What lgtb label fits me?
I had a crush on my best friend and now I have a crush on this kid in one of my dance class but I don’t want/know how to tell her because we aren’t really friends. HOW DO I COME OUT?
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Figuring out your sexual orientation can be confusing and even overwhelming, but you’ve got this! Try taking our Sexuality Quiz
to see if it provides a label you align with. Just keep in mind that it might take time to figure out what label—if any—you identify with, but that’s normal, and it’s totally OK. Or you may land on a label…only to realize later it’s not quite right. That’s also OK!
Labels can be helpful, but sexuality is fluid, and it may continue to change as you grow. Try not to put too much pressure on yourself to find out an answer today: it’s OK to just explore! Like who you like, regardless of their gender, and try not to overthink it.
It might be worth spending a little time around your crush to get to know her as friends before telling her you like her. It can help you gauge her feelings (and maybe her sexuality), as well as help you feel more comfortable if or when you decide to confess your feelings. Initiate a casual hangout: invite her to see a movie or to do homework together at the library.
In the meantime, it might help to talk about your feelings with someone you trust, like a family member, friend, or guidance counselor. You might find some support in a local LGBTQ organization or club, whether in your school or in your community. It may also be worthwhile to check out the Trevor Project for guidance and support as you progress along your journey.
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Labels can be helpful, but sexuality is fluid, and it may continue to change as you grow. Try not to put too much pressure on yourself to find out an answer today: it’s OK to just explore! Like who you like, regardless of their gender, and try not to overthink it.
It might be worth spending a little time around your crush to get to know her as friends before telling her you like her. It can help you gauge her feelings (and maybe her sexuality), as well as help you feel more comfortable if or when you decide to confess your feelings. Initiate a casual hangout: invite her to see a movie or to do homework together at the library.
In the meantime, it might help to talk about your feelings with someone you trust, like a family member, friend, or guidance counselor. You might find some support in a local LGBTQ organization or club, whether in your school or in your community. It may also be worthwhile to check out the Trevor Project for guidance and support as you progress along your journey.
Everyone experiences their coming out journey in a different way, and one important thing to realize is that coming out is not a one-time event, but a life-time experience that an LBGTQ person repeatedly does in their lifetime due to our heteronormative world.
Examine some key factors before coming out to your crush, such as whether coming out potentially puts you at any sort of risk. Is your crush very religious? What are the cultural nuances that may impact how they respond? Do you have adequate resources to support yourself in the likelihood your crush responds extremely negatively to your disclosure?
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Examine some key factors before coming out to your crush, such as whether coming out potentially puts you at any sort of risk. Is your crush very religious? What are the cultural nuances that may impact how they respond? Do you have adequate resources to support yourself in the likelihood your crush responds extremely negatively to your disclosure?
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