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Eddy Baller

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Eddy Baller is a Dating Coach and the Owner of a dating consulting and coaching service, Conquer and Win, based in Vancouver, Canada. Coaching since 2011, Eddy specializes in confidence building, advanced social skills, and relationships. Conquer and Win helps men worldwide have the love lives they deserve. His work has been featured in The Art of Manliness, LifeHack, and POF among others.

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Where should I touch her when kissing?
The hips are a great spot, regardless of if you're sitting or standing. Hands are great too—you can grab her hand and pull her in by the hand if you're standing or seated.
Is it normal for teeth to hit when kissing
Practice makes perfect. So you're gonna want to kiss a lot to get good at kissing, and you can. A basic rule for kissing is you want to match your partner, so whatever their movements are, try to match them, like yin and yang. You don’t want to be doing anything that is physically uncomfortable. If it's uncomfortable or awkward, or if you're drooling, that's not good. Bad kisses will usually involve bumping into each other, or your lips don't lock together, they're just doing their own things. So that's not a good sign.
I've been told I'm bad at kissing. Help?
A lot of people are bad at kissing when they start out, and that's okay. To get better at kissing, practice! Practice makes perfect. A basic rule for good kissing: match your partner. Whatever their movements are, mirror them, like yin and yang, the way they fit together nicely. You don't want to be doing anything that is physically uncomfortable or anything where you're not locked together in a comfortable way.

If it's uncomfortable or awkward, that's not good. Look at it like puzzle pieces. You want to fit together like a puzzle, so it's comfortable and there’s a lock; you just fit together. It should feel good. Fitting together is the basic rule for kissing well. Bad kisses will usually involve bumping into each other or your lips not locking together, just doing their own things. Try to avoid that.
I learned the average age for a first kiss is 15...
For your first kiss, take it easy and build up to the moment. Start with a little bit of light physical contact. You might start by massaging her hand, then moving up her arm. You're basically building up the level of intimacy and also seeing how comfortable she is, because if she's not comfortable with this physical touch, she's not going to be comfortable with you kissing her either.

To look for an opportunity for your first kiss, wait for a pause where there's a lot of romantic tension—you're looking into each other's eyes and there’s that kind of awkward smile when you're looking at each other. You might just want to go for it then! Reach over behind her head gently or lean up to reach her and then go for a kiss. You're going to find out very quickly if it's going to work or not because she's either going to turn her head or move away or respond well and lean into it.

Usually in that kind of moment, it's easy to feel that romantic tension. You're both looking at each other's eyes very intently. You're both smiling. There's a pause. Nobody's saying anything. That's a great time to just go for your first kiss!
Why do humans kiss?
I think there are two sides to that question: 1) How can you tell if a woman wants a man to kiss her? and 2) How can you tell if a man wants to kiss a woman? If you want to know if a woman wants a man to kiss her, the pause where you have a lot of sexual tension is probably the best indication. If she just stares into his eyes and smiles and allows herself to feel butterflies, hopefully that's going to initiate the same response in him. Usually people will mirror each other in these kinds of situations. If he has some balls and he understands the situation, then he might just go for it. Obviously, if you're trying to get somebody else to do something, there's always that risk of they're not gonna understand completely, or if he's really shy, maybe he'll look away and then break that tension and the moment is gone. But that's the main thing—locking your eyes together, smiling, and just pausing. Take it slowly, you don't have to rush to anything.

If you're wondering how to tell if a man wants a woman to kiss him, he's probably going to be looking at her lips and awkwardly smiling a lot. But either way, there should be some sexual tension—you're looking at each other, you feel this thing, this energy or chemistry. There’s usually a lot of smiling going on and looking between the eyes and the lips. That's a good sign he wants to kiss.

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