How to Do Shadow Work

Co-authored by Kateri Berasi, PsyD and Aly Rusciano

Last Updated: July 10, 2024 References

Do you ever ask yourself, “Why did I do that?” or “Why did I say that?” Chances are, if you’ve done something out of character, it’s because of your Shadow. Psychologists and spiritual healers use the practice of shadow work in relation to Carl Jung’s personality theory to help others face their “dark” side—so, is this something you can do yourself? Absolutely! In this beginner’s guide, we’ll teach you everything there is to know about shadow work. Take a deep breath, and get ready to heal the deepest parts of your soul.

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Do shadow work by questioning and reflecting on your past and present mistakes.
Identify, acknowledge, understand, and forgive your darkest insecurities and traumas with shadow work.
Practice shadow work at your own pace—healing doesn’t happen overnight.
Practice shadow work by communicating with others.

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What is the Shadow?

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The Shadow is the part(s) of yourself you don’t want to claim. In the 1900s, the psychologist Carl Jung divided the personality into 4 archetypes: Persona, Anima/Animus, Shadow, and Self. ^{[1]
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- Not all traits and feelings of the Shadow are considered negative, as every individual will have a different view on what is negative. ^{[4]
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- For instance, celibacy may be pushed into the Shadow if an individual suppresses sexual desires because of an unwanted emotion or feeling. This doesn’t necessarily mean celibacy is “bad,” but it suggests that the individual has a negative reaction toward sexual intimacy.

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How the Shadow Affects You

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The Shadow may cause you to judge others. Deep down, you may be afraid that people will judge you. To repress those feelings, you may repulsively judge others with the hope that they won’t have time to judge you. ^{[5]
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- For example, if someone was bullied as a child, they may bully others when they’re older as a reaction to repressing negative feelings of the past.
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The Shadow might have you pointing out other people’s flaws. These are a reflection of your own insecurities, and projecting them onto others is an act of repression. If you find something undesirable in others, you can pretend it’s something you simply don’t like in another person rather than in yourself. ^{[6]
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- An example of this would be a father who lies punishing his child for lying.
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The Shadow could instigate you to play the victim. To avoid being exposed to something unpleasant and showcasing a part of yourself you’d rather suppress, your Shadow may cause you to act as a victim. This unconscious strategy keeps responsibility and blame away from you and towards others. ^{[7]
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- For instance, if someone starts a verbal fight that later escalates into something physical, they may say they had no part in it even if they were the initial instigator.

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What is shadow work?

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The goal of shadow work is to accept the darker parts of yourself. Shadow work is the act of uncovering, acknowledging, and understanding the parts of yourself you instinctively want to suppress. Rather than acting on them unconsciously, you take notice of your Shadow and consciously integrate it into your whole self. This doesn’t happen overnight, and many psychologists suggest that shadow work is never completed or finished. It’s an ongoing practice meant to help you be more self-aware and conscious of your decisions and the world around you. ^{[8]
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- Shadow work gives you the chance to understand yourself better by facing the parts of yourself you’d rather ignore or disclaim.

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How to Practice Shadow Work

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Shadow work isn’t necessarily fun or easy. Because of this, it may be difficult to sit down with yourself and do the work. Grounding yourself with breathing exercises before starting a shadow work practice can help you feel present while calming the mind, body, and spirit. ^{[9]
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Take a step back and look at your life objectively. Imagine you’re a bystander in your own life. In other words, how would a friend look at you? How would they react to your actions and behaviors in a given situation? Answering these questions will help you recognize behavioral patterns and feelings. ^{[10]
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- Observe patterns in the way you react to specific words, scenarios, or incidents.
- Ask yourself, “Why did that get to me? Why did I feel that way? What triggered that behavior or emotion?”
- Meditating and journaling at the end of the day can help you process your thoughts and reflect on your actions.
Healing takes time, but progress won’t be made unless you’re completely honest with yourself. We know pulling back the curtain on your most undesirable traits is more than difficult, but you can do it. Know that even if the truth is hard to swallow, you’re learning from it, and it’s leading you to become the best version of yourself. ^{[11]
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Pause, reflect, and understand why you feel a certain way before you instinctively react. If you feel like you're about to judge someone or make a rude comment, refrain from it and question, “What triggered me to think this? Why was I about to say that?” Stopping and taking a moment to reflect will ultimately help you reframe your thoughts and actions to be more positive. ^{[12]
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Acknowledge, understand, and forgive your insecurities. Now that you’ve discovered the aspects of your personality that have negatively impacted your life, it’s time to give yourself space to move on. Life is all about change; you’re expected to change with it, but don’t be afraid to question those changes. As you evolve, acknowledge the lesser parts of yourself you want to change, learn to understand why your thinking may have changed, and then forgive yourself. ^{[13]
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- This isn’t something that can happen overnight, and that’s okay. Go at your own pace, uncovering a new part of the Shadow when you’re ready. Healing takes time, so be gentle with yourself.
Doodling, painting, dancing, and singing are passionate and artistic techniques that can help you get in touch with your Shadow. Pick your favorite medium (whether that’s oil paints or modern dance), and let your heart and soul pour out of you. This can help bring out repressed feelings and images for analysis. ^{[14]
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Visit a therapist who’s trained in shadow work. Some therapists and psychologists are specifically trained to guide patients through shadow work. They may use a meditative state to help you uncover the deepest parts of your Shadow, asking questions to access repressed memories and analyze projections. ^{[15]
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- If you’re seeking professional help with shadow work, make sure to ask the therapist if they’re trained in shadow work before scheduling an appointment.

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Shadow Work Exercises

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With pen and paper, tell your Shadow how you feel about it. Has it caused you pain? Is there a part of you that’s jealous of its traits? Be open and honest—there’s no “right” or “wrong” way to do this. Then, once the letter is done, rip it up, toss it in a fire, or ball it up. This is a great way to release resentment while acknowledging your relationship with your Shadow.
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Say affirmations every day. Speak your power into existence by reframing your Shadow. Think about your undesirable traits and how they negatively impact you. Then, consider how you can reframe the narrative into something positive. For instance, if you easily judge your body, try focusing on the affirmation, “I love my body for all it does for me.” Consider giving these affirmations a try: ^{[16]
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- I am worthy of love, affection, and respect.
- I am powerful, strong, and courageous.
- I honor and love my Shadow and own all parts of myself.
- I speak the truth even when it’s hard to tell myself.
- I deserve love and respect even at my lowest.
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Analyze what you’re avoiding. In your journal or on a piece of paper, answer the question “What am I avoiding?” Write as much or as little as you want—just make sure not to restrict yourself. By answering this simple question, you’re acknowledging what you want to achieve from your shadow work. ^{[17]
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- For instance, if you answer, “I’m avoiding a relationship,” sit back and consider why you might be doing this. Perhaps you’re hurting from a recent breakup or are afraid of commitment.

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Benefits of Shadow Work

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There’s something freeing about being able to control your reactions in a given situation. Shadow work is all about understanding the “why” behind your undesirable behavior and insecurities. When you ask yourself, “Why?” you take control of your perceptions and find your truth, which can be extremely empowering and eye-opening. ^{[18]
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Working on your inner self will help you become a better person. Shadow work functions on self-awareness and acknowledgment. When you learn to understand and forgive the negative sides of yourself, a huge weight is lifted off your chest, and you can start to be the best version of yourself with no strings attached. ^{[19]
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Shadow work is the part of the healing process that helps you confront your most repressed and resisted truths. ^{[20]
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What Is Shadow Work?

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Why is it necessary to comprehend and accept your shadow?

Kateri Berasi, PsyD
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Dr. Kateri Berasi is a Licensed Clinical Psychologist and the Founder of Transcendent Self, PLLC, a group therapy practice offering affirmative, collaborative, and intentional care, based in Brooklyn, New York. With over ten years of experience in the mental health field, Dr. Berasi specializes in working with adults from the LGBTQIA+ community and creative industries through individual therapy, couples counseling, group therapy, and costume therapy. She holds a BA in Psychology, Art History, and French Language and Literature from George Washington University and an MA and MEd in Mental Health Counseling from Columbia University. Dr. Berasi also holds a PsyD in Clinical Psychology from Long Island University.

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If a person is conscious of their shadow, they can then make choices that are in alignment with how they'd like to live. If a person is not aware of their shadow, they are more likely to act on it unconsciously, project it onto others, and potentially cause harm.

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Avoid comparing your trauma and/or past with anyone else’s. Your Shadow is specific to you, and all your emotions and feelings are valid no matter how privileged you believe you are. What’s happened to you has shaped who you are, and being completely honest with yourself about the pain you’ve been through will help you move past it. ^{[22]
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What is the Shadow?

How the Shadow Affects You

What is shadow work?

How to Practice Shadow Work

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