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Asking someone about their favorite things is a great way to connect with them. In fact, research shows that engaging in reciprocal self-disclosure (revealing personal information about yourself and hearing personal information about someone else), dramatically increases closeness. [1] X Trustworthy Source Greater Good in Action An initiative by UC Berkeley's Greater Good Science Center promoting science-based practices for a meaningful life Go to source If youโre looking for some great โwhatโs your favoriteโ questions to get to know someone better, youโve come to the right place! Weโve compiled a complete list of โfavoritesโ questions about all kinds of topics, including personal identity, arts and entertainment, food, travel, and more. Keep reading to get inspired!
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Personal Identity Favorites Questions
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These basic โwhatโs your favorite questionsโ are perfect for connecting with someone youโve just met. According to research, reciprocal self-disclosure (revealing personal information about yourself and hearing personal information from someone else) increases feelings of closeness to an intense degree. [2] X Trustworthy Source Greater Good in Action An initiative by UC Berkeley's Greater Good Science Center promoting science-based practices for a meaningful life Go to source This is true on a date, at a social gathering, in the workplace, in the classroom, and beyond! Here are some questions to get you started:
- Whatโs your favorite hobby?
- Whatโs your favorite color?
- What is your favorite animal?
- Which is your favorite type of pet, dogs or cats?
- Whatโs your favorite Friday night activity?
- Whatโs your favorite way to spend a weekend?
- Whatโs your favorite day of the week?
- Whatโs your favorite time of day?
- Which is your favorite, sunrises or sunsets?
- Whatโs your favorite month of the year?
- Whatโs your favorite season?
- Whatโs your favorite type of weather?
- Whatโs your favorite holiday?
- Whatโs your favorite place?
- Whatโs your favorite room in your living space?
- Whatโs your favorite scent?
- What is your favorite type of car?
- What is your favorite sport to watch on TV?
- What is your favorite event to watch in the Olympics?
- What is your favorite sports team?
- Who is your favorite athlete?
- What is your favorite board game to play?
- What is your favorite video game to play?
- Whatโs your favorite photograph?
- Who is your favorite person in the world?
- Who is your favorite person to go out on the town with?
- Who is your favorite person to confide in when youโre sad?
- What is your favorite quality to find in a person?
- What is your favorite quality about yourself?
Memories & Personal History Favorites Questions
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Itโs no secret that people like to talk about themselves. But did you know thereโs a reason it feels so good to share a fond memory from your past? According to research, self-disclosure (talking about yourself) actually activates the areas of your brain that are associated with enjoyable feelings and reward. [3] X Research source So, if youโre trying to grow closer to someone, consider asking these questions about their personal history to get the positive feelings flowing.
- Whatโs your favorite childhood memory?
- Whatโs your favorite holiday tradition you did with your family?
- What was your favorite thing about the house you grew up in?
- What was your favorite toy or stuffed animal as a child?
- What was your favorite sport to play as a child?
- What is your favorite memory from a family vacation?
- What is your favorite experience you shared with your sibling(s)?
- Whatโs your favorite memory of your mother?
- Whatโs your favorite memory of your father?
- Whatโs your favorite memory of your grandparents?
- Whatโs your favorite memory of your family pet?
- Who was your favorite childhood friend?
- Who was your favorite friend from high school?
- What was your favorite thing about going to school when you were little?
- Whatโs your favorite memory from high school?
- Whatโs your favorite memory from college?
- What was your favorite extracurricular activity you participated in at school?
- Which of your birthdays has been your favorite so far?
- Out of all the birthday gifts youโve received in your life, which is your favorite?
- Out of all the birthday cakes youโve ever had, which is your favorite?
- What is your favorite Halloween costume youโve ever worn?
- What is your favorite Christmas present youโve received?
- What is your favorite New Yearโs Eve memory?
- What has been your favorite decade of your life so far?
Arts & Entertainment Favorites Questions
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Many people view their taste in art as an integral part of their identity. [4] X Research source Their favorite songs, shows, and films tend to have deep significance and meaning, and they light up with enthusiasm when they talk about these things. So, if you're trying to connect with someone on a deeper level, try asking about their favorite works of art and types of entertainment. Here are some questions to get you started!
- What is your favorite piece of visual art?
- What is your favorite type of visual art (photography, painting, sculpture, etc)?
- Whatโs your favorite memory of going to a museum?
- Whatโs your all-time favorite album?
- Who is your favorite music artist?
- What is your favorite genre of music?
- Whatโs your favorite song?
- Whatโs your favorite song lyric?
- What is your favorite nostalgic song from when you were growing up?
- What was your favorite song when you were in high school?
- Whatโs your favorite love song?
- Whatโs your favorite break-up song?
- Whatโs your favorite song to dance to?
- Whatโs your favorite karaoke song?
- Whatโs your favorite guilty pleasure song?
- Whatโs your favorite song that was released in the past year?
- Whatโs your favorite movie of all time?
- Whatโs your favorite scene from a movie?
- What is your favorite line from a movie?
- Who is your favorite actor?
- Who is your favorite director?
- What has been your favorite movie theater experience?
- What is your favorite genre of movies?
- Whatโs your favorite comedy movie?
- Whatโs your favorite drama movie?
- Whatโs your favorite animated movie?
- What was your favorite movie as a child?
- Whatโs your favorite TV show?
- Whatโs your favorite TV show to put on when youโre sad?
- Whatโs your favorite TV show to watch with friends or your significant other?
- What is your favorite play or musical?
- What is your favorite showtune?
Books & Literature Favorites Questions
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People love talking about their favorite pieces of literature for the same reasons they love talking about their favorite movies and music. We tend to view these things as important parts of our identities and personalities, and sharing them brings us closer together. [5] X Research source And, for people who are avid readers, thereโs nothing more enjoyable than discussing a great book with someone! Try asking these questions to get a great conversation flowing.
- What is your favorite novel of all time?
- What is your favorite non-fiction book?
- Who is your favorite author?
- Who is your favorite fictional character from a novel?
- What is your favorite literary trope?
- What is your favorite quote from a book?
- What is your favorite genre of books?
- What is your favorite fantasy book series?
- What is your favorite fictional world from a book that you would like to visit?
- What is your favorite book/movie adaptation combo?
- What is your favorite scary book?
- Who is your favorite literary villain?
- Who is your favorite couple from a book?
- What is your favorite guilty pleasure book?
- What is your favorite book cover?
- What was your favorite book as a child?
- What is your favorite place to buy books?
- Where is your favorite place to read?
- Which is your favorite, hardback or paperback books?
- What is your favorite way to read, physical books, e-books, or audiobooks?
- What is your favorite kind of e-reader (Kindle, Nook, etc)?
- What is your favorite way to display your books in your home?
- What is your favorite poem?
- Who is your favorite poet?
- What is your favorite line of poetry?
Fashion & Style Favorites Questions
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Personal style is also an important part of identity. Asking about someoneโs fashion preferences is a wonderful conversation starter, and itโs a unique way to get to know them better. Here are some examples of questions to ask:
- Which is your favorite, cold weather fashion or warm weather fashion?
- Who is your favorite fashion icon?
- What is your favorite clothing brand?
- Who is your favorite fashion designer?
- Where is your favorite place to shop for clothes?
- What is your favorite shoe you own?
- What is your favorite aesthetic to dress in?
- What is your favorite accessory?
- What is your favorite piece of jewelry?
- What is your favorite material to wear?
- What is your favorite pattern to wear?
- What is your favorite color to wear?
- What is your favorite place to get fashion inspiration?
- What is your favorite piece of fashion advice?
- What is your favorite fashion trend at the moment?
- Which is your favorite way to shop, in person or online?
- What is your favorite thrift store purchase?
- What is your favorite type of clothing or accessory to receive as a gift?
- What is your favorite hairstyle?
- What is your favorite skincare product?
- What is your favorite perfume to wear?
Food & Drinks Favorites Questions
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Food is an important part of human connection. Whether itโs a first date, Sunday dinner with the family, or extravagant spread at a holiday party, people naturally bond and converse over a shared meal. Food also plays an important role in memoryโclose your eyes and think about your momโs signature dish or your grandmotherโs delicious baked goods, and youโll be flooded with warm, fuzzy feelings. [6] X Research source Ask about someoneโs favorite foods to connect and start an interesting conversation.
- What is your favorite food?
- What is your favorite ice cream flavor?
- Whatโs your favorite comfort meal?
- What was your favorite meal as a kid?
- Which is your favorite, breakfast, lunch, or dinner?
- Whatโs your favorite restaurant?
- Whatโs your favorite dish from a restaurant?
- Whatโs your favorite place to get takeout from?
- What is your favorite appetizer?
- Whatโs your favorite type of dessert?
- What is your favorite pizza topping?
- Whatโs your favorite way to eat a bagel?
- Whatโs your favorite breakfast food?
- Whatโs your favorite type of sandwich?
- Whatโs your favorite type of soup?
- Whatโs your favorite late night snack?
- Whatโs your favorite dipping sauce?
- Whatโs your favorite salad dressing?
- Whatโs your favorite Thanksgiving food?
- What is your favorite nostalgic meal from childhood?
- Whatโs your favorite (and least favorite) vegetable?
- Whatโs your favorite cocktail?
- Whatโs your favorite soda?
- Which is your favorite, coffee or tea?
- Whatโs your favorite coffee shop?
Travel & Vacation Favorites Questions
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When people look back on their life experiences, amazing trips and vacations often stand out in their memories. Asking about these meaningful travel experiences is a great way to get to know someone better. Plus, you may even get some awesome recommendations for your next vacation!
- Whereโs your favorite place to go on vacation?
- What is your favorite country youโve traveled to?
- What is your favorite city in the world?
- Whatโs your favorite childhood memory from a family vacation?
- What is your favorite travel experience youโve ever had?
- What is your favorite activity to do when you travel?
- Which is your favorite, a warm, tropical vacation, or a cold, snowy vacation?
- What is your favorite way to meet people on vacation?
- Which is your favorite when youโre on vacation, staying in and relaxing, or going on lots of excursions?
- What is your favorite historical monument that youโve visited?
- What is your favorite view youโve ever seen on vacation?
- What is your favorite food that you tried on vacation?
- What is your favorite (and least favorite) airport?
- What is your favorite memory from a road trip?
- Which is your favorite, traveling alone or traveling in a group?
- Who is your favorite travel buddy?
- What is your favorite hotel?
- Which is your favorite, staying in a hotel, or renting an Airbnb?
- What is your favorite amusement park to visit?
- What is your favorite amusement park ride?
- What is your favorite travel hack?
Work & Career Favorites Questions
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These questions are great for breaking the ice in the workplace or making a good impression at networking events. In fact, research shows that people who ask more questions are more likely to leave a lasting positive impression on others. [7] X Trustworthy Source Association for Psychological Science Nonprofit organization devoted promoting trustworthy research and education in the psychological sciences Go to source
- Out of all the jobs youโve had, which was your favorite?
- Who is your favorite boss youโve ever had?
- Who is your favorite coworker youโve ever had?
- What is your favorite thing about your current job?
- What is your favorite field to work in?
- What is your favorite thing about working with your team?
- What is your favorite way to recharge after a long work day?
- What is your favorite career accomplishment youโve achieved so far?
- Whatโs your favorite kind of project to work on?
- Which is your favorite, in-person work or remote work?
- Whatโs your favorite thing about working from home?
- Whatโs your favorite thing about going in to the office?
- What is your favorite thing youโve learned from a job?
School & Academics Favorites Questions
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If youโre a teacher who wants to encourage deeper connections and camaraderie in the classroom, have your students ask each other questions that encourage self-disclosure. According to research, these types of questions increase feelings of closeness, and they can help students bond and feel more socially integrated at school. [8] X Trustworthy Source Greater Good in Action An initiative by UC Berkeley's Greater Good Science Center promoting science-based practices for a meaningful life Go to source The questions can be about anythingโfrom art to food to hobbiesโbut academic interests are a good place to start if students are shy about getting more personal.
- What is your favorite subject in school?
- Who is your favorite teacher?
- What is your favorite book youโve had to read for school?
- What is your favorite place to study?
- What is your favorite snack to have while studying?
- Which is your favorite, in-person classes or virtual classes?
- What is your favorite extracurricular activity?
- What is your favorite part of the school day?
- What is your favorite way to do school work, independently or with a group?
- What has been your favorite lesson from class so far this year?
Going Beyond โWhatโs Your Favoriteโ Questions
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To really deepen your connection, ask follow-up questions. Research shows that asking thoughtful follow-ups increases your likability. This is because follow-up questions show that you were actively listening to the person, and that you're genuinely interested in what they have to say. [9] X Trustworthy Source Association for Psychological Science Nonprofit organization devoted promoting trustworthy research and education in the psychological sciences Go to source So, donโt ask someone what their favorite thing is and leave it at that. Ask some meaningful follow-ups to get the conversation flowing! Here are examples:
- If you ask someone what their favorite travel destination is, and they say Italy, follow up with:
- โWow, that sounds amazing! What do you like the most about traveling there? Is it the food? Or maybe all the rich history and art?โ
- If you ask someone what their favorite childhood memory is, and they say going to see the ballet with their parents, follow up with:
- โThat sounds so incredible! Did you have a favorite ballet that you got to see? Or a favorite dancer?โ
- If you ask someone what their favorite genre of movies is, and they say comedy, follow up with:
- โI love comedies too! Have you seen any good ones recently? Iโd love some recommendations, if you have any!โ
- If you ask someone about their favorite subject in school, and they say math, follow up with:
- โThatโs so cool! What do you like so much about it? Do you have a favorite type of math to do, like algebra, geometry, or calculus?โ
- If you ask someone what their favorite travel destination is, and they say Italy, follow up with:
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- โ https://www.scientificamerican.com/article/the-neuroscience-of-everybody-favorite-topic-themselves
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