Cath Hakanson

Global Sex Educator

Cath Hakanson is a global sex educator based in Greater Perth, Australia. With over 25 years of experience, Cath believes that parents should be able to educate their children about sex in a shame-free and fear-free way. As the founder of Sex Ed Rescue and Sex Ed Shop, she is on a mission to equip parents with the tools and confidence to make sex education more comfortable. Cath has helped over 1 million people around the world by creating comprehensive sex ed materials for parents, on topics including sex, gender identity, body diversity, consent, and more. Cath has previous experience as a sexual health nurse, a post-graduate certificate in sexual health and venereology, a master's in health promotion, and a post-graduate diploma in sexology. Her work has been featured in The New York Times, Women’s Health, Cosmopolitan, and more.

Education

  • Masters, Health Promotion, Curtin University
  • Post-Graduate Diploma, Sexology, Curtin University
  • Post-Graduate Certificate, Sexual Health & Venereology, Sydney Hospital
  • Certificate, Midwifery, Royal Darwin Hospital
  • Certificate, General Nursing, Ipswich Hospital

Professional Achievements

  • Founding Member (Treasurer) for the WA Branch, Society Australian Sexologists
  • Nursing and Midwifery Board of Australia (NMBWA) Research Fellowship Award, 2009
  • Australasian Sexual Health and HIV Nurses' Association (ASHHNA) Scholarship, 2008

Certifications & Organizations

  • Registered Nurse, Australian Health Practitioner Regulation Agency
  • Clinical Sexuality Educator, Society of Australian Sexologists
  • Member, World Association for Sexual Health

Favorite Piece of Advice

The more up front and clear we can be with our kids – in an entirely age-appropriate and values-aligned way – the more empowered they are to make smart sexual decisions.

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Forum Comments (11)

Basic pointers how to dirty talk?
Some great responses and I'll echo some of them! Dirty talk is like learning how to ride a bike as an adult, you might feel awkward (and a little silly) as you wobble and keep falling off in front of other people. But over time, you start to feel more natural and comfortable with it.

Trying new things can be a great way to add spice to a sexual relationship, just be mindful though, that some of the things you can try (like dirty talk) won't work for everyone. Or one partner may enjoy it, whilst the other won't.

Also there are different types of dirty talk, and some of it can be quite disrespectful (like what you may see in porn). So you may find it more helpful to start by talking about what you would like to do to them, or what you'd like them to do to you, and to vocalise the pleasure you feel when they touch you, and to give them more vocal/verbal feedback!
How often should couples have sex?
There is lots (and lots) of research that looks at the average number of times that couples have sex, and the averages haven't really changed over the years.
And I agree with the editorial team that it's about what works for you and your partner, and what's 'normal' for one couple might not be normal for another couple.
Communication is important when you're in a sexual relationship, so if you are unhappy about how much sex you do (or don't) have with your sexual partner, then it's important to talk about it.
I think I'm aromantic...
A great question, and honestly, it isn't a simple answer so I'd encourage you to check out one of my fave websites as they have some great resources to help you figure it out! Here's the link: https://www.minus18.org.au/

But, I do also want to mention that some people don't start to have sexual or romantic feelings for people until their late teens, early to mid, or even late twenties. We all develop and grow at different rates. And there is a lot of pressure from society to have a romantic partner, and if you don't (and are uninterested in even having one) you'll start to question whether you're aromantic, and well meaning friends/family may even try to tell you that you are. So you may well be a 'late bloomer' and it's too soon yet to know if you are or aren't!
This quiz said I'm bisexual...
Bisexuality is when you're romantically/sexually attracted to people who are the same sex as you, and people who are of a different sex to you.

Sometimes it can take a little while to know who you are attracted to, so uncertainty can happen until your late teens to even mid to late twenties! Some people may think they are straight/hetero, and then when they leave school, start uni/get a job, they then realize they are also attracted to people of the same sex as them. And then a few years later (or months), they realize they're attracted to people of the same sex as well as a different sex to them. I'd encourage you to be curious and just see what happens, if you meet someone who you find attractive, be open minded and see where it goes.
Am I lesbian?
If you’re looking for some clarity, try checking in with yourself. If you’re reading a romance novel about two women, do you feel drawn to it? When you fantasize, who are you imagining? These things can sometimes help. The most important thing is to stay curious. Don’t overthink it, and give yourself time to see what feels right.
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Find relief fast with these tips Blue balls (medically known as epididymal hypertension) is a condition where blood accumulates in the genitals during sexual arousal, but is never released due to a failure to orgasm.. 17...

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Do I Have a Sex Addiction Quiz

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