about what it would be like to have a family?” She asks about your relationship with your family and about any previous romantic relationships. “Is family important to you? Are you close with your parents?” “I remember you told me about your ex Elise. What happened—why did you guys break up?” She shares her personal beliefs with you, and asks you about yours. “I almost never go to church, but I do believe that God exists. What do you think about that sort of stuff?” “Would you rather have a job you love, or make a lot of money? Personally, I think it’s better to be happy than to be rich.” She shares personal and meaningful stories about herself. “My best friend died a few years ago. I didn’t know how to process my feelings at the time, and only recently I’ve begun to realize how much her death affected me. Now whenever I think about her, I get really angry and upset with myself.”