Who/what was your gay awakening?
What was the moment things clicked for you and you realized you were 💅? Who was it that made you feel feelings? I'm so curious to hear people's stories!
My friends and I randomly watched Van Wilder back in high school (any national lampoon fans here?), which led to Ryan Reynolds being my first gay crush. I think it took me a while to know that I was gay because I'm attracted to people of all genders, so it was easier for me to "default" to liking girls and fitting in with the heteronormative "boys like girls" thing for most of my childhood.
It took a lot of soul searching and exploration for me to figure out my sexuality. At different points in my life, I've thought I was straight, gay, bi, and pan, and eventually I realized that trying to figure out the exact specific term wasn't working out for me. Queer is an umbrella term that feels most comfortable to me
It took a lot of soul searching and exploration for me to figure out my sexuality. At different points in my life, I've thought I was straight, gay, bi, and pan, and eventually I realized that trying to figure out the exact specific term wasn't working out for me. Queer is an umbrella term that feels most comfortable to me
The thing about sexual orientation and preferences is that they are subjective to the person that's experiencing them. There's not a clinical test for being gay. It's just how you feel, and it can change every day, so go with whatever identity feels right for you. It's generally not a good idea to try to come up with a black and white term for every possible sexual identity a person can have.
I was watching Pirates of the Caribbean and could not stop thinking about how hot Jack Sparrow was! Now I have a thing for pirates
My gay awakening was/is my best friend. We're still bffs and I haven't told her about my feelings. Every day when we hang out at school I feel like I'm hiding something from her by not telling her that I like her but I also don't want to ruin our friendship by telling her and making things weird between us. I really don't know what to do because I don't want to lose her :(
As a starting point, it can be helpful to have discussions with her about sexuality and desire in a more general sense. This way, she will become aware that you are interested in same-sex relationships and/or sexual activity, and hopefully, you can get a better sense of her own interest. If after talking to her you still don’t have an idea of what her feelings and opinions are, be honest and open up about how you feel. Trust that the strength of your friendship will help you work through any difficulties that may arise.
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Realize that sexuality is a spectrum, and you don't need to 'decide' on a label if you're uncomfortable with it.
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