Have I found the one?

08/25/25 4:11pm

My boyfriend and I have been dating since V-day of 2024 and at that point we knew each other for five months. The day we met I already felt sparks flying, same for when I started having a crush on him which was over a month later. We met in a video game club at school. I started emailing him to keep in touch and to get to know him better since he's a grade above me and we didn't have any classes together. At this point now, we have been hugging and hand holding, and we are probably gonna kiss this year since we have talked about it. Not to mention we have a lot in common and naturally get along and have never fought, we talk about things before they have the chance to be a problem. How can I know for sure that he's the one?

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Lauren Sanders
Matchmaker & Dating Coach

08/25/25 6:19pm

Someone who is "the one" will possess good communication skills, selflessness, patience, and an overall giving spirit. This person will also be genuinely concerned about your well-being. They’ll never leave you hanging, and will always be there for you. They also don’t mind being inconvenienced to help you. This is big. Your soulmate will do anything and everything to make sure you are taken care of, and won’t make you feel bad about it.

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UnicorngirlGamer

08/25/25 6:40pm

Jason possesses all of that, when I had poison ivy on my hands he didn’t mind holding hands, and yesterday we just had our first kiss and it was very spark filled. Both of our most valued possessions are things that the other made/gifted.

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Dev Murphy
wikiHow Staff

08/25/25 6:30pm

Hey, congrats to you! It sounds like you've found a really special partner and have cultivated a meaningful and healthy relationship together. We love to see it! The notion of a single perfect "one" or "soulmate" can apply a lot of pressure onto a relationship, and while we can't say for sure that soulmates exist, we can say it sounds like your boyfriend possesses a lot of great qualities that could make him "the one." What other boxes on the soulmate must-have list does he check? Here are some of the things we look for in a healthy relationship:

You both communicate clearly and respectfully.
You have chemistry and share mutual attraction.
You have similar interests and hobbies.
You share similar beliefs and core values.
You share a similar vision of the future.
He makes you feel seen, understood, and cherished.

You may not know whether he checks every box just yet, and that's OK! Right now, you seem to have a healthy, promising relationship, and you could very well stay together for a long, long time—maybe even the rest of your lives. But I'd encourage you to not worry too much about whether he's "the one." Instead, enjoy the relationship you've got going in the present, and see where it leads. With continued love, respect, and great communication, you and your boyfriend stand a chance of being together for the long haul.

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