What to Say When Someone Asks “What Do You Like About Me?”

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Examples of how to answer “Why do you like me?”
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It can feel stressful when someone asks you, “What do you like about me?” Even if you have lots of reasons why you like the person, being put on the spot can make it hard to come up with something. Give your crush, partner, or friend an answer that makes them feel great with our helpful guide on how to answer “What do you like about me?”

How to Answer “What Do You Like About Me?”

  • "You're the first person to treat me like I'm truly special."
  • “You’re fearless! I love how brave you are.”
  • “You’re so ambitious when it comes to reaching your dreams.”
  • “You’re a really amazing friend to me.”
  • “You’re so funny! I still laugh about the practical joke we played on your brother last summer.”
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Give them a compliment.

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  1. If the question catches you off guard or makes you nervous, take a deep breath and think for a second. Whether the person asking is a friend, family member, crush, or significant other, think about what makes them, well, them ! Then craft a compliment that’s unique to who they are. [1]
    • “You’re a really amazing friend to me.”
    • “You’re such a thoughtful boyfriend."
    • “You’re a guy’s dream girl.”
    • “You are the most wonderful partner I could ask for.”
    • “You’re the best friend ever.”
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Explain how they make you feel.

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  1. To a friend, you could say something like, “I like the fact that you’re always there for me. You make me feel so supported.” To a significant other, you could say, “You’re so caring. You always put a lot of thought into our relationship.” Here are some other examples: [2]
    • "You're the first person to treat me like I'm truly special."
    • "I look forward to our hangouts all week long. I have so much fun with you."
    • “I truly feel like myself whenever we’re together.”
    • “You always manage to bring me out of the dumps.”
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Talk about their best trait.

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  1. When you think about this person and their personality, what’s the first good thought or word that comes to mind? Are they funny? Smart? Determined? Talented? Happy? Attractive? Energetic? Whatever it is, speak your mind and tell them about it! Say things like: [3]
    • “I like how funny you are. You always make me laugh when we hang out!”
    • “I like that you’re a happy and positive person. You create a good vibe around yourself, and I like being around you.”
    • “You’re so ambitious when it comes to reaching your dreams.”
    • “I love how, no matter how early it is, you’re always ready for an adventure.”
    • “Whenever I see you, you always look so well put together.”
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Be positive and specific.

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  1. Instead of saying something vague like, “You’re good at school,” try something like, “You’re so talented in art class. Your last project was great. I wish I could draw that well!” Instead of a generic answer like, “You’re always nice to everyone,” you can say, “You really go out of your way to be kind and compassionate to other people." Use specific words like “talented” and “compassionate.” Try things like: [4]
    • “You’re fearless! I love how brave you are.”
    • “I see how patient you are with others you meet.”
    • "You're so knowledgeable and passionate about music! Every time we hang out, you share new bands with me."
    • “No challenge seems to get you down. You persevered when you had to pass the hardest math course, even when it seemed impossible.”
    • “You’re so empathic when your siblings have problems; they can always depend on you to help them through.”
    • “Being positive is so important to you, especially where your future is concerned.”
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  1. You could tell a friend, “You were really there for me when my dog Lucy died. I was so upset, and you took the time to comfort me.” You could say to a significant other, “You really showed your thoughtfulness when you planned a picnic for us on our two-month anniversary.” Here are some other things you can say:
    • “You’re so funny! I still laugh about the practical joke we played on your brother last summer.” [5]
    • “You called to check on me when I was sick. No one else did.”
    • “You’re so smart. I aced the last algebra exam because you helped me study.”
    • “You showed how thoughtful you are when you took care of your grandma after her fall.”
    • “You cherish our relationship so much when I think of how you planned my birthday party last summer.”
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Be sincere.

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  1. Share your true feelings to give them a caring, meaningful response to “ What do you like about me? ” Think about your inside jokes, the time you’ve spent together, and things you know about them that no one else does. Show them that you like them for exactly who they are. [6]
    • "You've been my best friend since we were five years old. We've been through so much together. I can't imagine my life without you in it."
    • “You stole my heart from the first moment we met and have made me so happy ever since. I’ll always be by your side.”
    • “I was drawn to you right away. The way you stand up for others and speak your mind captivates me.”
    • It’s unlikely, but if you are asked this question by someone that you don’t like or don't know well, try to be nice to them about it. Answer as sincerely as you can. You could say, "I don't know you that well, but you seem like a really nice person."
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Focus on their personality rather than their looks.

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  1. It’s okay to tell someone they are pretty or handsome, but if looks are the only thing you mention, they might feel like their outward appearance is the only likable thing about them. Say things like: [7]
    • “You’re a great listener. You were there for me after my breakup.”
    • “You inspire me every time we talk. You convinced me to apply to graduate school, and I got in!”
    • "You have a good heart. You’re always taking care of your little brother when he needs you.”
    • “You’re such a genius. You managed to get a scholarship to the school of your dreams.”
    • “You make me feel important. Whenever we go out, I never want the night to end.”
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Say something that will boost their confidence.

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  1. Encourage the person with statements that bolster their self-esteem. Help them realize how important they are as a friend or partner in your life. Say things like: [8]
    • "I've never felt this strongly about someone. You mean everything to me."
    • "My friendship with you is the reason I believe in the goodness of people."
    • “I’d go to the ends of the earth if you needed me to.”
    • “I’ve never had a friend as special as you and never will!”
    • “You’re my dream guy—I can’t believe I’m lucky enough to have you.”

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    What are the reasons why someone asks this question?
    Julie Krizner
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    Julie Krizner is a Licensed Professional Counselor and is the Executive Director at Axiom Family Counseling Services. With over 10 years of professional experience in the mental health field, Julie is trained in trauma, marriage, and family therapy. Her clinics have programs that specialize in addiction and she has extensive knowledge about addiction and medications to assist with overcoming it. Julie is a Certified Advanced Alcohol and Drug Counselor in the state of Pennsylvania. She received her Bachelor's degree in Psychology from Saint Vincent College and a Master's in Mental Health Counseling from Capella University.
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    There are two types of people who ask these questions. First, they might be insecure about themselves, and they're not sure why you're their friend. They may also not value themselves, so they're looking for someone to validate them. Second, introspective people. They want to know what they're bringing to somebody, and they want to know what they can do more to make sure that they're meeting the needs of the other person. If you were asked this question, I would respond with genuine responses like, you're a great person and you're perfect just the way you are.
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    What should I say when a guy asks me what's so special about him?
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    It's the same basic question. Just be honest. Tell him what his best qualities are, why you agreed to go out with him, etc.
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    I told the boy who asked me why I liked him, "You're different." he said, "Everyone says that, what else?" I said I'd have to think about it. What do I say to him?
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    Be honest, tell him what first made you like him and why he is different.
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      5. ↑ http://tinybuddha.com/blog/52-ways-tell-someone-love-appreciate/
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      If someone asks you “What do you like about me,” start by saying something basic based on their relationship to you. For instance, if they’re your significant other, you can say, “You’re a really thoughtful boyfriend.” By starting with a basic compliment, you can buy some time to think of something more detailed in case the question caught you off guard. When you do think of something specific, focus on their positive personality traits and back it up with an example. You can say, “You’re so smart. I aced my last algebra exam because you helped me study.” It might seem flattering to mention their looks, but avoid spending too much time praising their appearance because it might seem like you don’t care about their personality. For more help, including how to add more sincerity to your answer, scroll down.

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