12 Signs a Girl Doesn’t Like You Anymore

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Have you been getting a strange vibe from your girlfriend or crush lately? Maybe it’s nothing specific, but you just feel like something’s “off,” and you’re worried she might not like you anymore? If you’re in this situation, you’ve come to the right place. Romance can be confusing, and it’s totally normal to wonder what the other person is thinking. Luckily, we’ve gathered some signs you can look out for to tell whether or not a girl is still into you. We’ve also included expert advice from therapists Alysha Jeney, MA, LMFT and Chloe Carmichael, PhD, so keep reading!

Signs She Doesn’t Like You Anymore

  1. Her body language is closed off.
  2. She avoids making eye contact with you.
  3. She avoids touching you or being close to you.
  4. She's always busy or constantly cancels plans.
  5. She doesn't text you first anymore.
  6. She flirts with other people in front of you.
  7. She tries not to talk about the future with you.
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12 Signs She’s Not Into You Anymore

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  1. When someone is attracted to you, they tend to have very open, engaged body language. This means they’ll face you and lean in when you talk, and they’ll sit or stand near you when you hang out. [1] If you notice that she’s pointing her body away from you or keeping more physical distance between you than usual, these could be signs her feelings are changing.
  2. Eye contact is a major sign of attraction, and when someone is into you, they’ll gaze into your eyes pretty often. [2] If she starts avoiding your eyes when you talk or looking away from you when you try to catch her attention, these could be subtle signs that she’s not as attracted to you anymore.
    • Eye contact also signals that you’re interested in what someone's saying, so a lack of eye contact can mean that she’s not fully present or engaged when you’re hanging out. [3]
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  3. If someone is super into you, they’ll often go out of their way to touch you. This would include things like casually touching your arm, holding your hand, brushing her fingers through your hair, putting her hand on your chest, or going in for kisses. [4] However, when a girl isn’t interested anymore, she might stop touching you altogether or go out of her way to avoid physical closeness.
    • If your relationship started out with a lot of physical touches and PDA, but now she hardly gives any at all, it could be time to talk to her about where the relationship is going.
    • You may also start to feel like she's faking her interest and pleasure in bed. However, keep in mind that many women who fake orgasms often do so in order to protect their partner's feelings—not necessarily because they've lost interest in them.
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  4. If you feel like you’re always chasing her or struggling to pin her down for plans, this could be a red flag. “If she’s always giving vague responses, like ‘Maybe, I’ve got some work stuff,’ or ‘Let’s play it by ear,’ that could be a sign that she’s less eager and invested,” Carmichael explains. “Because typically people who have a crush on each other will be eager to find time to get together.” [5]
    • It’s possible that she’s just busy, and there are valid reasons to miss a date. However, if this happens more than 50% of the time, it could be a sign that she’s not as invested anymore.
  5. Notice the type of dates she wants to have. If she’s always inviting friends to meet up with you or suggesting group dates instead of solo ones, this could be a sign that she’s trying to keep things more casual or low-key between you. If this happens, it could be a good idea to talk to her about where the relationship is going so you're both on the same page. [6]
  6. “You can tell if someone’s interested in you if they’re asking you a lot about yourself or giving you a lot of attention, [to the point] that it’s a little disproportionate to how they interact with others,” Jeney explains. [7] “If she doesn’t really give you much attention when you’re in the same space, that’s probably an indicator that she’s not interested in you.” [8]
    • Similarly, if she stops inviting you to group hangouts that she used to want you to tag along for, this could be another sign.
  7. “If you’re the person who’s always initiating the text, you might be more invested in her than she is in you,” explains Carmichael. [9] Likewise, if she takes a super long long time to respond (around 24 hours or more), Carmichael says this “might be a sign that she’s not as interested.” [10]
    • However, Carmichael clarifies that some women she works with don’t like to text first because they prefer for a crush to pursue them. For these women, it wouldn’t necessarily be a bad sign if they don’t reach out first. [11]
    • With this in mind, it’s best to look out for a change in her texting behavior. If she used to text first all the time but now she never does, this could mean she isn’t into you, but if she never reached out first to begin with, it’s likely nothing to worry about.
  8. If your crush or girlfriend is checking other people out or flirting with them in front of you, this is usually a red flag. This includes in-person flirting (complimenting others in a flirty way, making flirty comments, being touchy-feely with others), as well as virtual flirting (leaving flirty comments on others’ social media posts, sending flirty texts to others, etc). [12] When this happens, it’s a pretty clear indicator that she’s not interested.
  9. Usually, a crush or partner will naturally get a little jealous if you flirt with another person in front of her. [13] If you notice that she doesn’t care or pay attention at all when you talk to other girls, it may be a sign that she isn’t interested in you anymore.
    • For example, if you’re having a group hang out with your crush and some friends and she couldn’t care less that you’ve been talking to someone else all night, she might not think of you in a romantic way.
  10. Arguments are bound to happen in all relationships, but if they start occurring more frequently, there might be a problem. [14] If disagreements over little things start to become big blow-outs every time, you should take some time to evaluate your relationship. She may be starting to lose interest in you romantically, or you might just not be compatible with each other.
    • “Whenever you have an argument, if you feel like you always have to be the person to reach and try to straighten things out, or they would pretty much just let things drift away and you would never see them again, that would also be a sign that they're not into it anymore,” Carmichael says. [15]
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    She doesn’t make an effort to be romantic anymore. “As people get more comfortable in relationships, they may just not plan as elaborate dates as they did during a courtship phase,” Carmichael explains. “So, if you notice a constellation of ways where they're just no longer putting effort or interest in the relationship…this could be a sign that they’re potentially not into it anymore.” [16]
    • For example, maybe she used to suggest that the two of you dress up and go out to dinner on a regular basis, but now she never plans romantic things with you. If you’re in this situation, her feelings could be fading.
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    She never wants to talk about the future with you. If she tries to shut down the conversation or change the topic when you bring up your future together, this is a pretty clear indication that she doesn’t see your relationship lasting in the long run. “That might be a sign that she doesn’t have the depth of feeling you have,” Carmichael explains. [17]
    • For example, if you mention going on a weekend trip together in the next few months and she gives a vague or evasive response, this may mean that she doesn’t think you’ll still be hanging out at that point.
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  1. Carmichael says that it’s important to “be able to have honest and direct conversations about where you’re going in the future together.” [18] So, if you’re uncertain about where the two of you stand, try asking her how she feels openly, and be willing to work through any problems that come up.
  2. Practice active listening to show her that she has your full attention, and participate in the conversation to show her how much it means to you. [19]
    • Face her, make eye contact, and react to what she says by nodding or adjusting your facial expressions.
    • Rephrase what she says and repeat it back to show you understand. For example: "It sounds like you feel like we aren't connecting enough emotionally anymore. I want to do whatever I can to fix that."
    • Ask questions to clarify and elaborate on what she is saying.
    • Allow her to speak without interrupting or arguing.
  3. Through honest communication you can discover the root of the problem (if one exists), and potentially figure out how to move forward. Whatever she ends up saying, it’s important to hear her out and respect her point of view.
    • She might tell you that there’s nothing wrong. In this case, ask yourself if you could have been overthinking things. If so, your next step would be to work to calm your anxiety about the relationship and try to accept that things are going well.
    • On the other hand, she may be upset about specific things that you can address to make things work . For example, she could say she wants to spend more quality time together, which is something you can fix.
    • Finally, she might say she wants to end things, and you’ll need to accept her decision. This can be tough, but at least you'll know she wasn't the one, so that you can start the healing process and find your perfect match in the future.
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    Look at the way she treats you over a long period of time. She probably isn't interested in you if she doesn't pay attention to you or make time for you.
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    If she has always been this way, then it's just who she is, someone who doesn't text much. If she used to text you more and has stopped recently, ask her what's up, as you miss her texts. She might have a good reason but if not, you will need to think about any other indicators that she might be losing interest.
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      • Be careful when testing your girlfriend for jealousy. If you flirt too overtly with someone else, then you're just giving your girlfriend a good reason to break up with you and make you look like the bad guy.
      • If it becomes clear that she has in fact lost interest, just move on. There are plenty of fish in the sea, and you're sure to find someone who really likes you and wants to be with you!
      • Try to plan surprises for her and revive the spark in your relationship. Pick her up from work, take her out to a nice dinner, and give her space when she needs it.
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      • Keep in mind that if you’re constantly testing her to see if she likes you, she may think you’re insecure and get turned off. If she hasn’t given you any reason to think she’s not into you anymore, try to just trust that your connection is solid!
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      1. ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-attraction-doctor/201603/4-ways-to-tell-whether-someone-is-into-you
      2. ↑ https://www.simplypsychology.org/signs-a-guy-likes-you-body-language.html
      3. ↑ https://www.helpguide.org/relationships/communication/nonverbal-communication
      4. ↑ http://theartofcharm.com/flirting-and-attraction/body-language-trying-tell/
      5. ↑ Chloe Carmichael, PhD. Licensed Clinical Psychologist. Expert Interview. 21 March 2023.
      6. ↑ https://www.joinonelove.org/learn/how-to-know-when-its-time-to-break-up/
      7. ↑ Alysha Jeney, MA, LMFT. Licensed Relationship Therapist. Expert Interview. 11 August 2021.
      8. ↑ Alysha Jeney, MA, LMFT. Licensed Relationship Therapist. Expert Interview. 11 August 2021.
      9. ↑ Chloe Carmichael, PhD. Licensed Clinical Psychologist. Expert Interview. 21 March 2023.
      1. ↑ Chloe Carmichael, PhD. Licensed Clinical Psychologist. Expert Interview. 21 March 2023.
      2. ↑ Chloe Carmichael, PhD. Licensed Clinical Psychologist. Expert Interview. 21 March 2023.
      3. ↑ https://www.joinonelove.org/learn/how-to-know-when-its-time-to-break-up/
      4. ↑ https://www.mindbodygreen.com/articles/healthy-jealousy-in-relationships
      5. ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/think-act-be/202211/24-signs-relationship-is-likely-end/
      6. ↑ Chloe Carmichael, PhD. Licensed Clinical Psychologist. Expert Interview. 21 March 2023.
      7. ↑ Chloe Carmichael, PhD. Licensed Clinical Psychologist. Expert Interview. 21 March 2023.
      8. ↑ Chloe Carmichael, PhD. Licensed Clinical Psychologist. Expert Interview. 21 March 2023.
      9. ↑ Chloe Carmichael, PhD. Licensed Clinical Psychologist. Expert Interview. 21 March 2023.
      10. ↑ https://ggia.berkeley.edu/practice/active_listening

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      To know if she doesn’t like you anymore, pay attention to her body language to see if crosses her arms around you or steps back when your talking, which may mean she’s no longer interested. You should also watch to see if she touches you less or stops touching you altogether, since this could mean she’s moved on. If you feel like your relationship is on the rocks, the best thing you can do is ask her how she feels. It may be difficult, but have an open discussion and listen actively to what she’s saying. That way, you can discover the root of the problem, if one exists, and determine how to fix it together. To learn how to tell if she’s interested in another guy, read on.

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