How to Respond to a Friend Zone Text

That’s a great question, and I get why it feels tricky. In my book, Dr. Chloe’s 10 Commandments of Dating, I talk about the importance of confidence and clear communication in relationships. Try subtly shifting the dynamic by complimenting her in a way that goes beyond friendship, suggesting a more date-like activity, or playfully mentioning the idea of you two as a couple to gauge her reaction. If she responds positively, build on it. If not, you’ll have your answer without risking much. When the time feels right, you can say, “I’ve always valued our friendship, but I’d be lying if I said I never wondered what it would be like to date you. Have you ever thought about that?” This keeps it honest while leaving space for her comfort.

To move out of the friend zone, start by subtly testing the waters — give her compliments that go beyond what you'd typically say to a friend and suggest spending time together one-on-one. Gauge her reactions to see if she might be open to more, and if you feel the time is right, honestly express your feelings in a low-pressure way, making it clear that you value the friendship no matter her response. Be prepared for any outcome, respecting her feelings whether or not she feels the same, and always prioritize open communication to avoid any tension in your relationship. The key is to be honest, patient, and understanding, and to handle whatever happens with maturity.