How to Change a Woman's Mind About You

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If a woman has the wrong impression of you, you can change her mind about you by showing her the person you truly are. Be a great listener and do thoughtful things for her. If you're hoping to have a romantic relationship, express your feelings for her. You might find that you can change her mind just by improving communication.

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Do something nice for her.

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  1. If she thinks you're arrogant or self-centered, show her that you're actually a caring person. Sure, giving her flowers is a classic display of affection, but you could bring her a coffee or run an errand for her. [1]
    • If she's a co-worker, maybe you could help her with a project. Offer to do a task that she doesn't really enjoy doing.
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Make her laugh.

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  1. It shows her that you're smart, but you don't take yourself too seriously. Being funny is really helpful if she thinks you have a high opinion of yourself or that you don't relate well to others. [2] Tell a few jokes and she may start to rethink her opinion of you. [3]
    • Stick with jokes that aren't at anyone's expense. She won't think well of you if you're telling jokes that hurt someone else's feelings.
3

Pay her an authentic compliment.

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  1. This might not seem very helpful, but research suggests that giving a compliment can soften someone's outlook so they're more likely to consider your perspective. [4]
    • Giving compliments also shows that you're not completely wrapped up in yourself. If she thinks you're rude, saying nice things might be enough to change her mind. [5]
    • For example, you might say, "Your earrings are beautiful. You always look really put together."
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Point out the things you have in common with her.

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  1. She might realize that she can relate to you if you share the same interests. This might even lead her to think that maybe she was wrong about you. [6]
    • For example, if she's talked about traveling somewhere you'd love to go, share your enthusiasm for the place! She might start to see you in a new, positive light.
5

Be honest with her about your feelings.

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  1. It's obviously important to you that this woman think better of you, so don't hide how you feel. If you're interested in a romantic relationship, be open with her instead of just staying friends and hoping that she'll become attracted to you. [7]
    • For example, you could say, "I realize we haven't known each other very long and you might not think of me in this way, but I really like you and I'm hoping we could be more than just friends."
    • Plus, a platonic friendship should be based on trust and respect. It's dishonest to simply be friends in the hopes she'll become your girlfriend.
    • The key is to be truthful—don't tell her what you think she wants to hear or she'll think you're not authentic. Besides, you want her to like you for who you are.
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Listen to what she has to say without interrupting.

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  1. Keep an open mind when you talk with her and ask her questions so you completely understand what she thinks and how she feels. [8] Active listening is a great way to make a connection with someone, especially if you know she thinks you're rude and don't listen to people. [9]
    • For instance, show her that you're listening by saying something like, "It sounds like you've been through a pretty bad breakup and that your ex didn't really appreciate you."
    • Make eye contact and mirror some of her gestures to create an unconscious connection with her. [10] Just remember to look away occasionally so you're not being too intense with a direct gaze.
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Keep your body language open and confident.

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  1. Instead of hunching forward and making yourself seem small, push your chest out and pull your shoulders back. Stand straight and tall so you have a big presence. Keep your arms at your sides instead of crossing them so you don't look standoffish. [11]
    • Confidence is contagious—if you want to change her mind, show her that you believe in yourself and that you value yourself.
    • Don't forget to read her nonverbal cues. If she's open and receptive to what you're saying, she'll probably have her arms open instead of crossed and she'll make eye contact. If she's not into what you're saying, she'll probably glance away and keep her arms crossed in front of her.
8

Look your best so you impress her.

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  1. Clean yourself up and wear a nice outfit, style your hair, and groom yourself, so you make her rethink her impression of you. [12]
    • This is especially important if you're usually really casual. Instead of throwing out lounge pants and an old T-shirt, for instance, wear nicer clothes that fit you well and take the time to accessorize your outfit. You'll look like you put more effort into your appearance and she'll notice.
9

Don't nag or harass her to change her mind.

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  1. Give her a chance to think about how she feels before you bring it up again. She's more likely to change her mind if she doesn't feel pressured. [13]
    • She may be turned off if you constantly tease her, especially if she thinks of you as a player. Giving her some space shows maturity and interest in her as a person.
    • This doesn't mean that you ignore her or don't respond when she's around. You don't want to validate a negative opinion that she might have of you.

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    Where can I meet a new woman?
    John Keegan
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    John Keegan is a Dating Coach and motivational speaker based in New York City. With over 10 years of professional experience, he runs The Awakened Lifestyle, where he uses his expertise in dating, attraction, and social dynamics to help people find love. He teaches and holds dating workshops internationally, from Los Angeles to London and from Rio de Janeiro to Prague. His work has been featured in the New York Times, Humans of New York, and Men's Health.
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    You can meet a new woman anywhere and everywhere. Be open to it every day of your life. There are a lot of attractive people around you. For example, you may find them at the supermarket, bookstore, or in a subway car.
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    How do you introduce yourself to a woman?
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    If you want to introduce yourself to someone, you should not enter their life abruptly. Give them enough space and distance. You can make eye contact with them and say hello in a soft tone. Let them feel safe and then open up. Offer a direct compliment or start a conversation with something in the situation. For example, if you are shopping for fruits and vegetables, you can say that you are moving to all-organic and ask them if they are doing the same.
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    How do I change a woman's mind about me if she spends time with me, but is also spending time with someone else?
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    Tell her how you feel. Let her know that you have serious feelings for her and you want to be in an exclusive relationship. If she needs time to think about it, give her that time. If she says she's not interested in a relationship with you, let her go and find somebody who is.
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      • Never think that you can change a woman's mind by being physically or verbally aggressive. Intimidation, threatening, and bullying are abusive.
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      References

      1. ↑ https://practicalpie.com/how-to-get-a-girl-to-like-you/
      2. ↑ John Keegan. Dating Coach. Expert Interview. 5 November 2019.
      3. ↑ https://www.researchgate.net/publication/240750838_On_the_role_of_humor_appreciation_in_interpersonal_attraction_It's_no_joking_matter
      4. ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/evidence-based-living/201611/proven-ways-change-someones-mind
      5. ↑ John Keegan. Dating Coach. Expert Interview. 5 November 2019.
      6. ↑ https://practicalpie.com/how-to-get-a-girl-to-like-you/
      7. ↑ Patti Novak Williams. Professional Matchmaker & Dating Coach. Expert Interview. 12 January 2021.
      8. ↑ John Keegan. Dating Coach. Expert Interview. 5 November 2019.
      9. ↑ Patti Novak Williams. Professional Matchmaker & Dating Coach. Expert Interview. 12 January 2021.
      1. ↑ John Keegan. Dating Coach. Expert Interview. 5 November 2019.
      2. ↑ https://www.pnas.org/doi/abs/10.1073/pnas.1508932113
      3. ↑ https://www.regain.us/advice/general/i-dont-get-why-girls-dont-like-me-10-possible-reasons-why-theyre-not-that-into-you/
      4. ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/creating-in-flow/201105/5-ways-change-someones-mind

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      To change a woman’s mind about you when you’re in the friend zone, wait for a quiet time to talk to her so you’re both relaxed and won’t be distracted. Then, tell her that you like her and you want to start a romantic relationship. This might be a lot for her to take in so give her time if she needs to think about it. If she says no, try not to take it personally, since there are plenty of other women who will be better for you. For more tips, including how to try to understand what a woman thinks about you, read on!

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