Reach out directly Call your child on the phone, and leave a message if they don’t respond. Acknowledge the situation and let them know that you want to fix it. “Hi Anderson, it’s your dad. I know you aren’t speaking to me right now, but what I don’t know is why. Can you please let me know what I have done? I want to fix this problem, but I don’t what it is.” “Lisa, it’s Mom.” I’m sorry, but I don’t want to talk to you right now. “Honey, I understand that you are really upset with me. It’s ok if you don’t want to talk, but can you write or text me? I really want to figure this out.” Reach out through a family member or friend If your child refuses to engage, you could get in touch with another family member or acquaintance who might know what’s going on. “Bryan, I’m really desperate here. I know you’re one of Anderson’s best friends. Do you know anything about why he isn’t speaking to me anymore?” “Kevin, have you heard anything from Lisa recently? It’s been ages since she’s spoken with me. I think she’s ignoring me.” Send a letter or email It may feel less intrusive to your child if you express yourself via text. This can also give you the opportunity to really think about what you want to say to your son or daughter. Feel free to write and discard several rough drafts before sending the final version.