Judgmental Uncritical “I’m being too shy and awkward.” “I have a quiet confidence that people respect.” “I haven’t accomplished enough.” “I haven’t accomplished much yet, but I’m growing and learning. My best is yet to come.” “She’s such a rude person.” “Everyone has bad days. If I’m nice to her, she might feel less defensive.” “He really needs to lose some weight.” “Weight isn’t the most important thing about a person. He’s really kind and has a great smile.” “Why doesn’t she just try harder? Everyone else can do it right.” “There might be an outside issue that’s causing her to have trouble. I could offer my help and see if there’s anything I could do.” “He’s so stuck-up.” “I barely know him. He seems aloof, but he might just be shy.” “I can’t believe I missed that last test question. Everyone else got it right.” “I tried really hard on this test. My score wasn’t quite what I wanted it to be, but now I know what to work on and I can do better next time.”