55 Fun & Flirty Ways to Start a Tinder Conversation

Follow these tips and tricks to improve your odds of getting a reply

Co-authored by Finn Kobler Reviewed by John Keegan

Last Updated: August 9, 2023 Fact Checked

If you've matched with a hottie and have been scratching your head trying to figure out how to start the conversation, don’t stress. We’re here to offer you dozens of top-notch ways to effortlessly slide into their messages. From silly pick-up lines to intimate, thought-provoking questions, by the time you’re done reading, your matches will surely be impressed by how you break the ice.

Things You Should Know

Send a fun or flirty joke or pick-up line to break the ice and make your match smile.
Reference their profile in your conversation to show you’re interested and create easy topics for conversation.
Find something you and your match have in common and mention it. If you don’t have a lot of similar interests, ask them to teach you about theirs.

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Make a reference to their profile.

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Show them that you're interested in them as a person. Odds are, your match worked hard to make their profile sparkle and reflect their personality. Show you’ve done your research by commenting on something they put in their bio or one of their photos that really pops. ^{[1]
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- I admire your courage for going on a rollercoaster. I'm the person who sits with everyone's bags lol
- YOUR CAT IS SO FLUFFY AND ADORABLE! How long have you had her?
- Whoa, you live in the city? What's your favorite part about it?
- I love your tattoo! What was the inspiration behind it?

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Ask a fun, open-ended question.

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Ask your match about something they're passionate about. If you’re unsure where to start, music, travel, and entertainment almost always tend to interest people. In addition, phrase your question so they can’t just reply with “yes” or “no.” The more they give you for their answer, the more topics you have to start a meaningful convo. ^{[2]
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- You have unlimited money for the day. What are you buying first?
- What’s your dream vacation?
- High and low of your week so far?
- What’s your favorite song and why?

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Send a silly or flirty pick-up line.

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Get them to smile with a one-liner. Let’s be honest: everyone’s on Tinder to date or hook up. So, you might as well open with that energy! Use your best pick-up line to make your match smile, sweat, or blush (ideally all 3)! Don’t be afraid of being too corny or cheesy, either. The more bold and silly you’re willing to be, the more comfortable your match will feel with you. ^{[3]
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- I think my phone’s busted. It keeps telling me I don’t have your number.
- Are you my laptop? Because you’re really hot and I’m concerned.
- How much does a polar bear weigh? Enough to break the ice. Hi, I'm __!"
- Hey! I’m writing an article on the finer things in life. I was hoping I could interview you.

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Use an ice-breaker game or multiple-choice question to start.

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Send a “would you rather” question to get them engaged. This takes the pressure off your match to say something interesting. Because the responses are already set up for them, answering requires less effort so they’re more likely to reply. In addition, play an ice-breaker game like “truth or dare” or “2 truths and a lie” to get the ball rolling. This way, you’re both regularly sharing information about yourselves that you can discuss after each round. ^{[4]
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- If you had to live near the beach or mountains forever, which would you pick?
- Let’s play “Never Have I Ever…”
- If you could describe yourself in only one word, what would it be?
- Would you rather have electrical sockets on your hands or your best friend be a tractor?

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