Suzanna Mathews

Dating & Relationship Coach

Suzanna Mathews is a Dating and Relationship Coach and the Founder of The Date Maven. With over a decade of experience, she specializes in creating mindset tools, social strategies, and digital strategies that help her clients elevate dating and deepen connections. Suzanna holds a BA in Communications from Bethel College, North Newton, and an MA in Theater and Dramatic Arts from Wichita State University.

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Forum Comments (3)

How do you save a dry conversation?
Throw something random out! All you have to do is say is "hey, quick question" or "hey, random thought." This gives you permission to bring up just about anything.
What does a good dating profile look like for a guy?
You say you're a good-looking guy, and I'm sure you are, but do your photos represent that? It may seem obvious, but a good profile picture for Bumble or Tinder or any one of those is not the same as a good profile for LinkedIn. I was coaching a client who used his LinkedIn picture in his dating profiles, and while it was very nice looking, he was very professional and it didn't come across as warm or fun—it didn't make potential dates say "I'd like to meet this person." There are different pictures for different contexts.

So, get five pictures together where you come across warm and approachable. Put your best picture first, that's your lead picture. And then if you have a picture, that is your weakest of, say, the five or the six or whatever, put that one in the middle, and then put your second strongest picture at the very end. So the very first thing that they see and the very last thing that they see, those are your strongest pictures.
How do you tell if someone's being flirty or friendly?
So, this advice might vary a little bit depending upon whether the person asking is male or female, and whether they're interacting with someone who's male or female. There's a little bit of a stereotype about men often being a little bit oblivious, and there's a reason for the stereotype. Oftentimes, you have to be a little more explicit and direct with men: people can think they're dropping all kinds of hints, and then the guy is just not picking them up. So sometimes you have to get a little bit more straightforward in those circumstances.

Anyway, the core of flirting is simply playfulness. It's having fun, it's building a connection so that, even if it doesn't lead anywhere, both people feel uplifted and like they had a good time. If this person is being playful and fun with you, it's possible they're trying to flirt.

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