How to Avoid Awkward Interactions When Buying Condoms

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Feeling nervous about buying condoms? That's totally normal! You might even be buying condoms for the first time, or hoping to avoid making things awkward with your parents. Luckily, casually buying condoms (without drawing attention to yourself) couldn't be easier. We'll answer all of your questions below, including how to buy when you don't know your size. Let's get started!

Things You Should Know

  • Decide what brand and type of condom you’re going to buy before going to the store to avoid spending extra time wandering through the aisles.
  • Go to a store that’s farther away from where you live and go during their less busy hours (early morning or late at night) to avoid running into people you might know.
  • Use cash or a gift card to make your purchase if you don’t want the charge to show up on your credit or debit card bill.
  • Visit a teen clinic or HIV/STD prevention center to get condoms free of charge.
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Preparing to Buy Condoms

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  1. Take a deep breath and remember that buying condoms is perfectly normal and extremely responsible of you. So there’s no need to worry about being interrogated by the cashier or other customers about what you’re doing. [1] In reality, people aren’t paying that much attention to what you’re buying. After all, you’re not the first person who’s ever ventured into the store to buy condoms.
    • There are no age restrictions on buying condoms. You don't need to be 18, and minors are free to purchase them. Also, you don't need to bring your ID.
  2. Determine the brand, condom size, and material (e.g. latex, polyurethane, lambskin) you prefer. [2] Going into the store with a specific item in mind will keep you from spending extra time in the store and wandering awkwardly up and down the condom aisle. Pick out a few options in case the store doesn’t carry one of the brands you’re interested in buying.
    • Find out how much the condoms will cost so you can go in prepared with the right amount of money to spend.
    • Look for brands that are FDA approved. These include brands such as Trojan, LifeStyles and Ramses. [3]
    • Search online for condoms and read reviews.
  3. Determine the condom size you need if you don't already know it. If you’re a male, measure your erect penis to help you choose the right size condom. Measure the width of the erect penis at its widest part using a piece of string or a tape measure. Condom sizes are determined by girth rather than length, so there’s no need to measure your penis’s length. [4]
    • If your width is between 11.93 and 12.95 cm (4.7 and 5.1 inches), go for a “regular”-sized condom.
    • If you’re less than 11.93 cm (4.7 inches) around, buy a small size.
    • If you’re width is greater than 12.95 cm (5.1 inches), go and buy the large-sized condoms.
    • Condoms can stretch to quite long lengths to accommodate different people.
    • If you buy a condom that is too small, you’re at a higher risk of it breaking during sex. On the other hand, if you buy a condom that’s too large, you run the risk of it slipping off.
  4. Purchasing from a store that’s 20 or 30 minutes away can keep you from running into people that you know. You may also feel calmer knowing that you probably won’t see your family, friends, or classmates. [5]
    • Condoms are sold at most major stores. So head on over to any convenience store, drugstore, or supermarket. You can even try calling ahead beforehand to make sure that they carry them.
    • Visit the store before you buy your condoms. Take a few minutes to see what section (e.g. family planning aisle, pharmacy, etc.) the condoms are located in.
    • If the condoms are kept behind a counter, and you want to avoid as much interaction as possible, consider purchasing from a different store.
    • However, if you don’t have any other options but to talk to the salesperson, have what you want to say already planned out. This includes the condom brand, type, and how many you want. [6]
  5. Visit the store when it's relatively quiet and there are only a few other shoppers. Stores are less busy in the early morning hours and very late at night. This way, you won’t have to worry about running into other people in the aisles. [7]
    • The best time to buy condoms is well before you’ll actually need to use one. This way, if you get too nervous the first few times about walking into the store, you’ll still have plenty of time to try again.
  6. Think of your condoms as just another personal care item that you’re buying, like toothpaste, shampoo, or deodorant. Changing your mentality can help you be less nervous. Simply include that aisle during your shopping trip, pick out what you are looking for, and continue shopping. [8]
    • Appear calm and confident when you purchase the condoms. You might just draw extra attention to yourself if you’re acting nervous.
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Making your Purchase

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  1. While not necessary, you might feel more comfortable if you buy a few things and put them in your cart along with the condoms. That way, you’re not standing at the counter with just a box of condoms. Another tactic is to use the other items in your cart to cover up the condoms. That way other people won’t be able to look in your basket and automatically see the condoms.
  2. Convenience stores and gas stations often sell condoms as well. These stores are smaller and have fewer people. If you purchase from a convenience store, you may have to talk to the cashier and let them know that you need to buy condoms, since they’re usually located behind the counter. If you don’t mind interacting with the cashier but want to avoid large crowds, this may be an option for you. [9]
    • Sometimes the bathrooms in these stores will have vending machines that dispense condoms and other small sex-related items. This is a super discrete way to buy condoms.
  3. This is something to do if you don’t want anyone to find out about your purchase later on, such as a parent or friend. If your parents monitor your credit card/debit card spending, buy your condoms using cash. That way you won’t have to answer any questions about a charge on your card.
  4. Instead of using the checkout line, buy your condoms from a store that has an automated checkout where you scan your purchases and bag them yourself. This will allow you to avoid talking to a cashier. Most grocery stores and large retailers have self-checkout stations. [10]
    • If self-checkout isn’t an option, paying for the condoms at a more secluded register in the back (e.g. the hunting section or automobile section) is a good way to avoid crowds of people, and you can sometimes also avoid long lines.
  5. Just be sure to check the expiration date before you use the condom. If a condom is expired or damaged, it will not be effective. [11] If you’re trying to hide them from a family member, put them at the back of your closet, under your bed, or at the back of a drawer under some clothes. Just make sure they’re kept in a place that’s relatively cool and dry.
  6. You likely won’t feel as out of place at an adult store because everyone there is buying sex-related items. Plus, the people who work at an adult store are usually very knowledgeable about the merchandise and can answer any questions you may have about the different condom options.
  7. There are plenty of websites that will let you order condoms and have them delivered to your home. The condoms are usually delivered in plain, discreet packaging as well. They typically require payment by debit or credit cards, but they’ll usually use a much more discreet name on the bill. You won't have "Jack's Sex Shop and Condom Store" on any of your card bills.
  8. Teen clinics and HIV/STD prevention centers, Planned Parenthood, and some local health departments offer condoms free of charge with no questions asked. If you have questions, there will be people there who will be genuinely happy to help you out.
    • Call the clinic or visit the website to make sure that they provide free condoms.
    • Use the site CondomFinder.org to find other locations near you that offer free condoms. [12]

Use a Condom Safely and Effectively with this Expert Series

In order to have safe sex, it's important to know how to use a condom correctly. Fortunately, this expert series has everything you need to know about condoms
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    Not at all! Buying condoms is a very normal thing to do, whether you're young or old. Try buying a variety pack if you don't have a lot of experience buying condoms—you can try different types and sizes and see what's comfortable for you.
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      Tips

      • If you’re comfortable with it, consider talking to your parents about sex and buying condoms. They may be able to offer you advice about getting involved in a sexual relationship and preventing STDs and unplanned pregnancies They may offer you other support, such as helping you buy birth control or getting tested for STDs. [13]
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      • If you’re under 18 years old, you may be able to get condoms from your school nurse. The availability varies from school to school.
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      • Make sure not to buy flavored condoms for vaginal or anal sex. They can cause irritation and the powder tends to spread. They can also cause infections for your partner.
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      • To avoid awkward interactions when buying condoms, have a simple explanation ready, like you're picking some up for a friend or relative. Cashiers see so many customers that they likely won't even question it.
      • If you feel nervous or ashamed about buying condoms, ask yourself why. Being responsible by practicing safe sex is normal and mature. If anxiety persists, you may not be ready for a sexual relationship yet.
      • If buying condoms in person feels too intimidating, order them online through a discreet website that uses subtle billing descriptions. This avoids human interaction, while building responsible habits.
      • Buying condoms can feel nerve-wracking at first. But being prepared and responsible builds confidence and maturity over time. With practice, it becomes a routine, everyday purchase.
      • Always check condoms for damage before use, even if newly purchased, as ineffective condoms severely risk pregnancy and STDs. One method is filling it with water to check for leaks.
      • Visit a local clinic or Planned Parenthood for free condoms, along with guidance from supportive professionals happy to answer any questions.
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      Warnings

      • Condoms don't prevent HPV (genital warts). If they are on the pubic area, a condom won't stop that area from touching your partner during sex.
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      • Unprotected sex can lead to unplanned pregnancy as well as the transmission of HIV and other sexually transmitted diseases (STDs). Using condoms is just one step you can take to prevent these things from happening. [14]
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      • While buying condoms if you’re underage isn’t illegal, it can be illegal for someone who is under the age of consent (which varies by state) to engage in sexual activities depending on your state’s laws. [15]
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      • If you experience itching, rashes, bumps, blisters, or other irritations after using a condom, either on the area itself or on the rest of your body, stop use immediately and contact your doctor. You may have a latex allergy, in which case you should turn to alternatives, such as female condoms or polyurethane. [16]
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      References

      1. ↑ https://www.plannedparenthood.org/learn/birth-control/condom/how-do-i-get-condoms
      2. ↑ http://contraception.about.com/od/malecondom/f/condom_types.htm
      3. ↑ https://healthyheels.org/2012/04/25/condom-effectiveness-whats-brand-name-got-to-do-with-it/
      4. ↑ https://www.condom-sizes.org/condom-sizes/condom-sizes
      5. ↑ https://www.plannedparenthood.org/learn/birth-control/condom/how-do-i-get-condoms
      6. ↑ https://powertodecide.org/teen-talk/how-buy-condoms-part-2
      7. ↑ https://powertodecide.org/teen-talk/how-buy-condoms-part-2
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      9. ↑ http://stayteen.org/sex-ed/article/how-buy-condoms-part-1
      1. ↑ https://powertodecide.org/teen-talk/how-buy-condoms-part-2
      2. ↑ https://kidshealth.org/en/teens/condom-check.html
      3. ↑ https://powertodecide.org/teen-talk/how-buy-condoms-part-2
      4. ↑ https://www.plannedparenthood.org/learn/teens/sex/all-about-sex/should-i-talk-my-parents-about-sex
      5. ↑ https://www.plannedparenthood.org/learn/birth-control/condom/what-are-the-benefits-of-condoms
      6. ↑ https://www.hg.org/legal-articles/can-a-minor-be-charged-with-statutory-rape-35215
      7. ↑ https://health.clevelandclinic.org/have-a-latex-allergy-4-safe-condom-types-for-you/

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      Buying condoms can be awkward, but you can do it discreetly by knowing exactly what brand and type of condom you want to buy before going to the store. That way, you won’t spend more time than you need to in the condoms section. Also, make sure to choose a store that is 20 or 30 minutes away from where you live so you don’t run into anyone you know. Before making your purchase, visit the store and buy something else so you can quickly see where the condoms are located and if they have the brand you want. If you can’t find a store with enough privacy, consider buying condoms online or visiting Planned Parenthood, which offers condoms for free, no questions asked. For more help, like how to get rid of any evidence that you bought condoms, read on!

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