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Finding out that your partner left you for someone else is the worst. You might be left feeling hurt, ashamed, embarrassed, or wondering what's wrong with you. As painful as that is, though, there's a brighter future waiting for you. It's okay if you need some time to process what happened, but then, start working towards healing and learning to trust people again.
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QuestionHow long does it take to get over being cheated on and left?Kelli Miller is a Psychotherapist based in Los Angeles, California. Kelli specializes in individual and couples therapy focusing on relationships, depression, anxiety, sexuality, communication, parenting, and more. She is the author of “Love Hacks: Simple Solutions to Your Most Common Relationship Issues” which details the top 15 relationship issues and 3 quick solutions to each. She is also the award-winning and best-selling author of “Thriving with ADHD”. Kelli co-hosted an advice show on LA Talk Radio and was a relationship expert for The Examiner. She received her MSW (Masters of Social Work) from the University of Pennsylvania and a BA in Sociology/Health from the University of Florida.There are no hard-and-fast rules here. The answer is going to be different from person to person, and relationship to relationship. I will say that you can usually accelerate the healing process by reaching out for support. See a therapist or counselor and talk to them about what you're going through. It can take a while but you can get past this!
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QuestionWhy do people cheat on people they love?Kelli Miller is a Psychotherapist based in Los Angeles, California. Kelli specializes in individual and couples therapy focusing on relationships, depression, anxiety, sexuality, communication, parenting, and more. She is the author of “Love Hacks: Simple Solutions to Your Most Common Relationship Issues” which details the top 15 relationship issues and 3 quick solutions to each. She is also the award-winning and best-selling author of “Thriving with ADHD”. Kelli co-hosted an advice show on LA Talk Radio and was a relationship expert for The Examiner. She received her MSW (Masters of Social Work) from the University of Pennsylvania and a BA in Sociology/Health from the University of Florida.They were missing something. Whether it was a problem with their self-esteem, an absence of compassion, or something like that. The key here is that you realize that you're not at fault. It wasn't something that you did, it was your partner's failure.
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QuestionCan you truly forgive someone for cheating?Kelli Miller is a Psychotherapist based in Los Angeles, California. Kelli specializes in individual and couples therapy focusing on relationships, depression, anxiety, sexuality, communication, parenting, and more. She is the author of “Love Hacks: Simple Solutions to Your Most Common Relationship Issues” which details the top 15 relationship issues and 3 quick solutions to each. She is also the award-winning and best-selling author of “Thriving with ADHD”. Kelli co-hosted an advice show on LA Talk Radio and was a relationship expert for The Examiner. She received her MSW (Masters of Social Work) from the University of Pennsylvania and a BA in Sociology/Health from the University of Florida.Yes. It can take a lot of time and effort, but if you're willing to work through some tough feelings and have some difficult discussions (either with yourself or with others), you can certainly get past this.
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