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A good hug is a great way to let a person know that you want to/enjoy being more than just friends. Able to speak much louder than words, hugging your boyfriend can let him know just how much he means to you and can help strengthen your relationship. In addition, hugs have proven psychological benefits.
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Make sure that you look good and smell nice. Wear clean clothes, deodorant, and perfume if you wish. If you do decide to wear perfume, make sure that you don't overdo it. -
Step forward and put your left arm between his right arm and side of his body. Gently place your left hand on his lower back, right above his backside.Advertisement -
Raise your right arm and place it on the back of his neck. Place your thumb along the side of his neck and bring your head toward his right shoulder. Rest your head on his right shoulder. -
Gently squeeze him, and press your body against his. Remember not to squeeze too tight, just tight enough to make the hug more intimate. -
Hold the hug for a few seconds. Hug for longer if you haven't seen your boyfriend for long periods of time, your boyfriend needs comforting, or if you simply feel like a longer hug. -
Hug your boyfriend differently than you would hug your friend. Use the same steps listed above to hug a friend, but instead:- Place your hand higher on his/her back.
- Squeeze gently, but do not press your body as close.
- Pat his/her back to make the hug more casual.
- Hold the hug for as long as it seems comfortable for both parties.
- Remember to look into his eyes and smile. [1] X Research source
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Know what makes a great hug. No matter who you are hugging, there are important things to remember such as:- Always hug with both arms.
- Adjust for height differences. This can include resting your head on his chest, bending your knees, or standing on your tippy toes.
- Hug for as long as you both feel comfortable. Pay attention to body language and break the hug if you or your boyfriend seems anxious or uncomfortable. [2] X Research source
- Simply enjoy being with the other person .
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Understanding the Physical and Psychological Benefits of Hugging
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Understand the importance of physical contact. According to a famous group of studies known as the Harlow Studies, monkeys preferred a cloth doll without food to a metal doll with food, emphasizing the need for mammals to have physical contact. Many studies have shown that babies that are held more are less stressed as adults. [3] X Research source -
Realize that hugging produces oxytocin. Hugging a loved one or even a stranger releases a powerful hormone that affects the body's limbic system. Releasing oxytocin promotes feelings of contentment and belonging, while lowering blood pressure and heart rate. [4] X Research source -
Learn the benefits of hugging. Giving and receiving hugs have a number of psychological and physical benefits, including:
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References
- ↑ https://www.mindbodygreen.com/articles/types-of-hugs
- ↑ https://theswaddle.com/the-best-way-to-hug-someone-according-to-science/
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/unified-theory-happiness/201406/4-benefits-hugs-mind-and-body
- ↑ https://www.sott.net/article/291786-The-physiological-benefits-of-hugging
- ↑ https://www.sclhealth.org/blog/2019/07/the-power-of-hugs-and-how-they-affect-our-daily-health/
- ↑ https://www.sclhealth.org/blog/2019/07/the-power-of-hugs-and-how-they-affect-our-daily-health/
- ↑ https://www.sclhealth.org/blog/2019/07/the-power-of-hugs-and-how-they-affect-our-daily-health/
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/unified-theory-happiness/201406/4-benefits-hugs-mind-and-body
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To hug your boyfriend, start by stepping toward him and putting your left arm between his right arm and his body, with your hand on his lower back. Then, raise your other arm and put your hand on the back of this neck. If you want, you can lean your head against his shoulder. Next, give him a gentle squeeze, but don’t hug him so tight that it’s uncomfortable. Finally, hold the hug for a few seconds before letting go. For tips on how to hug your boyfriend if he’s taller than you, read on!
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