Is dating a Scorpio hard?
I went on a date with someone recently and they told me they were a Scorpio and idk if that's a red flag or not. I've heard that Scorpios are obsessive and difficult to be in a relationship with, is that facts or nah? I kinda wanna go on a second date but idk if I should so pls help
When I was dating a Scorpio, getting him to open up to me was a chore. He always felt a little closed off when I'd ask him questions about himself or try to get to know him better. I'm not sure if he was trying to create an air of mystery or play hard to get or if he just had issues with being vulnerable but whatever it was made me feel like I couldn't truly connect with him. I did notice that slowly over time he was warming up to me a liiitle bit, but it was just going way too slowly for my taste. It felt like I was talking to a brick wall at times.
Scorpio is an obsessive sign. They're looking for someone to obsess over and they're going to provide a series of tests to gauge your loyalty to them. For example, they may play hard to get or act obsequious. If they sense that you're not matching their intense energy, they're gonna lose interest. Scorpio is also a very sensual sign, so if they not sensing that you're sexually interested in them, they will lose interest. So you would definitely need to engage in sex or intimacy with a Scorpio in order for them to fall for you. Scorpios want to dive deep into issues and topics. They're not a superficial sign, so they'll be turned off if you're very shallow. They like intensity and passion. If they don't feel engaged, enthralled, sexual, and intimate with you, then they're not going to have interest in you. So there has to be something intriguing. But also, if you provide a little bit of a mystery that they need to unravel, that will keep them pulling on the yarn forever. So don't give it all up right away! Leave a veil of mystery and then they will be intrigued and obsess over you because they always have to obsess.
If they're jealous or obsessive and you show even the tiniest bit of interest in other people, a Scorpio will show you their vulnerability (which is their most cherished prize). Scorpios like to keep their vulnerability to themselves, so if a Scorpio shows you their inner sensitivity, that means they trust you enough to love you. Without vulnerability, there is no intimacy, and that's why Scorpio is the sign of intimacy, because they like to lay bare of all things so that they can get inside.
Scorpios are all or nothing, do or die. But they're also the most distrustful sign, so if they show anything that indicates trust in you—like talking about marriage or moving in together—that means they are serious about you. And another sign they're serious about you is if they tell you their secrets. They see secrets as powerful weapons, so a Scorpio revealing their secrets means that they're very serious about you because they have trusted you with their secrets.
If they're jealous or obsessive and you show even the tiniest bit of interest in other people, a Scorpio will show you their vulnerability (which is their most cherished prize). Scorpios like to keep their vulnerability to themselves, so if a Scorpio shows you their inner sensitivity, that means they trust you enough to love you. Without vulnerability, there is no intimacy, and that's why Scorpio is the sign of intimacy, because they like to lay bare of all things so that they can get inside.
Scorpios are all or nothing, do or die. But they're also the most distrustful sign, so if they show anything that indicates trust in you—like talking about marriage or moving in together—that means they are serious about you. And another sign they're serious about you is if they tell you their secrets. They see secrets as powerful weapons, so a Scorpio revealing their secrets means that they're very serious about you because they have trusted you with their secrets.
Yeah my Scorpio man was incredibly jealous! After we started officially dating, he'd get upset every time I hung out with my guy friends and asked me to spend less time with them. At first I didn't realize that he was trying to cut me off from my male friends and thought maybe he just wanted me to spend less time with friends so that I could spend more time with him (which is still a red flag), but eventually I realized he was jealous of me having male friends. I was upset that he had waited so long to show his true colors because that was a dealbreaker for me. I simply will not be with a partner that forces me to choose between them and my friends.
I think people don't give Scorpios a chance. I've been married to a Scorpio for 6 years now and our relationship is going strong. Yes, I do find that sometimes he gets a little jealous but I think that comes from a place of insecurity, so I make that work by reassuring him that I love him by being affectionate and reminding him about all of the wonderful qualities of his that make me swoon. And people may see Scorpios as "obsessive" but personally I really like that my partner is madly in love with me, because I'm madly in love with him too! We match each other's energies and that has been working great for us so far. Ultimately, Scorpios are people too and all the negative stereotypes about them are not necessarily true. Even if you find some of those negative qualities in your partner, if you're meant to be then you'll find a way to communicate and make things work together.
As a Scorpio myself, I’d say dating a Scorpio isn’t necessarily "hard," but it can be intense. We value loyalty and trust the most, so if those things are broken, the relationship can be difficult. But if you're open, patient, and not afraid of vulnerability, you’ll find that dating a Scorpio can be incredibly rewarding.
i think its hard because the are passionate, intense and fiercely loyal individuals with a unique persrpective on life as a scorpio woman ,i can attest that they are often misunderstood due to their complex personalities
i think i should try one cause i havent dated a scorpio man
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Reader Tips from How to Treat a Scorpio
When an independent Scorpio reaches out needing support, they are communicating something important. Make your best effort to be present, whether in person or returning calls. They value reliability in hard times and remember favors.
Scorpios crave deep emotional connections in romantic relationships. Take time building trust before rushing physical intimacy. Once devoted, they remain loyal partners. Handle their heart carefully, as betrayal wounds them deeply.
Not every Scorpio fits the brooding stereotype. Some have bright, playful sides too. Take humor and sexually open conversation in stride, but don't assume all their remarks are serious. Lightness balances their intense nature.
Bring out their lighter side by planning uplifting activities together. Though Scorpios enjoy deep conversation, they need breaks from intensity. Shared laughter and joy will nurture your bond.
Remember that Scorpios are not angels; some harmless flirtation is part of their charm. Don't take offense or become excessively jealous. A little mystery sustains attraction for this sign.
Reader Tips from How to Treat a Scorpio Woman
Scorpios like to play up their self-reliance, but they actually really thrive off of a partner's energy. Give a Scorpio woman space, but don't give them so much space that they begin to feel ignored.
If you hurt a Scorpio, you better try to make it right immediately. Scorpios can’t stand indifference or cruelty, especially from someone who they care about.
Reader Tips from How to Attract Scorpio Guys
Scorpios are fiercely loyal. If you want to get on a Scorpio's good side, become a fan of his favorite sports team, or become a big fan of his favorite band. The two of you should have no problem bonding over your shared interest.
Let Scorpio guys chase you. They like the "hunt" when it comes to dating. Also, don't tell him everything about yourself right up front. Scorpio men appreciate a little bit of mystery.
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