How to Attract an Aquarius Woman (12 Flirting Tips)

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If you've got your eye on an Aquarius woman, you're likely drawn to her eccentric, forward-thinking nature. As the rebel of the Zodiac, there's not a rule an Aquarius woman won't break. It's hard not to fall for someone so dynamic and one-of-a-kind, and we're here to help you win her affection. If you want the heart of an Aquarius woman, embrace her adventurous lifestyle and show her what makes you unique, too.

This article is based on an interview with our astrologer and performance artist, Angel Eyedealism. Check out the full interview here.

Seducing an Aquarius Woman

  1. Strike up an intellectual conversation about philosophy or art.
  2. Be mysterious and hold back on telling her everything about yourself.
  3. Build a friendship with her first.
  4. Appreciate her quirks and what makes her unique.
  5. Show her your quirks and unique interests.
1

Engage her mind with stimulating conversations.

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  1. Talking all night is a surefire way to attract an Aquarius woman. Bring up subjects like philosophy, art, politics, and humanitarian causes to really pique her interest. [1] As you talk, share your opinion freely and listen to hers. Just make sure you keep your cool. Aquarians like a respectful debate, but heated, emotionally-charged conversations aren't their thing. Approach the conversation with kindness and an open mind and she'll be crushing on you in a heartbeat. [2]
    • If you run into this Aquarius woman at a party, you might comment on the art on the wall. You could say, "I know that painting is abstract, but I swear I see a dog. What do you see?"
    • Text her a link to an article on the latest current event in the news. If anyone wants to talk about politics with a crush, it's an Aquarius. Add the caption, "Just read this and I've got so many thoughts. I'd love to hear your take on it."
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2

Adopt an air of mystery when you talk to her.

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  1. If you reveal too much about yourself or seem too available to her, she might get uncomfortable or turned off. [3] Let her get to know you more incrementally by giving her a few details about yourself over time.
    • When she asks what you like to do for fun, avoid listing every hobby you can think of. Say something like, "I dabble in a lot of things. Snowboarding is my favorite, though 🙂"
    • If you get on the subject of your childhood, skip the in-depth life story at this stage. Mention a funny anecdote instead like, "I had a pretty good childhood. Did I tell you about the time I almost got cast in a commercial?"
    • To increase the mystery factor, try ending the conversation first sometimes. Aquarius women enjoy the chase, so she'll like wondering what you're up to and hoping you'll text her again soon.
3

Be her friend.

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  1. [4] Because of this, Aquarians value forging strong, meaningful friendships with the people in their lives, including their lovers. Show her that you're a true friend and she'll likely catch feelings for you. Ways you can be a good friend to an Aquarius woman include: [5]
    • Listening to her when she talks to you (and putting your phone away)
    • Encouraging her anytime she needs a pep talk
    • Joking around and goofing off together
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4

Compliment her on what makes her unique.

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  1. [6] An Aquarius woman is no stranger to criticism and judgemental stares. If you show her that you appreciate her for all of her quirks and eccentricities, she'll probably fall for you immediately. Tell her what you like about her and be specific.
    • You might say, "Your mind works in such mysterious ways. I want to know your opinion on everything" or "I could talk to you for hours. No one sees things the way you do."
    • If you want to compliment her appearance, hone in on something specific so the compliment feels special. Text her, "You looked beautiful in that tie-dye dress today. You've got such great style."
5

Show off your quirky side.

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  1. As you get to know this Aquarius woman, don't be shy about your weirder interests and pastimes. Aquarius women are interested in all things strange and taboo, so your guilty pleasures are exactly what she wants to learn more about. [7]
    • Maybe you're in a rock band, but you secretly love pop music. You might say something like, "Can I tell you a secret? I may look hardcore, but I'm actually a huge ABBA fan."
    • Nervous about telling her you're playing Dungeons and Dragons? Don't be! Text her, "I don't know what you're up to right now, but I just slayed a dragon." There's not an Aquarius woman in the world that won't be into that.
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6

Get a little flirty.

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  1. They are the intellectuals of the Zodiac, after all. To win her over, share some inside jokes, playfully tease her to start up a little debate, and even try some subtle innuendo. She'll be excited to have found an intellectual match and will likely start flirting back (Aquarius women are known charmers themselves). [8]
    • To joke around, try sending funny GIFS from TV shows, memes, or humorous articles. An Aquarius will likely enjoy a GIF from a trippy cartoon, an astrology meme, or a witty satirical essay from the Humor section of a magazine.
    • To tease her, you might say something like, "Okay, this movie you recommended is awesome. It's also the weirdest movie I've ever seen. Where do you find this stuff!?"
    • Make things a little more romantic with some sexy wordplay. You might try, "Dang it's so cold in my apartment. Wish you were here to warm things up 😉"
7

Take her on unexpected and imaginative dates.

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  1. An Aquarius woman gets bored easily, so she might grow tired of weekly dinner dates. [9] Instead, plan dates that are activity-based, like hiking, bowling, or even volunteering. Opt for things you've never tried before to show her how bold and spontaneous you are. She'll love that you keep her on her toes and will be happy to have found someone as adventurous as she is.
    • An Aquarius will also love dates that are creatively stimulating. Try attending a painting and wine night, taking a cooking class, or exploring a local bookstore in your area.
    • Don't be afraid to change things up. If you're worried she's getting bored with the usual routine, text her something like, "I know we planned on cooking tonight, but would you wanna check out that new pizza place instead?"
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8

Surprise her with a meaningful gift.

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  1. Aquarians need to be appreciated by their lovers, otherwise they won't hesitate to go their own way. To show your deep appreciation for her, give her a small gift. Pick something that relates to an interest of hers, like a vinyl record of her favorite album or a book by an author she adores. She'll be touched by the gesture and will be happy to have found someone that makes her feel so valued. [10]
    • Aquarians are known creatives. You might also give her something related to her artistic pursuits, like paintbrushes, a pack of colored pencils, or some nice pens.
    • It's okay if you don't have a big budget for a gift. Aquarians aren't very impressed by extravagance, so she'll be just as happy to receive a curated playlist, a drawing, or a handpicked flower you found in your neighborhood.
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    • Pay attention to your Aquarius woman's specific interests and choose her gift accordingly.
9

Experiment in the bedroom.

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  1. [11] There aren't many turn-ons that will scare off an Aquarius, and they may have some unique desires of their own. As things start to heat up, talk about your fantasies in the bedroom and ask her about hers. She'll love being around someone that's so comfortable with their sexuality. [12]
    • To bring up the subject, you might say something like, "I can't stop thinking about last night. Is there anything you've ever wanted to try together?" or "I can't get enough of your kisses. Is there anything I can do to return the favor?"
    • Make sure this Aquarius woman knows that you like her for more than just her sexuality. Even in a casual arrangement, Aquarians need to be sure that you appreciate their personality before they can lose their inhibitions with you.
    • Only do what you're comfortable with. If you're not ready to experiment in the bedroom just yet, that's totally okay. Aquarians are usually very understanding people, and there are a ton of other ways to attract them.
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Comfort her in times of need.

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  1. As ultra-independent people in their public life, Aquarians want a lover that can help them and be a true partner to them in private. Encourage her if she ever feels insecure about her unique way of being, be there for her when she needs some help, and show her that she can really trust you. [13] You'll get through to her hidden, sensitive side and make her fall head over heels for you.
    • Next time she starts feeling down about herself, say something like, "You really are so special. The world would be a way less interesting place without you."
    • Maybe she's overwhelmed by a letter-writing campaign she signed up for. Help her out and spend the day writing with her!
    • If you offer to do a favor for her, make sure you follow through. To really attract an Aquarius, you need to show her that she can depend on you.
11

Give her space to do her thing.

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  1. [14] Avoid taking it personally if she declines an invitation to watch a sci-fi movie marathon or read philosophy all day. Let her recharge on her own time and respect her need for space. If you give her time to decompress and do her thing, she'll be happy to have found a person that really understands her. [15]
    • If she says she's not able to make plans that week because she's busy with an art project, send an encouraging and understanding text back. You might say, "I totally get it. Send me updates if you can! I love getting a behind-the-scenes look at your art."
    • Maybe she's got to go home early from a date to finish a comic book that she's obsessed with. Say something like, "I understand, but only if you let me borrow it when you're done. That book sounds awesome!"
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Respect her independence.

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  1. [16] As you get to know each other, avoid pressuring her to commit. Instead, focus on enjoying your time together, keep making dates, and be patient. Aquarians like to be extra sure before they settle down. If you don't try to pin her down, she'll have no problem committing to you when she's ready. [17]
    • Rather than planning dates months in advance, stick to making more spontaneous plans. For example, hold off on inviting her to a family wedding that's months away. Ask her to get drinks with you that week instead.
    • Even if she commits, an Aquarius woman will still want to spend plenty of time with her friends. Avoid getting jealous, play it cool when she's hanging out with other people, and embrace the fact that she's such a popular, well-liked lady!

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    Angel Eyedealism is an Astrologer and Performance Artist based in the Lower East Side of Manhattan. With nearly three decades of astrology experience, Angel specializes in relocation astrology and astrocartography. Eyedealism has been featured in numerous media outlets such as Vogue, Cosmopolitan, The Atlantic, The Washington Post, Refinery29, NBC, MTV, Showtime, and Bravo. Angel aims to help others through a straightforward, kind, and humorous astrological lens, utilizing her entertainment and singing skills for performance art astrology readings.
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    You must engage mentally first. Impress them with your intellect and remind them of your interest in their physical body, their sexuality, their emotions, etc. because this sign has a great ability to detach. Don't let that happen.
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