Plan ahead Practice what you’re going to say and how to say it. You may have to tailor the script to different people according to their respective communication styles. Choose your method and/or location Some people are more comfortable coming out in a letter or email rather than in person. Think of what works best for you. If you choose to come out face to face, do so in a safe, neutral space. Choose the first person wisely Think of people or a person in your life that you think will be the most supportive and come out to them first. Be prepared Prepare to have periods of silence and/or questions. Allow others time to digest the information you’ve just shared with them. If you have a feeling they will have a negative reaction, have an exit plan or strategy to cope with the things they may say to you. For example, have a supportive person waiting for you outside in case you need to leave. Do some research Know some stats and history about trans people in case they have questions. Also, provide information about gendered pronouns and how you’d like to be addressed. Be confident Denial may be a response, but be confident and don’t let others try to talk you out of being your true self or dismiss it as “just a phase.” Make connections Chat with other trans people online or in your city and ask them about their coming out experiences. You can also read coming out stories on blogs and in books to get ideas about how you want to come out to others and what to expect. Be patient and understanding Coming out to parents may be a little tricky. Some parents may feel they have “lost” a son or daughter and need time to process the information. Be patient. First reactions might not be representative of how they feel. It’s important to understand that just because you are realizing your true self does not mean your relationships have to change. However, if someone is unsupportive of who you are, understand that it may be time to let go of that relationship.