Talk about sexual health beforehand. “I like you a lot and I wanted to get on the same page before we take this further.” Ask whether they’ve been tested. “This is kind of awkward to bring up, but I was wondering if you’ve ever been tested? I want to make sure we keep each other safe.” “FYI, I got tested for STDs last month and I didn’t have anything. Have you ever been tested?” Talk about contraception options. “What kind of birth control do you want to use?” “Can we talk about what kind of birth control options we have?” Get consent before you try anything new. “Is it OK if I touch you here?” “What do you feel like doing tonight?” “Do you still want to do this? We can stop if this is going too fast.”