Friendship problems. Please help chat :(

04/22/25 8:52pm

I used to hang out with a group of friends but until this one girl came and ruined everything trying to make me out of the group and making me jealous. I feel like no one likes me anymore and you know at some point when you did feel liked loved or whatever it can be all gone.

Now they try avoiding me and just talk rumors and just constantly give me glares and you know it hurt my feelings. the girl who messed up everything—they used to not like her but things just changed. Now the people who used to treat me well and were kind now treat me like garbage.

I tried sharing my feelings and talking to them about it and trying to sort it out but they just try avoiding it and shutting it down. You might just reply saying leave it all but I can't. I wanna get back at her for what she did. I did nothing at all. what did I ever do? It hurts. When I was typing this I was crying.

I hope you can reply to this. No one likes me anymore and I don't know why. I hate her! She's the worst! What do I do guys? :(

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wikiHow Editorial Team

04/22/25 8:53pm

Having friends turn on you this way is one of the most painful things you can experience. We're sorry this is happening to you. It seems like you've done your best to resolve the conflict and talk things through, but unfortunately, you can't make people come around if aren't willing to—and it sounds like your friends have shown their true colors.

It's easy to say "Good riddance!" or that you've dodged a bullet—that may all be true, but it doesn't diminish the pain of being rejected and having rumors spread about you, especially if you don't know why. It's tempting to seek revenge, but the best way to move forward and heal from this loss may just be to take as much space as you can from this group for a while.

Spend time with family or other friends or classmates you know who aren't associated with this group—people who will remind you that the friends you've lost aren't the only friends out there and that it's possible to move on and be happy again. This pain will pass and the rumors will die, and life will eventually start to feel somewhat normal again. Hang in there!

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Jessica George, MA, CHt
Certified Professional Master Life Coach

04/22/25 9:19pm

Losing friends is hard at any age, but it is a natural progression in life. Feel your pain, maybe even talk about it with a professional, and eventually, time will heal it. Be good to yourself. Don't ruminate too much or speculate, and be certain that you do not speak ill of them in your social settings. Count your blessings and have gratitude for the love and friendships that you have.

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